Im 18 and have a 2 yr old son and im pregnant again.. Should i keep my baby?

Question

I am only 18 and i already have a 2 yr old.. he is the love of my life..and i do believe i take very good care of him.. but im not sure if im ready for number 2... the father does not want to keep it at all... but theres something inside of me telling me to at least consider it.. Please help..

Answer 1

yes you should definently consider  keeping the baby.  I'm not one to judge you or tell you that you shouldnt have an abortion because its your life and you are the judge of it...But I do not support abortions at all, if you don't want the baby maybe consider adoption.  My sister is a single mom and its very hard and she only has 1 daughter.  But an abortion can really mess up your young body and its also not fair to the baby!  You are an adult now and you made your choice by getting pregnant, just do the right thing! good luck mama and dont stress yourself out about it.  

Answer 2

Pleas do consider it... I'm not sure what you mean by keeping it. Abortion or Adoption?? Think long and hard before you decide. Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control but only you can decide. Good luck!

Answer 3

you should have taken birth control if you werent ready.  i would keep it if i were you, but if not there are plenty of couples looking to adopt.

Answer 4

If you could handle 1 baby, i am sure you will handle 2. think how hard it would be for you to look back and think about that life you took away. Have faith in yourself and God and i am sure you will be very happy  that you will have 2 kids. Maybe it just meant to be.Good luck. I just don't understand why people chose to critisize you here... You are already pregnant and you need help and support, not critisism and late advice about protection

Answer 5

I think u should keep ur  baby  cuz just like u said it is UR baby and if u werent ready u would use birth control or condoms but that baby doesnt have to pay the consequenses

Answer 6

You need to be honest with yourself. Why do you keep getting pregnant if you are unsure?

How are you doing with your son? Are you able to provide for him emotionally and financially? Are you ok with with this baby's father not being in the picture? Will you be able to get support from him (financially?).

If you are ready and stable and perhaps have some help or support from family, then I would have this baby. Only you can decide what is best for yourself and your son. Raising 2 kids can be tough at times with 2 people, but if you had support that would work too.

Talk to someone who is impartial and whom you can trust with your worries.

Best of luck with whatever you decide, and please look into birth control if you are unsure as to whether or not you want more children.

Answer 7

The best advise i can give you is to do what you think would be best for you, your son and your unborn baby.  Where will this baby have the best life?  I had to think about those things when pregnant with my son.  I thought about how mine and my sons life would be five years down the road if i would give him up for adoption and then again if i kept him.  I desided that my son would have a better life with me and not once have i regreted that decision.  As for having to be on wic and him on medicaid....those programs are out there for people like me who did there best to not get pregnant (i was with my boyfriend for six months and took my birthcontrol religiosly) but it still happend....plus, i will more than pay that money back in taxes.  I hope this helped.

Answer 8

If you could handle a pregnancy at 16, then you should be able to handle it now.

Answer 9

If there is any doubt in your mind about having an abortion, then don't do it because you will never get over it.

Answer 10

To put it simply, the world does not need another product of your stupidity. You've been extremely idiotic in your decisions and whether you choose to accept that or not, you know it's true. You need to take responisiblity for what you've done and go from there.  

Answer 11

I think you should keep the baby because I don't believe in abortion. But you are 18 years old, if you know you don't want to have children, why do you keep having s*x? Stop or get some kind of protection besides condoms. Keep your baby, you and the father were mature enough to have s*x, so be mature enough to face the consequences.

Answer 12

I know that its hard to be young and a mother. But I am going to tell you that babies are one of the biggest blessings. I am not going to judge or nothing, but you are a mother already...you have that motherly instinct.

Follow your heart. And discuss it with that father of that baby. Even though he doesn't want to keep it, tell him how you feel about it.

Hey I have 2 kids that's not even a year a part. So when my daughter was 3 months, I got pregnant again. Now, I have my daughter who just turn 1 and a newborn PLUS my husband is deployed and wont be back til my son turns 8 months. My mother died, I dont got much help...

But this isnt about me, but girl, think it through you know how you feel!!!

Answer 13

After having one child as a teen, why didnt you protect yourself against having another??? I can never understand this.  In this day and age, all females should know to protect themselves against pregnancy.  Yet there sure are alot of you out there getting pregnant.  I think you should give it up for adoption and give it to a real couple who would love to have a child, who can afford a child to raise.  Not just have a mom on welfare for the rest of their life.  

Answer 14

P R O T E C T I O N ... Good grief.

Answer 15

I think you just need to stop having s*x.