Im 16....a sleepover at my boyfriend's house?

Question

im 16 years old my mom knows im sexually active she got me on the birth control pill which i'm very good with it we don't just have s*x when we hang out...So what might be some other reasons she won't let me sleep over there

Answer 1

Shes scared he might force himself on you.  

Answer 2

because your mother may not want to be the bad parent. And dear, you are not a w***e. Not that I agree with your decisions, but others should respect you and answer the question you asked.

Why don't you just ask your mom why not?

oh, and good job on being reponsible :)

Answer 3

She may not agree with the fact that your sexually active, even if she knows. I mean honestly, you're going to have s*x with or without her permission.. right? She probably realizes this, which is why she put you on the pill, but just because she did so doesn't mean she wants her "little girl" to be having s*x.

Answer 4

You shouldnt be having s*x anyways your too young, What if you got pregnant and had a baby. you are screwed DONT BE STUPID, let your self be kid, your only 16, and your mom is dumb for even putting you on birth control. Keep Your legs Closed.

Answer 5

just because you are sexually active and your mother knows doesnt mean she is just going to say "oh yeah go ahead, sleep over your boyfriends, have s*x all night. i totally approve"

she got you on the pill so you dont get pregnant that dosent mean she is going to help to get laid

Answer 6

What the....

my parents would never allow me to sleepover my bfs house. I dont blame them. I can't believe she doesn't care your having s*x....

she should say no you cant

Answer 7

YOU ARE A MINOR, SEXUALLY ACTIVE OR NOT, YOUR STILL A MINOR. If your mom allows you to do this, she opens herself up for litigation. Stop thinking your an adult. Your not. You are bound by the constraints of the law as a minor, and you could get your mom thrown into jail. Stop asking.

It is called NO. New word, learn it.

Answer 8

Maybe she feels that if you go over there that she can't protect you from what might happen. And just because she knows your sexually active and has you on birth control still doesn't mean shes ok with it. It just means she doesn't want you to have a hard life that could come with getting pregnant at such a young age. So maybe its also her way of showing you she doesn't approve.

Answer 9

Because you are 16!

I am 16 too, and I have not had s*x with my 18 year old boyfriend that I have been with for over a year. I plan on saving myself. Sixteen is too young to be having s*x, could you imagine having to be responsible for another human life? You aren't even responsible for your own right now, your parents are! Your mother is smart for not letting you sleep over at your boyfriends. You seem to be taking advantage of her. She put you on the pill because she doesn't even want you to have s*x but she knows you won't listen so she put you on it so she doesn't kick herself in the *** if you were to get pregnant. Keep your legs closed, if your boyfriend really liked you he wouldn't need s*x. And if you liked him you wouldn't need it either.

Answer 10

Because you're 16. You shouldn't be sexually active.

Answer 11

probably because u might have s*x with his friends???????????

Answer 12

wtf 16 and sexually active?! what a w***e..

Answer 13

mabey because she dont trust him...and he might take advantage of you or you may be drinking stuff like that u never know whats going through ur moms head there moms they have there ways

Answer 14

I'm not going to call you names, but I do want you to think about what you are doing.  s*x (correction, making love) is a very special thing...make sure you always treat it that way.  

Are you planning on being with this guy forever?  

        If not, is this something you really want to be doing with multiple people over the years?  

         If yes, you should both be able to wait.

My husband and I were virgins until we got married in our mid-twenties (5 years after we had been dating).  Was it difficult to wait?  Of course it was, but it was so worth it.

Please, think about having a relationship without s*x for now.  Don't put yourself into situations where you will be more likely to have s*x (sleepover with your boyfriend).  

Answer 15

Any normal Mom or Dad would say NO... Don't think your Mom is being mean and also understand this would make your mother look bad in everyone's eyes.

Answer 16

just shutup, and do what your mom says and stop whining.

Answer 17

because she does not want you to have s*x??? even if you "say your not" she is still going to think you are. Its like giving a 5 year old matches and saying light up. shes just worried for you and your going to have the talk soon she is just figuring out what to say to you and how to approach it.

Answer 18

because it sets a bad example and would make her look like a bad parent

Answer 19

its ridiculous how people r answering calling u a w***e, this in NO way makes u a w***e! but i do agree with ur mother, i would NEVER let my 16 year old daughter stay the night with any man! she may know that u r sexually active but that does not mean she wants u to be having s*x. my parents would have NEVER let me stay over at a guys house! but when i was 15 i got pregnant and soon after i got emancipated. i am now 17 and stay the night with my boyfriend almost every night. but honestly, u have to see from her point of view. would u let ur 16 year old child stay the night with a boyfriend? only 2 more years to go and then u can do whatever u want. but for now u have to obey ur mother. good luck!

