Im 18 and my boyfriend is 22 is this wrong?

Question

my parents pretend to like him when he's around and yet when he's not with me my parents bash him behind his back in front of me what should i do?

Answer 1

The age difference isn't that bad, but h**l, if your parents don't like him its better they let him know than bash him behind his back, then they can talk it out.

Answer 2

Does he have a job? Is he in school? Does he have money? Is he good looking?

If the answer is no to all of these. Then I can see why your parents bash him. They should. He's a loser.

Answer 3

Nope! I'm 16 and my b/f is 22

Answer 4

Get new parents.

Sometime it's when things like this happen, you get a chance to see how your parents are as people.  Don't take it personally, they probably talk S%^T about others behind their back too.  You are definately coming into an age where you will start to see, not only your mom and dad, but other family elders as they are as people.  Their personalities, their beliefs, their ideas.  

You are 18 years old, leagally an adult, so you can see whomever you like! 4 years older is not a huge difference! My husband is 8 years older then me, so 4 is nothing!  Men at 22 or just like women at 18 anyway! :-)

If he cares for you and treats YOU with respect, then don't listen to anyone who says anything negative!  IF you sence there is something not right with your relationship, and your parents point out valid things, then you may want to listen to them a little.

Answer 5

i dont think so your both legal

Answer 6

The age is not really a problem, I have known people date who were 6 years apart. maybe you should ask your parents why they dont like him, if they say age, ask if it could be anyhting else.

Answer 7

it is not that big of a age difference but some would that it is wrong but wat the h**l it doesnt bother me

Answer 8

no major age gap, you're fine together when it comes to age. SO IF That's your parents problem then who cares about them. As long as you like the Boy go continue seeing him.

Answer 9

No you are both adults...talk to your family, tell them that you really like him and you dont appreciate it when they talk about him like that.  If they continue to do it just ignore them and be happy with your hunny.

Answer 10

I think your parents are being this way NOT because of the age difference, but he's of legal alcohol purchasing age and that bothers them.  They more than likely don't want to see you get taken advantage of if he decides to try to get you drunk and take advantage of you.  I have teenage daughters, so that's how I would feel in this situation.

Answer 11

umm its that bad its jus hes 22 and ur 18 ur parent might think dat hes only wit u 4 s*x and sumtimes dats not da case he might really have feelings 4 him ur 18 ur and adult now and i think u kno if its 4real or not!

Answer 12

well its legal but i think u'r parents dont like him because well hes not 18 or 19 but if u really like him u'r parents shouldn't interfere at all

Answer 13

Find an even older guy :-)

Answer 14

There is nothing wrong with that. did you hook up when he was a minor? if so then that's bad but he's an adult i feel an 18 yr old woman can make the decision to be with anyone of consenting no matter how old. tell your parents how you feel when they bash him. and ask them why they feel that way. then tell them why youre with him and that they just have to deal with it. I know from experience. things need to be talked out so that everybody understands how each other is feeling. whether good or bad. the truth can hurt but at least its honest

Answer 15

It may not be his age, but other things about him that your parents are uncomfortable with.   Four years isn't that big a difference at this age.  You are both considered young adults.

It would be a lot worse if you were 17 and he was 21.

Answer 16

sit down a talk to them, first of all them might have a point though I disagree with their method.  Listen to them and check out what they say,  For example if they say he a loser never has a job never has any money.  then you have to be truthful and see what they are saying is it right or wrong.

Maybe you should listen to them

if they can not really explain their feels they you have to  let them know where you stand and the choice you made. and ask them in a nice way to stop

Answer 17

There's nothing wrong with dating a guy that's 4 years older than you. As long as he's nice and treats you right, you're good to go. My grandparents are 15 years apart! LoL!

Answer 18

no that is not wrong because you are now consider an adult but, if you are still living under the same roof with your parents than you would have to listen to them til you move out.Or you can look at it this way when you was 15 he was 19 know what im saying.

Answer 19

The age diff is fine, as for your parents, ya need to have a little chat with them.... Tell how it makes you feel when they act like that, tell them you appreciate their concern, but that they need to let you make your own choices. He's your choice and they should be happy that you have let them in on this part of your life.

Answer 20

I think the point they want to make is that your young you have your whole life ahead of you and chances are he probably wont be the one for you... But you do need to stand firm that your an adult and you want to be treated like one, with respect, and it is certainly not respectful to talk about Him the moment he walks out of the room

Answer 21

Leave

Answer 22

Age and age difference is only relative to the law.  Emotional maturety is more to the point.  The bashing has its roots elsewhere, perhaps behavior, future, or many other conserns.  Think about the empty nest fear all parents have, they will miss their baby if you leave.  They are a part of your life and may wish to stay that way.  As a parent you want your offspring to have it better than what you had, and this sometimes means butting in where you shouldn't.  The parents should not live life through you and you need to take a stand.  But please ask yourself if this guy is the one for you before doing anything foolish.  When you are young you're prioraties are much different, try waiting until you're older and have had some time living on your own.  You might be surprised how different your life is compared to what you are thiniking now.

Answer 23

As long as you love your bf and you know the true him, dont care what your parents say about him. You are dating him, not them. And them talking about him behind his back means that he is doing something right.

Answer 24

The age difference is not too big of a difference. Maybe they don't like his personality.

Answer 25

I used the half plus seven rule ( e.g. 22 divided by 2 = 11 plus 7 = 18, which is the youngest age a 22 year old should date).  I think those two ages are not unreasonably different depending on whether you are still in high school or not.

Regarding your parents behavior...you know very well it is not right.  You at this point in your life know your parents are just people and sometimes don't always do the right thing.  The only thing you can do is make it clear that their comments hurt your feelings and ask that they stop.  If they don't you have the option of moving out.  Good luck.

Answer 26

nothing wrong with that. i've known a guy that was 28 and his gf was 16. it's pretty normal. age doesn't matter. it's about your the personality of your bf.

Answer 27

They should let both of you know how they feel, but both of you are not grown adults yet, but you are old enough to learn from your mistakes. You don't have to do what they tell you anymore... but be prepared to handle disappointments in relationships. Please, please, please, acknowledge that you are still young, and remember your parents and most people have been your age before.  Take their opinions into serious consideration!