Im 18. possibly pregnant and planning to go to college in the fall.?

Question

if i am indeed pregnant... do i go to school pregnant? stay at home pregnant? stay with boyfriend pregnant? work while im pregnant? so many options... i really want to stay in school, but that might be hard... especially b/c i would be due in april... any advice?

my boyfriend and i are the same age. going to the same college which is about three hours away from our parents.

Answer 1

When it comes to college: I would talk to an advisor and see if you can take online classes. You can do your college work at home. Not all classes you need can be offered online, but it could help you out. Also, talk to teachers and explain your situation. I'm sure they will be understanding. Maybe you could also talk to someone in administration (or even the dean of the college) and try to work out a schedule for you.

I personally think you should still go to college, if you can. It's too important, and most people who decide to take a break from college for a semester never go back, and those who decide to go to college later get too far behind and don't go.

The job part...I think it would be difficult to start working a new job at the beginning of your pregnancy....especially if you are sick frequently. You would have to miss a lot, and being a new employee that could cause some problems. You also will have to think about maternity leave while you are working a job you haven't been working very long. It could be very draining and difficult. I personally would hold off on a job for now and try to continue your education, if that's possible and you aren't having major financial issues.

I hope you can stay with your boyfriend and he can work and provide for you. It may be hard, but you can do it. I had friends who went through this when they were young and it was a struggle but they managed and are doing great now.

Good luck!! If you are pregnant...then congratulations!!! Even if it seems like it happens at the wrong time, I believe situations like this are blessings. Everything happens for a reason.

Answer 2

You say that you are "possibly pregnant". That's very vague. Why don't you find out for sure? If you're not them get down to the clinic or wherever and get yourself sorted for contraception.

Answer 3

Go on with your studies.I left them because of a pregnancy and I´ll regret it all my life.If you are pregnant and expecting the baby in April,I´m sure you can have the option of finishing the course from home if your friends give you a hand,plus you can use internet to finish your studies from home if you see you can´t go back to college.But please,do not stop studying.

Answer 4

There are different types of people in college its way different from high school. You may have classmates that are in their 30's and married w/ children. I see pregnant people all the time At my school. In one of my business classes there was a lady in there who had to be in her early 60's. You can still go to school I suggest if you can to still go to school because I'm sure it will be a lot harder when your baby is born... that is if you're indeed pregnant.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

Don't think a whole lot of strenuous work is good while preg.  Maybe school, if you're not too far in. Stay at home if you're far into preg.

Answer 6

Hi! Everything is going to work out. Don't worry about all of these questions at once. First, find out whether you're actually expecting. And if you are, congratulations!

Being pregnant is in no way a barrier to your living your life. Sure, you may throw up a lot! (I did.) But it's your life, and you only get one! So go ahead and live it.

Definitely get your education. Having a degree will improve your quality of life, not only monetarily, but also intellectually. And pace yourself in your studies. Allow yourself time to take care of yourself and your child as you pursue your degree.

You asked a good question regarding whether to stay home or go away to school. If you are expecting, you may want to attend school close to home. The support of your family will be invaluable.

Stay with your boyfriend if he's a good guy. Make sure you communicate and work out what you think will be best for the two of you and your child.

Just take one thing at a time. You do have some important decisions to make, but only cross one bridge at a time. Trust yourself. And never give up on what you want. Show your child how to live a full and happy life.

Good luck. And hang in there. :)

Answer 7

i was pregnant my whole sophmore year of college.

it was hard as h**l too, but i got through it.  but i live with my boyfriend.

if you have the baby, are you gonna move back home with your parents, if you stay at that college who is gonna take care of your baby for you?

Answer 8

you need to figure out what u want but i will tell u the upside is because u r having a baby u will be able to get a lot more grants for school. look it up. i worked and went to school while preg and my daughter is a healthy beautiful insanely smart little girl

Answer 9

bad news if you are .. about 90% of females that have children before they go to college  never make it .  A child requires a lot of time and money .. so you will not have if you go to college . Without help if your  pregnant college may not even be a option.. Yeah i paint a grim  picture , but it is a true one.. I know a lot of women that wanted to go to college but got pregnant and never make it . just to many thing changed after having a child.  Having children at a young age is a mistake many never recover from, to live out there dreams of having a career other than a mimium wadge job... that is fact not fiction.. just look around..Hown many women do you see in college and have a child...between the ages of 18-25..hmmmm

Answer 10

You go to school pregnant.

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Answer 11

hate to say your life is screwed.you need money coming in to survive. he needs to work. your education will have to wait. you should know better...safe s*x whats wrong with you.

Answer 12

school is more important that having a child. you are young. there will always be time to have children.

Answer 13

Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean that it's the end of the world. I know plenty of people who went to college pregnant and graduated. one of my closest friends came into high school pregnant and she's graduated from high school and college. So if you are pregnant, don't let that stop you from making things happen, if that is the case, you've got to make things happen so your child will make greater things happen with their life.

Answer 14

Ok, first of all go get a pregnancy test to make sure you are or you arent prego. If you are congrats and good luck. You need your education so tough it out and go to school prego while you can. It will be hard what with all the morning sickness and all but its been done before. You are going to need help with the baby if you are prego so you need someone to watch he or she. Daycare is so expensive for a newborn. You are going to need your parents. I would advise you to work .Work as long as you can during your pregnancy but take it easy. After all your going to need diapers and wipes and other things to take care of your baby and baby necessities are not cheap. A can of formula is about 25 bucks a week for the good stuff. Your boyfriend needs to work and help support his kid. If you are its not going to be easy at all. Maybe later on you can take some online classes to get you through. Hang in there kid and if you find out your not pregnant let this be a lesson to you for the future. GET ON BIRTH CONTROL!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck

Answer 15

Stay in school! You can work while pregnant and going to school. Also, for the Spring Semester you can take Online classes, so you don't have to miss a month of school. Or take the Spring semester off, and go back to summer school and so on.

Normally, if you are a single mother (which you would be considered, b/c you're not married) you can get free school because of your "financial" status.

Just remember, it's all about you and your baby, so do what you think is right for you!

Answer 16

well i am guessing going away to school would be a little hard....i would probably live with my parents or boyfriend depending on the financial situation...you can definatley stay in school...maybe try out a community college where there are many type of class options....

Answer 17

dear possibly pregnant:

first thing is to make sure you are pregnant. and if you are

and if you are content with this then go to school and enjoy

learning i am sure the school will compensate for your condition do not worry or give up your dreams because you are pregnant. so many young people today think it is the end of the world when something like this happens to them. but the truth is sometimes things happen so we must learn to adapt and overcome and deal with the situation that has been handed to us. yes it is hard to deal with something like this but in the long run you will be happy you did and you will also be a better person for doing so. so have faith in yourself and follow your dreams. and i wish you very much happiness

in your life.

Answer 18

I am in the same situation and i plan to attend a college that is 45 mins away frm home...indeed it will be hard but i want my baby and a better education for myself

Answer 19

if i was you i would go to school pregnant but its really up to you. I'm glad you are still pursuing college

good luck with your baby!