Answer 20

People need to calm themselves.  Ok just because people have s*x DOES NOT mean they are a w***e. Ok seriously if thats what you think you need to look up the ******* definition. She said she has s*x WITH HER BOYFRIEND. And she's on birthcontrol protecting herself. And the fact that her mom knows shows maturity. So yea people before you call people whores and slutts learn what the word means k? It's not like she sleeps around. And also people who say 16 is to young for s*x....you guys need to pull yourself into the generation. Teens DO have s*x and they ALWAYS have. Be thankfull because most people don't wait untill there this old and most people aern't smart about it

Anyway that's my rant

So now to answer your question. It's true that she might not want you having s*x with him but just respects your choice. My sister had a boyfriend who lives with us and she was sexually active with him around your age but my mom wouldn't say anythin because she knew that the moment she protested against it she would just run off and marry him, they broke up later and my sister learned a good lesson. And regeardless to what moms say, teens are going to make there own decesions, so my mom just avoided all the fighting and argueing there could have been. (im not saying that this will happen with you and ur bf I'm just telling you what my experience is) And another reason might just bethat it's akward that you wanna sleep over a guys house. Just simple as that. Plus I know he probably isn't a bad guy but all parents worry about what goes on when there not around. Another thing might be that she want's to stay away from the possibility that your boyfriends mom might catch you and that would make her look really bad. Like, my mom lets me do alot of things when it's just her around that she refuses to let me do/say when she has people around. Not alot of mothers are too good about other parents letting their kids have s*x, even if it's absolutly none of there business.

Anyway just ask her why calmly, don't try to fight or argue. Just ask so you understand

Hope I helped

Answer 21

Shes just worried. Its what mums do.

Answer 22

Just because you have only had s*x with just him does not mean he has only had s*x with just you.

Answer 23

Wow I can't believe people are so mean. She probably just doesn't want to sleep over there because you are only 16 and you're not suppossed to stay at boys houses but i've never had that problem with my mom, she usually lets me stay wherever

Answer 24

It's just not right.........  

Answer 25

Your mom knows about the birth control but that doesn't mean shes ok with the idea of you having s*x. She is just being safe. Remember it only takes one time of that birth control to be that 1% it doesn't work. In her eyes you will always be her little girl and even when your married with 2 kids at the age of 40 she will still hope your a virgin. And also she was young once she knows whats happens.

I think you should just keep her rule and not bug her about it. Maybe see if your boyfriend can stay the night at your house and make sure he sleeps on the couch.

And don't worry about people calling you a w***e. No matter what you do some one will still call you that...I have been with one guy since I was 16...now almost 21 and I still get called it  

Answer 26

you wont have s*x with him, but when you sleeping at his house he might abused you and use you.  Thats the reason why

Answer 27

Does his mom you two do what you do?

It's not that big of a deal, and as long as you are living under your moms roof, you need to cooperate. You only have two more years until you can get a place with your boyfriend anyway.

Answer 28

A matter of principle. She may not want your boyfriend's mom to think that she allows you to be sexually active, althought most likely your boyfriend's mom already knows everything that is going on.

By the way I'm just curious, since you are on birth control pills do you and your boyfriend use additional protection such as condoms, female condoms, etc.?

Since my answer is first in the list, I figure I should take the opportunity to take all the guns out of their holsters since what I write here will be read more frequently than the rest of the responses.

You wrote : "and i know 100% i'm the only one he's had s*x with i knew him before we started going out".

Let me just be realistic when I say that you can never know something like this 100%. Do you see out of your boyfriend's eyes? Do you talk out of his mouth? Do you know when and where he takes off his pants everytime? Unless you can answer "yes" to all of these questions you'll never know for sure where, when, and who he has s*x with, I don't have to include "why" in this situation.

There was a period in my life when I used to believe that true romance and love existed like it does in the movies, c**p like "Titanic" which will hopefully soon be box office annihilated by the "Dark Knight". Anyway, I tried to be the best boyfriend that I could, I remembered her birthday, our anniversary, I always made sure to call her after she had a big test in one of her classes, and I always showed up to all her soccer games. Looking back at it now I realize I was being too nice, and I know I was one of the best boyfriends a girl could have but my biggest mistake was that I put my complete trust in her.

I hope you realize that he brags to all his guy friends and probably his girl friends about your's and his sexually activity, how often you do it, how flexible you are, how he gets nervous when you're late on your time of the month.

