Im 18 and family wont let me move out. Ive tried talking to them. I want to move in with my fiance. Wat to do?

Question

Im tired of dealing with them. I live with grandparents cause my parents cant take care of me.... Im always busting my butt to help around the house and my brother is 30 years old and still living at home and wont do anything to help and im sick of it. Not to mention they are so controlling in everything that i do.

Answer 1

your 18 run away. what can they really do to you.

answer mine.

Answer 2

Your 18, you do not need to listen to them.  

Answer 3

You are 18 pack your stuff put it in your car and drive over to your fiances house they cannot legally stop you from going.  Keep in mind you need to get out of such an unhealthy environment anyway and while they may be mad and not talk to you for a while I am sure you can enjoy all the dysfunctional Thanksgiving and Christmas times to remind yourself why you left in the first place

Answer 4

technically because you are 18 you can pack up your personal items and leave.  

Answer 5

just move out...you're 18...you do actually have a choice now.

Answer 6

You are of age and there is nothing they can do to stop you from walking out, if that is you choice, you can move in with your fiance reguardless of what they say.

Answer 7

You are now an adult. Just leave. Although you'll have a strained relationship with your family...

Answer 8

Just do it. You dont need their permission.

Answer 9

Were I come from 18 year old is an adult and you do what you feel is best for you...

Answer 10

you are a freakin grown man and need to move on to be successful. you think marriages can last if you live with your parents. put your foot down and move out. legally you can leave any time you want. they can't do anythin about it. your holding back. the only one stopping you is you. don't take it any more.  

Answer 11

tell  them

Answer 12

first of all, you are an adult now. they are no longer in charge of you, legally, you can do whatever you want. brake it to them gently that you ARE leaving and your sorry but it isn't their decision anymore. to scared to do that? just wait untill your married, cus, obviously then you will have to move out.

Answer 13

they can't say no to you well they can but doesn't mean you have to listen to them  you are 18 now your an adult, you either just get up and leave and hope they understand .

Answer 14

Legally you're an adult and can do what you choose but a mature adult would have a plan before moving out. Some things to consider; do you have enough money, via a job, to support yourself? If not do you have another supportive relative or friend you could move in with? What if you move in with your fiance now and it doesn't work out? Worse yet, what if you have a baby and it doesn't work out? Then you're really stuck in a financial nightmare. Another option is to apply for school money, live on/off campus and get an education. Then you won't have to rely on anyone to support you. Trust me, you don't want to go from person to person for a roof over your head, especially w/a child. Education is the way, girl.  

Answer 15

You are 18, they can't stop you from moving out.  

Answer 16

Do you have a job and make enough to support yourself.  If so, check your state's law, in most cases you have a legal right to leave.

Answer 17

umm...leave? what exactly is holding you back? theyre not like nailing your door shut or anything.

as far as i know at 18 you are basically an adult, you can do whatever you want with your life

Answer 18

If you're 18 they can't stop you. Move out.

But bear in mind that you'll probably be back in about 7 months, single, broke, hungry and pregnant.

Answer 19

You're 18. You can move out.

Answer 20

They prbably just loveyou too much and want to hold on to you. GET MARRIED then move out.....done!

This is life, tell them to deal with it.

BTW don't envite your brother to the wedding, make him hang coats or something...lol

Answer 21

here's your proof that you aren't ready to move out and live the life of an adult:  you asked for permission and you fear rejection.

once you stop asking for their permission to be an adult and once you get over the fear of rejection and just live your life as you see fit, then you can move out and live with your fiance.

Understand if you do something that your parents disapprove of, they can do whatever they want--refuse to finance your lifestyle, refuse to pay for college, refuse to pay for a wedding.  That's the only way they can "punish" you for doing what they disapprove of.  But, if you are a self supporting adult, then you don't need any of  those things from them and their punishment is worthless.  They have no power over you.

I honestly doubt that they will completely reject you and no longer have anything to do with you, but if they do, then you're better off without them because anyone who is THAT involved with their grown children's lives is not in a healthy place mentally or emotionally.

If you are grown up enough to move in with your fiance, then you are grown up enough to just pack your stuff and go without asking for permission first.  If you have to ask for approval first then you aren't ready to be a grown up yet.

Answer 22

well...if you try and say mybe that you might want to have a family and you can't do it at your grandparents house.

Answer 23

If you're 18 then there is nothing they can do...just pack up and take off.

Answer 24

Since you are 18, you are considered a legal adult. You do not need anyones permission to move out.

Answer 25

on a legal level, they cant force you to stay once youre 16+. if you want to leave, pack your Sh*t and Go!

Answer 26

It sounds like you've made up your mind to move out.  Make your plans,  then tell your grandparents that you want to sit down and talk.  Explain how you're going to take care of yourself, where you going to live, how you're going to earn money to support yourself, and why you're making this move. (The fiance! ) Be honest. But also let 'em know you'll be accessible by phone or the next town, or whatever.

Act grown up, with a calm emotional tone and they may just get that you're serious and start to support your wish.  

When I was living at home after high school I used to do things that my mom didn't approve of so I would make my plans and then announce to my mom what I was going to do.  She didn't like that at all, but I knew she wasn't going to be thrilled so I just made plans (like moving out!) and then told her what I wanted.  It can be hard emotionally to have to deal with this kind of confrontation or disharmony.

Good Luck.

Answer 27

well if u have a stable job ... then move on

if u dont, then ur just setting urself up for failure becuz u wont be able to support urself or ur fiance (for which i think ur way too young to be engaged...)

and since u wont be able to support urself ... ur gonna end up needin the help of ur family n probably moving back in anyways

i suggest u keep working hard and stay with ur parents until u either have a) a good STABLE GOOD PAYING JOB that can support u and ur fiancee OR b) when u have enuff money saved up to support urselfs

gluck

Answer 28

just do it!!!

it will hurt them a little...but they cant control you all your life...you brother is lost...way lost...im sorry to say that...

but go to your fiance and be happy....they cant keep you locked up in chains...so leave..=]

good luck and dont be afraid!!!   =]

Answer 29

Have you already taken Adult Skill courses to help you get certified and find a job right away so you can move out of your grandparents ASAP?  Even if you choose to live with your fiance, both you and your fiance are still going to need to workout your relationship on how to work together to pay bills and manage your finances as a couple.

It's wonderful that a strong-willed spirit like yourself desires independence.  Hurry and develop a good buddy support system - that way, you won't be left wondering - what next?  Good Luck.

Answer 30

Call the cops and they will watch your family as you move away, they cant do anything!

Or...

Escape! :D

Answer 31

if your 18 and you live in the U.S. they can't stop you just move out it's illegal for them to try to keep you there against your will or withhold your property from you