Im 17 and just moved in with my dad..can anyone relate?

Question

He's always so pissed @ me and I have a boyfriend and things were perfectly fine with my mom back in chicago and now my bf is moving to california where I am and i HATE IT HERE its only day 2 and my dads just going crazy..what do you do when you haven't lived with your dad EVER! how do you act?

Answer 1

just make plans and NEVER be there..Thats what I do,and Ive lived with my mum all my life...we dont get along,so thats how i deal.

Answer 2

I understand, I'm 16 and my mom just moved out, and I'm stuck here with Dad and older brother.  Granted Dad is the reason mom left, total jerk, all he does is scream and yell and is a total a*****e. I try not to tune it out. Its just awful, he doesn't let me do anything, at least when mom was here it was bearable...

Answer 3

you have to deal with it until you are 18 years old then you will get to move out to our own house!!!

Answer 4

my father raised me, so i know your pain! first of all you have to prove your maturity, sit down with him and tell him you really want to have open communication with him that "talking" is what you understand and relate to best, that you want to have a relationship with him that is based on trust and love, if you hve a problem saying this then write him a letter. tell him you want to try and make things work, but you are feeling a little lost and confused. you should establish a family night where you have dinner at least once a week but you must openly convey your feelings and he must do the same...  

Answer 5

I completely understand.  It would take hours for me to tell the whole story but it basically started with me and my mom fighting like a teenager and her mom do, i talked to my dad about it b/c i'm really sensitive. he blew everything out of proportion, basically brainwashed me into thinking my mom was crazy. i took off, lived with my dad for a few months, realized how retarded and fake he was, moved back to mom's. a trial ensued and lasted about a year. there was no hard evidence in the trial, just ridiculous hearsay my dad made up. somehow (i still believe it was because he had more money) he got custody. he's an ***, he makes my life and my sister's life miserable, won't let her move back (i'm out of here soon enough and in college so i can't really move) his derilict lazy mooching girlfriend lives with us and b****es at us non stop and makes us even more miserable.  so i know exactly how you feel. i had to be home at 9 even after i turned 18 just b/c i was too chicken **** to tell him to f off. i'm 19 now and graduate in april and once that happens and my boyfriend and i get a place together, i doubt there will be any relationship between me and my dad and my sister will probably never talk to him again either. it sux but he made it that way.

tell your dad he doesn't get to just take over your entire life all the sudden and he needs to show you some respect so you'll be able to develop a good relationship (if that's possible) and you'll respect him.  starting things out on a negative note is NOT the way to make things work.