Im 18 pregnant and depressed?

Question

i honestly hate my baby father he did me so wrong during this pregnancy and everyone saying when the baby come he will be around but my thing is im not sure if i can forgive him because hes crazy and disrespectful he told me if he come to the hospital he gone bring some girls up there with him and i swear i never did anything to him . all this thats going on right make me sad and very emotional

Answer 1

Don't get stressed! It's not good for you or your baby. If he's going to treat you like that, don't even tell him when you go into labor. And if he happens to find out that you're at the hospital, make him wait in the waiting room. You don't need him. Be strong for you and your baby.  

Answer 2

You don't even have to tell him when you go into labor if he is going to be like that. He can find out after you bring the baby home. You don't need him! Make him pay child support and move on with your life with your baby. Good Luck and try not to be depressed! its not good for you or the baby.

Answer 3

Well first of all he's a a**hole. You don't need to tell him when your going in to have the baby. He can come after or maybe when you bring the baby home. You shouldn't really stress or be depressed. This should be a happy time for you and it is also not good for the baby.No one deserves the things you described he is doing to them whether they are pregnant or not but just be strong and let him see that he is not getting to you and your going to be just  fine with or without him. He likes seeing you like this and that is why he continues to do it. I wish you the best of luck hun and be happy =]  

Answer 4

Love your name by the way! ;) I think you just need to concentrate on you and your baby right now. If he wants to be a child and not be mature in this kind of situation, you might be better off without him. Do you want to raise your child with a crazy disrespectful father? Read books on birth and babies and get into the mood of baby stuff. It will work out the way it's meant to.

You will feel things more strongly now that you are pregnant, most but not all women do. Give yourself a break and know that you are right in feeling ticked when he says lame c**p to you about other girls. He's lucky he's not mine...

Answer 5

Just hang in there hun. its not good for the baby for you to be depressed. As for the guy, I know hes the dad and all, but obviously hes not ready for this, hes a butthead. If you did nothing wrong then he has a lot of growing up to do. I bet he does all that growing up after he sees the beautiful baby you two brought into the world. Dont think the bad things or the bad things will happen. Everything will be ok. good luck. stop being depressed. lol. At least tell your doctor your depressed. the childs development is affected by depression.  

Answer 6

What a jerk!!! As if pregnancy wasnt difficult enough ,,,

why would you want him at the hospital fu*king with you when you will be in such an emo stage ...

imagine the pain you will be in and then having a sarcastic a$$hole there taunting you and making you feel crumby ...

I havent been in labor yet but I know that I want my husband to be supportive and positive and tell me how much he loves me and make me feel good (eventhough I will probably hate everyone at this point)

I think you should have the nurses not let him in there ... He is a jerk and he doesnt deserve to see your baby...

Let him go off with all the other girls he wants... you DONT need him!

You will find someone else who will accept you and your child :)

Good luck!!  

Answer 7

Please don't be concerned about the guy you don't want to anything to stress your baby out. When you are said and depressed your fetus can since your emotions. You will soon have a baby to take care of focus your time and energy preparing for your new baby who will love and look up to you. You don't need some immature guy causing you grief. Hopefully he will do the right thing and take care of his child. If not the court system can help you resolve that issue. If you have a network of family and friends now is the time to let them help you.

Answer 8

consult a social worker they might be able to help get financial aide and other help

Answer 9

He sucks for even SAYING stuff like that!

I think, he ought to have the right to be there, if YOU want him there, for the birth, but I also think you should surround yourself with people who will be supportive, and throw him out on his tushy if he actually does that.  Or at the very least will throw the other girls out.

Sounds like you might have to go this alone, though.  You might want to not have him there at all, and if he's really that bad a person and a negative influence in your life, you need to stand up for your rights as a human being and not allow him in your life.  If he persists, you may have to put up a restraining order (the police will do that and enforce that at no cost to you).  Now, here's the hard part.  If he continues, and refuses to comply with the law and the police DON'T keep up on it, you may have to move someplace where he won't find you.  Sounds really dramatic, and probably won't come to that, and he doesn't sound like the type who would go to too much trouble to find you, but you might want to think about that.