Im 17 should i be getting married??

Question

well im 17 and i love my boyfriend so much he is like my best friend he is my world i am from corpus christi tx. but i am currently in austin tx. (he is in corpus christi) trying to finish school i am a senior 12th grade but my boyfriend is 16 and a shophmore 10th grade he just asked me to marry him and i said yes but some people are telling me im to young but i have gone threw alot in my 17 years and i am just ready to settle down i dont like to party or none of that and he dosent either so its not like we going to even miss out on that but so i think we would be so happy and it would work out but i am so confused help me please i need some advice!!

p.s

we not planning on getting married right away we want to know that we are here for each other and when the time is right we want to get married!!

<33 joel's fiance

Answer 1

Marriage is hard work! You should wait because you&#039;re so young and people grow a lot in the next several years. I don&#039;t think that people really know who they are and what they want in life until they start experiencing life. Even the early 20s people are still discovering themselves! There&#039;s nothing wrong with not being married.You have your whole life ahead of you, you can always get married later.I&#039;m not saying that you don&#039;t love him but there is a lot that will happen to you and you may not want the same things a couple years from now and it wouldn&#039;t be fair to both of you. You can still promise yourselves to each other and wait!

Answer 2

your 17 why dont yous just stay engaged and get married a few years down the track. you dont need a piece of paper to show each other how much you love each other and that you are going to be there for each other. i am 23yrs old and me and my partner have a 6yr old and a 3yr old and we are still not married, we have been engaged for years and we are very happy. we are still not planning on getting married for a few years yet.

Answer 3

Yeah you could accept his ring and yeah wait until he becomes a senior because you don&#039;t want to have a bad fight and realize you don&#039;t want to be with him anymore but then you&#039;ll be stuck. Even if you may think that may never happen it does. Just wait until he&#039;s a senior. Sure something could happen in that time but in that time you can make sure you want to be with him. If your in that much love it can wait like a year or two

Answer 4

I was concerned until I read the last of your question, where you said not now but when the time is right. I would say you are seeking what might be called a commitment to each other, that you see marriage in the future and act accordingly...but knowing when the time is right - well that&#039;s the tough part. I suspect, but do not know, that Joel will need a couple more years of experiencing growth into becoming a self-sustaining adult at which time he might be ready. I suggest, that you have not explored all that you have the potential to accomplish, but you can begin now and still keep that goal in the future...and enjoy each other in the meantime.. This caution I ask you to consider is NOT because I don&#039;t think you can make it...but with a little more worldly experience you can make it much easier. I was 19 and my wife was 18 when we married. It was tough. Learning about each other quickly so we could go to work and learn there too. I would have done better if I had a better handle on the job and could have taken more time to learn and enjoy my young wife. Give yourselves the best chance you can...work toward that goal...but wait until you have things just right and marriage will be everything you want. But not well prepared...and I don&#039;t mean loving each other...well, marriage in the beginning needs lots of patience and effort (to truly become good partners) and not being prepared...failure is a great risk. But that doesn&#039;t mean you can&#039;t love each other and talk about what you want your married life to be like and plan for it - to be prepared for success.

Answer 5

It may seem the best idea in the world to get married as you love each other so much.Just think about your ages and consider waiting quite a while.It would be foolhardy to rush in and get married straight away so the fact that you are not planning on a quick wedding is great,just be there for each other and decide later,much later,when the time is right

Answer 6

Most people who get married young, get divorced....Actually, most people who get married at any age get divorced. Get an education, get a job, travel the world, enjoy your life, you can enjoy it with whomever you like, just don&#039;t confuse puppy love for a love that will last for a lifetime. Marriage is hard work and most people who get married don&#039;t have the stamina to put the work into their relationships when the chips are down and things get tough.

Answer 7

You should really consider all the pros and cons to getting married before making the commitment. I saw this happen before at my school with a girl your age and she was engaged for about a month and then they called it off. Personally, I think you are still too young to make a commitment because you still have alot of life to live. But you do what you think will be the best for you now, and in the long run. Hope everything works out well for you.

Answer 8

Choices in life depends on how one is to decide by how they want life to be. For myself, I suggest that young people should focus on completing their education first before jumping into marriage and handling responsabilities couples will usually have to deal with. You should get a diploma or a job first to support yourselves with housing and all that as a grounding for this rite of passage, then you may, conventionally, when you are a little more older.

