Im 17 and 7 weeks pregnant?

Question

i want to keep the baby but my boyfriend really doesn't want to be a father at the age of 17 and if i keep it i will lose him. i really don't want to lose him but i also don't want to get an abortion. what do i do ?

Answer 1

boyfriends come and go babys are for life i had my first at 17 just turned and i dont regret it for a second me and my first 2 kids dad didnt last but my sons love did hes now 18  

Answer 2

tough situation, but no one can make you get an abortion. if you boyfriend thinks he's mature enough to have s*x with you unprotected, then he needs to be responsible too it took the both of you to get pregnant so he needs to grow up and be there for you.

Answer 3

I would keep the baby. The baby will at least stay with you. Chances are if you give up the baby because the person who "fathered" the child dosen't want it, then he'll probably spit sometime in the future anyway. I hate to be so blunt, but if he can have the "fun" and not be responsible for helping out with the aftermath, then he's no type of "man" anyway. Maybe you should think about adoption. There are many mature adults out there who can't conceive and would welcome a newborn to raise.

Answer 4

have the baby dont kill it and find a new man if he isnt interested any more God will provide for you

Answer 5

Your baby had no say in the fact that you are both too young to have a child and yet an abortion will sentence your child to death. Your boyfriend may not think he's ready to be a father, but he did think he was ready for s*x. Unless he was absent in biology class...most of us know that s*x is tied to procreation. Every time you have s*x you have to think you might get pregnant. Now you are and there is an innocent and beautiful human being growing inside of you. Don't throw that person out as if it were just garbage. That person has it's own DNA, it is a unique human being, not a thing that you and your boyfriend own.

If you cannot afford your child or believe you are not ready, there are thousands of loving couples aching to have a child. They would be willing to give your child a good home and raise him or her in love. At the very least you should give the baby up for adoption. It is difficult but is killing it easier?

Don't worry about losing your boyfriend. If he loves you he won't insist that you kill the child you both created. If he does insist...he doesn't love you. An abortion could end up ruining your relationship anyway because you may feel resentment towards him.

Keep in mind that it is a person you carry in your womb, not an object. Right now it is growing and healthy. And if you decide to keep and take care of your child you will, without a doubt, wonder how you could have ever even considered killing him/her.

All life has purpose. You cannot know who your child is and what he or she may be some day. Don't deprive him or her of their right to life.

Answer 6

just think hun your baby will love u forever but you bf will leave you one day and u will haave 2 live with gettin rid of your baby and not havin him anyways its hard bein a single mum but im doin it and i love my lil boy could never be without him now men come and go kids are for life but do what u think is right best of luck  

Answer 7

if u lost him its doesn't matter than u kill the baby....that mean he never have a heart or feeling to the baby....tell ur parents about this n sure they r such a help

Answer 8

man, what a jack*ss! ok hon, you have two options without resorting to abortion. keep your baby and leave the kid who willingly knocked you up, or keep the idiot and give your baby to a loving family that wants a child but can't have one. i have to say tho, your b/f probably wont be around in 20 years and your kid probably would be. tough decision, next time be more careful about the people you sleep with. <3 and good luck!!

Answer 9

you have to do what you think is best. if he says he doesnt want to be a father you cant make him want to. maybe you should have a sit down with him and explain to him how much he means to you and how much you want to be together but dont force him into a decision .. just remember that you didnt get pregnant on your own :)

Answer 10

Let me first start by telling you I had my son at 17 and he is a Senior in school this year, so I know what kind of struggles come with being a teenage mom.  Whether your boyfriend wants to be a father at 17 or not he hs to face it. Have you thought about adoption?  There are great people out there that cannot become parents on their own.  I ended up married at 18 to my sons father and still am today at first he was in denial and being a father , but after seeing ultrasound pics and hearing the heartbeat he came around. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that whether he wants to be or not he is responsible and will have to take care of it.  Look into adoption they have open adoptions where you can be a part of the child's life in one way or another.  But if your choice is to keep the baby and face the struggle (which by the way are worth it) inform your boyfriend and tell him he has to take responsibility one way or another.  It was a long hard journey for me but there is not one thing I would change even the times we went without lights or food was worth it I have a great son and husband so I know things can and will work out just have faith