Im 18 Pregnant And So confused :( Need Peoples Advise!?

Question

i found out i was pregnant the other day! it wasnt planned! im in a long term relationship! but i no its going to change my life drasticly my mam and bf ar behind me 100% but my mum is pushing me into have an abortion! i dont want to keep the baby but i no for a fact im going to be an emotional rek if i have an abortion! im so scared and i dont no what to do!

Answer 1

Dont do something youll regret, my family put a lot of pressure on me an abortion,but i could never get rid of the little life inside me its the most amazing thing thats ever happened to me but you should do whatever is right for you,im also 18 and it is a life changer, you need to think hard about this..x

Answer 2

Personally I don't believe in abortion.

If your bf is supportive, you and him should take the responsibilily. It's the consequence of what you did. Though unplaned, it's another life.

Yes, it's going to change your life a lot but can't say it's for worse. But make sure you will become a good mother, otherwise, you waste your own life and your baby's.

This is a big decision, so clear your head before you make any rash decision.

Answer 3

if you can cope keep the baby i had my first at 18 i worked and i was on my own until i met my husband a year later.

I knew if i had an abortion it would of destroyed me i take things to much to heart and seeing my baby on the first scan made me realize i had done the right thing keeping her,

~she is now 5 and I'm glad i kept her.

my mom is no0 longer alive and my dad is a looser so i had to rely on my self but it will work out for you hun believe me  

Answer 4

its your decision! don't let anyone push you into anything! your 18, not a child its up to you and your BF, if he is supportive then have the baby and enjoy it together, its not going to ruin your life it will just mean you will have to put things on hold for a year or two till baby is old enough to go to nursery, if you plan to go to college/uni or work. having a baby doesn't mean its the end for you, don't let these negative people cloud your mind.  you can still have a brilliant life with your man and baby! just means you will have a Little one to think of now also.

look for a place for you two to live, our bf will need to get a job and you can find some part time to help out till baby comes.

good luck!  

Answer 5

i dont know if im pro life or pro abortion.. but one thing is for sure, if you know already, that you can't give the baby a good life, then maybe the thing is to just end it already? I mean, it is a life, apsolutely, and it shouldent suffer from your actions, but maybe it's better to end it this early. I dont think giving itup for adopton is a good thing, really.. a girl i knew, she got pregnant at 15 and it was to late for her to take an abortion, so she gave it up, now the baby would have been 5 years, and she have to live with seeing kids everyday at the age of her baby, and she is always looking at kids wondering "could this be my baby?" So you should really considerthis, giving it up for adoption isnt easy either!! and you will get much more attached to the baby if you have it inside you for 9 months and take care of it to make sure it grows to be a healthy baby! but if you have an abortion you will have the baby in you for only a few weeks. So think about it, do what you think is the best for both of you.. but i have to say, people who take abortion just because they are afraid they will loose their teenage years and fun, is so unmature!  

Answer 6

so your asking strangers from the internet to tell you what to do?

its not like your a child, your 18! your in a longterm relationship - you knew by having s*x you can get pregnant.  

The fact that you are only thinking about your emotional feelings and not the fact that you will be ending the life of you and your boyfriends baby is showing that you dont realise that there IS a baby growing inside you.

at the end of the day...it IS NOT your mothers decision, she seems like a Bi*ch for pushing that on you, what a cow.

its your decision, no one elses - speak to your boyfriend,not people on the internet

Answer 7

hey rachel..

you know, im only 19.. and im TTC (trying to conceive) already.. reason? because i only have 1 year left before they would remove my ovary.. and til now i'm not yet pregnant..

i'm really happy for you cause you are already pregnant.. i hope you would think about what you'll be deciding now.. having a baby is really hard.. however, just think about it... there are a lot of women who wants to have a baby, but cannot.. including me.. and if we are in your place, we would be so proud...

as to your mom's suggestion, i think she is really a bi*ch.. think about it.. do you want your child to get into an abortion if you were on her place?! of course not! i think she is just afraid of what people may say about your family... but don't think about them.. think about you and your coming baby...

i want you to be strong... you are 18... and you can make it!!!..

a lot of women at your age does.. so do you!!! cheer up!!