For a while I was really sad after we broke up. I kept asking myself why she would do something like that. And then I realized it was simply because a better offer was thrown on the table. For all the guys reading this please listen up :

To all the guys on the planet : unless you are a Brad Pitt with a Bill Gates wallet every girl you ever date, have s*x with, or marry will always be open and receptive of new offers that are better than her boyfriend or husband. Now if you guys are married and have kids she may feel a little hesitant in just picking up and leaving but it can still happen. Relationships are like careers and job advancement, people are always looking for the bigger paycheck and the better benefits. In relationships it translates into prettier faces, firmer bodies, and higher annual salaries. I've heard all the sugarcoated Starbucks coffee house c**p about how girls are "just looking for Mr. Right, someone who will love them blah blah blah diahrrea". The reality is that they are looking for the best looking guy in the world who makes millions each year who will buy them REAL Louis Vuitton purses and listen to all their menstrual/estrogen backed complaining and whining for the rest of their lives. THAT's what they REALLY want. Unfortunately not all girls look like Jessica Alba or Angelina Jolie, yet both substandard looking girls and guys always want to date Brad Pitts and Angelina Jolies, so these substandard girls and guys will settle for who they can get, but anyone who dates them or marries them should always be ready for the chance that they might find someone better and leave you alone and not even notice ever again.

It's like the overweight girl who starts exercising and losing weight, once she loses the weight she becomes more attractive and dumps her overweight boyfriend to date someone she perceives as better, someone thinner and better looking. Or the lazy bum with no money who wins the lottery and leaves his wife for a younger, better look girl. Or the professional baseball player who leaves his team and the city that loves him for another team and audience that is willing to pay him more money.

I always paid for dinner, movie tickets, I even knew all her sizes and all the clothing stores she liked to shop at. I used to think my girlfriend and I were dating, but then I realized I was just renting her. Now does that make her a prostitute or does that just mean I was foolish? Well I say : What does it matter now? Think anybody will notice?

I hope you and your boyfriend have a good run, but please be prepared for the fact that when he goes off to college he's going to want to sleep with every girl he gets the chance to. That reminds me of my college days. After my girlfriend and I broke up I tried to keep myself busy inbetween the summer after graduation until I moved into my dorm and started studying for my bachelor's degree. I figured since I was just recovering from a broken relationship it would help me with being able to concentrate more on studying and to focus on getting the best grades and scores on my tests. Well when I moved into my dorm I was overwhelmed with the endless amount of hot looking girls everywhere. They made my ex-girlfriend look like some substandard girl next door that nobody in the neighborhood cares about. I went to a well known popular party college so the girls and their promiscuity was total overload. I became good friends with one of the guys who lived across the hall from me on my floor. This guy was just as enthusiastic as sexually hooking up with as many different girls as possible as I was, so naturally we got along very well. The funny thing was, is that he had a roommate who was just the opposite. This guy would tell everyone about his girlfriend who lived 3 states over back in his hometown. He told us that they met in junior high and started dating in high school, went to prom and all that c**p, and that they were engaged to be married. He would tell me and his roommate about his master plan for his life which involved getting his degree, getting married, buying their first house together, starting their family, it was all very Brady Bunch like to me, but I didn't want to rain on his parade so I never told him the cold hard facts that I have been telling you. Anyway, so this guy with his long distance relationship high school sweetheart refused to ever follow my hobby of sexually hooking up with as many different girls on campus as possible at any given occasion at any given moment, instead he would put of framed photographs of his girlfriend on his side of the wall in his shared dorm room and he would stare up at her photographs every night before he would go to sleep. One day he got a letter from his girlfriend, or "fiance" as he would refer to her as. In the letter she wrote that she had met another guy over a year ago and she had been cheating on him and now she had decided she wanted to get married to this other guy and not him. The letter included an invitation to their wedding and a photograph of her with the other guy. Anyway, so this guy is just completely heartbroken, I wonder what he did the moment he opened and read the letter, how he reacted, he must have clammed up and cried like that guy in that movie "The Shawshank Redemption" when he realizes he is in prison for the rest of his life, the part where he cries during his first night of being locked up behind bars. Anyway, so this guy just completely lost it, he dropped out of school and the last we heard he checked into a mental institution. We never heard from him again. The good thing is that what I learned from his unfortunate situation was to take even more advantage of my own. I continued to sexually hook up with as many different girls on campus as I could. Unless I had a big test the next day or something else planned I would never go to sleep alone. It was wonderful.

"What doesn't kill you, only makes you stranger." - Heath Ledger as the Joker in "The Dark Knight"

Answer 29

maybe because he is a boy.

parents stink sometimes

Answer 30

the fact that he's a boy.  

Answer 31

because that's whoreish