Answer 9

As much as you think you&#039;re ready to settle down now, it really isn&#039;t a good idea. You both are going to be going through a lot of changes once College hits and need to make decisions for yourselves. If you love someone enough, you know you&#039;re always going to be there for each other, you don&#039;t need to be married to prove it. Plus you have to throw down a lot of money to get married and you would have to get your own place. It would be awkward living with either one of your parent&#039;s houses =)

Answer 10

NO!! -  u shouldn&#039;t be getting married at such a young age, do u realize there is a whole world out there for u to explore on your own? why marry some guy when u are at school when in a few years time u will met someone who is better suited to u as your life will have changed so much since school u will no longer have much in common with this guy.

seriously, if u marry this guy now u will regret it and u will get divorced!

Answer 11

That is pretty young to be getting married. I&#039;m 17 and I can&#039;t even imagine marrying my boyfriend of 2 years yet.

It seems like he just asked out of a spur of the moment thing without even thinking about it thoroughly.

You guys can still be in love and have a great relationship without having to get married.

Talk it out together and maybe wait a few years.

Answer 12

That is a little young, especially since your bf is 16 and guys mature later than girls. You should wait and make sure you guys know each other as well as you think you do. Believe me, when you start actually living with someone your opinion of them changes along with how you feel. You discover a lot about the person you didn&#039;t know and might hate.

Also, If you get married now it will be really hard on you guys and you wont receive the proper financial aid for college.

My best advice is to wait!

Answer 13

I think you should really think about your decision, love is one thing but marriage is completely different. Really think about it and if you decide you want to, talk with your fiance about finances, family, careers, life goals, interests, love can only keep you together for so long. Just be serious and don&#039;t take it too lightly, marriage is a huge deal. I know at 17 I would not have grasped the gravity of it. You can still settle down and not be married.

Answer 14

You should get married immidiately if you have decided to have a very hard life. In other case, you will experience life bitter truths and would experience other things which are necessary to understand before have this big turn on the road of life. I suggest you to delay it for 4 years, keeping in mind all over scenerio and during this time you both would have understood eachother more than now. This will make your marriage much strong in future. Indeed, successful marriage do requires &quot;Understanding&quot; much more than just &quot;love&quot;.

Answer 15

uhmmmm.

Wait till you&#039;re out of high school at least.

Cause personally, I&#039;ve never seen a married couple on campus.

Its fine to be &quot;engaged&quot; or whatever, just face the facts:

-you still got plenty of time

-you might not make it that far.... hate to say it, you&#039;ll end up splitting up or wanting a divorce in 3 years or so.

Answer 16

Girl no you are too young to be talking about spending the rest of your life with a man.  Live awhile, be young and enjoy life so that you can know the benefits and risks of being married.  I know everything is beautiful but you two really need to explore one another in the real world and then determine whether you are ready for marriage.  Good luck and please take your time.

Answer 17

man, i got married when i was 17 but i think i was wrong to get married at this age but i was happy with my husband and and i was living the life that i dreamed of......... maybe you should go and talk to him about it.. thats what i did with my husband and we thought we were ready to get married. Now i am 3 months pregnant, getting ready for my baby to POP. well, good luck on figuring on weither you want to get married or not :)

Answer 18

I would try to think logically between the two of you. How will he support his family? Does he need to go to school for that first? if he has to go to school, maybe he can give you a promise ring..sort of pre-engagement till you both are ready for marriage and getting a new home together and of course being able to afford things to put in your new home...

Then, think about having a savings, when you live on your own, you should have minimum 3months salary saved for &quot;emergencys&quot;  there are so many things to think about. You are planning for your future, so take your time :) and enjoy.  

Answer 19

Simple answer: NO

Yes I understand you &quot;love&quot; each other, but 16 and 17 is way to young to be thinking about marriage. Wait a few years before you make the decision to get engaged. People change after high school. You may not feel the same about each other after a couple of years. Just because you are not planning to get married &quot;right away&quot; doesn&#039;t mean you have to be engaged. Just be girlfriend and boyfriend.  