Answer 8

You don't wanna keep it, and can't have an abortion. Well how about adoption? You can give the baby to a family who loves it. I think your  mother can understand that you wont have an abortion and you'll give it for adoption. In the end it is your baby, and no one has the decision except for you.

Answer 9

I know it's not the answer you're looking for, but decide for yourself.

No doubt you'll regret it if you do what one of us suggests.

Answer 10

Yah I don't think I could live with myself if I had an abortion.   There are SO many people wanting to adopt babies.. so consider that as an option if you don't want to keep it.  BUT...I can say... I was scared to death about being pregnant..and it's not nearly has horrible as I thought it would be.  If you can't talk to your mom..find someone else to talk to. Make sure you get tot he doctor ASAP and start taking prenatal vitamins.  You're really lucky that youre in a relationship. You just might hear the heartbeat for the first time and decide being pregnant ..being a mom..is not the end of the world.  

Answer 11

Well if you dont want to keep the baby, and you don't want an abortion, then your only option is to have the baby and give it up for adoption. If your relationship continues and you go on to have more kids in the future you will likely feel extremely guilty for giving your baby away though.

Answer 12

Seems like you've got critics already, but I totally understand how you feel.

Before you do anything I say research all of your options. You can either keep it and parent, keep and give it up for adoption or abort. Anything you choose you will be under emotional stress. The first time I ever got pregnant I was 21 and wasn't emotionally ready and I regret my decision on a daily basis.

I say weigh your pros and cons and in the end the decision is ultimately yours because its your body. Just ensure whatever you decide it's right for you and it's right for your situation and that you'll be able to handle it.

Being that you don't want to keep it, either consider adoption or if you want to go ahead with the abortion get couseling after because it is linked to depression.

Answer 13

Babies are gift from ABOVE, take care of it, and you will be blessed.

Good luck..

Answer 14

Please, don't have an abortion. You will regret it. How can anyone end the life of an unborn child, every child has the right to leave. Sure it was unplanned, but it's not the baby's fault!

Answer 15

you should talk to your boyfriend,and see how he feels about keeping the baby,if you think you could be a good mother then trust yourself and bring up a baby.

if you feel as tho your not ready then maybe abortation is the best option for you

its all down to how you are as a person and if you think you could cope wit bein a MUM

gd luck

Answer 16

i dont mean to be rude but you had unproitected s*x your 18 and your not a child, im 18 and 6 weeks preggers and wouldnt dream of having an abortion, you say you dont want this child? then why the h**l have unprotected s*x. your in a stable relationship and dont want your child. then think about adoption, maybe you should have a look at what happens to the baby through abortion look at some videos, click the following link. maybe it will help your decision better

Answer 17

have the baby and if so give it up! u brought it into this world with ur actions, that DOES NOT mean u have the right to take the life of an unborn child! he/she did not ask to be conceived so DON'T take it out on him..

ur 18 so ur an adult, don't have to listen to mummy anymore so don't make an excuse! i'm sry if i'm sounding mean but i'm not gonna support abortion.

i'm a new mum with NO partner! and i would have never even dreamt of giving him away let alone KILLING my son. he is my joy (cliche i know) though im not just saying it, i rly mean it. i now cleaned up my act and grew up! he is teh BEST thing to ever happen to me and no1 can replace the love i have for him, not even some man..

i'm sry but u ahve to make the RIGHT decision, if you dont want the baby than give it to someone who would give him/her a chance of life..

im telling you that i was uncertain but when i saw him i didn't want him out of my sight! and i didn't sleep all night i was so amazed!

it's a gift not a punishment.. take responsibilty..

good luck dear x