Answer 20

sorry, you asked if it is good to marry your love at the agfe of seventeen and yet you said you&#039;re not planning on getting married right away....

anyway, how long do u guys have been together. if you just been on like about a month or so, get to know each other. you might get sick of each other if uv been with him for a long time.

well, if u reallly love him, im not the one to decide. Take care u 2 always. problems will come, but faced them together.

Answer 21

ur too young but reasons are not enough to hinder your love.. :) I guess its all up to both of you.. you can be husband and wife but promise urselves that you&#039;ll both finish college together and work it out till the end. Chances ul be fighting are grat (taking into consideration that ur both young) but if you really love each other, nothing can tear you down, like nathan and haley of one tree hill (although i stopped believing in such fairytale-like stories).. :)  

Answer 22

What’s going thru your head right now you are too young  you have your whole life ahead of you to get married and settle down for now be a teenager and have fun with friends and to teenage things not marriage your way to young to settle down now you want to be tied down and what you can do is limited think of what your doing marriage is a life long commitment to this one person  you no longer have that life you soon move into bigger and harder challenges as a married teen remember if this relationship was meant to be it can wait wish you the best of luck and hope the choose you make wont affect those around you.

Answer 23

Maybe you should get engaged first to get to know each other and then when you can be financially independent and know for sure that you can work it out then you can get married. I don&#039;t think anything is wrong with getting married young if you&#039;re ready but you have to plan out for your future and how it&#039;s going to work out. Also you have to talk to your parents and/or families. Good Luck

Answer 24

NO!!! Try waiting 7 or 8 years until you actually know who you are and what you want. Getting married before the age of 25 is not a good idea. And the divorce rate is very high for young brides in developed countries such as ours (as opposed to third world countries where the option of getting divorced is not usually available or feasible).

Answer 25

if you arent planning on getting married for a while i can understand it.. but i think you should wait until you are both out of high school and completely ready you dont even have to ask yourself if your ready or not to be married you just know..

i think that he needs to wait more than you do, he is the one who is way to young and might be unsure..

i hope everything works out for the best for both of you and good luck

Answer 26

My parents married when they were very young, and they are still together almost 40 years later.  The problem here is that I don&#039;t believe either of you are legally old enough to get married, forget all the other arguments.  You need to at least wait until both of you are 18 before you make any decisions.  It&#039;s one thing to be engaged, but marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment.

Answer 27

Ok so this is big and i dont know much about the situation.But think if you are still in highschool.You would be the only girl in high school with a husband and that would be verry uncomcomfartable and  and it could be a lot of drama. But if you really love your boyfriend I think you should be able to wait because if you get married its not the easy going through a divorce so you might want to wait and then make your decison.But this is your life not mine i am just making a suggestion.

Answer 28

Sometimes things that seem ludicrously important now fade as you get older.

I know nothing about you or your boyfriend&#039;s maturity level so I cannot make a judgement about that.  What I can tell you is that you will change and he will change as you learn grow and explore the world around you.  Marriage should be forever.  Remember, its not what you cannot live without right now, its what you can live with in the future.

Be careful and use your head.

Answer 29

I think that you should sit down and think this through.  You said that you are seventeen and that he is sixteen, neither of you has graduated high school yet.  Dont you think that that would limit your employment opportunities just a little bit?  Better yet, do either of you have jobs and an indepenedent place to live with each other once you have married?  These are all things that you should be thinking about even before you get married, if you havent considered these questions then i think your age is irrelevant, and you need time to  analyze yourself and ask yourself if this is what you really want.  Good luck.

Answer 30

When it all boils down your going to do what your heart wants you to do. the thing is are you really ready? I mean for real marriage is not a game you are young and your education come before any guy. So I think you should go to school concentrate on that and graduate, go to college enjoy life and if you both still love each other 3to 4 years from now then I say go for it1 but I ways ask yourself is this the person I want to wake up and see for the rest of my LIFE! I mean you are young but you about to be 18 and your life really just begun. Sit down take your time and both of you think about everything and Wait on the marriage thing until your at least in college almost finished. Think about it sweetie!

Answer 31

There&#039;s nothing at all wrong with you getting married.  People say, all the time, &quot;you&#039;re toooo young,&quot; and that&#039;s BS.  Age is only a state of mind, it&#039;s the experience that counts.  I don&#039;t mean sexuality, lol, I&#039;m talking about realization of the world around you, and if you feel that you&#039;re ready, chances are, you are!  Go for it, babe.