Im 19 and i want to have a baby so much?

Question

I have a boyfriend we have been together for 1 year and a half and i realy want to have a baby i live with him and his family and my family are across the world so im here on my own but i have his family witch take good care of me. He doesnt have a job yet but hes dad is teaching him to become a mechanic because hes dad is a truck mechanic and he can do a business after he makes a little bit of money

Answer 1

You want to have a baby so that you have a family of your own while your family is far away.  However, there are many things that must be in place before you can have a family.  

- you do not have a job that will pay you enough to pay for rent, food, baby necessities, medical coverage, etc

- you have not yet started a career of your own

- you do not have a husband

- your boyfriend may or may not be with you for any length of time as he has not made a commitment to you

- he may not want a baby or the responsibility or commitment that comes with it

- your family may not accept you if you are pregnant out of wedlock

- you have no means of support as your boyfriends family is supporting you and may not want to support him, you and a baby

Get a job and save up enough money so that you can visit your family.  You are obviously homesick and need that connection.  Decide whether you want to live there or whether you plan to return.  Figure out what you want to do with your life.  If you choose to marry this boy, be with him for a year or two before you get pregnant.   Enjoy his company before adding another to it      

Answer 2

I am 19 and I would like to have a baby but I know I am not ready right now. First I would like to get an education, get a stable job,move out of my parents house and be in a relationship with someone who is mature and responsible to take care of another human being. Just wait a few more years and try to enjoy the freedom you have right now.

Answer 3

Hey! i understand your want completely, im 20 years old, have been with my bf for a year, and i am  6 months pregnant...but me and my bf both have to work to barely squeak by!!! As much as you want a baby it would probably be best to wait till he becomes a mechanic and has a steady job, it will make everything a lot less stressfull, trust me!

also, you will probably want to live with your bf first, even tho you have family i think having him there for you while your pregnant and to raise the child is important...so id hold off a little while!  

Answer 4

Well, I am 19 too.

All I can tell you is that i wouldnt have a child at this age

The main reasons why I woudnt is because:

I want to see the world around me

I'd like to live life to the fullest and having  a child on my arm wont let

you travel or go out as you please because now you have a responsibilty.

Another reason is because nowadays

education is the key for making money

I think you should wait because If you want your child to have a good life you would work and make good money for their comfort..

also 1 year and a half is nothing

take your time mama

Answer 5

I would wait. I have two children, and I love them and would never trade them for anything, but 19 is pretty young. Times are tough right now, you don't have your own place, and he isn't' even working. Children can be very expensive....Diapers, formula, wipes, and so on. You should both try to get your own place, get jobs and try things out on your own before you decide to bring a child into the world.  

Answer 6

well you guys need a good income first a place of your own. You don't want someone else paying your way or do you?

Answer 7

uhh...he needs a job, and you two should really try getting married first.  

Answer 8

"I have his family which take good care of me"-that right there says that you're not mature enough to raise a child, you can't rely on other people to take care of you or your children (which is why so many people are on welfare, they depend on others to take care of them). Get an education, get married, get established in life. Although you may not realize it, a baby changes EVERYTHING from your finances to your relationships (not only with your significant other, but also with your famiy and friends). Trust me, a year and a half is not a long time, nor does a couple with that age and that little experience in a relationship have the maturity to properly raise another human being.  

Answer 9

Okay first off I now you have been together a year and half but when you have the stress of bills and money relationships are way different. Money is a #1 cause of divorce. So I think you should stop and think of that. Then the fact of children are expensive and with no job man it would be hard for him not being able to provide for you and a child. So if you both want a child and want both parents to stay in the picture I would do these steps.

1. Get a Job

2.Get married

3. Move out of his parents house

4.Get a stable life of how money goes and paying bills

5. Then have a child

This is not meant to be discouraging. This is natural to want a child. So Get what you want but know you should makes steps one for the child two for both you and the one you love.

Good Luck

Answer 10

This would not be a good time for you to have a kid. Like everyone else said, neither of you have the means to support yourselves let alone a baby. Everyone romanticizes having kids but no one thinks about the possibilities of having a child with a birth defect or disability. Since neither of you have jobs, then neither of you have insurance to take care of anything like that. You wouldn't even have the money to actually pay for the doctor's visits while you are pregnant or the actual delivery. When a woman gets into her last month of pregnancy she has to go to the doctor every single week. if you don't have insurance, can you imagine how much you would pay the doctor. each week? this is banking that your pregnancy has been healthy and you haven't had to go into the hospital. Get a grip, get the babies off the brain, and go to college.... both of you.

Answer 11

First get an education

Make sure baby daddy has a job

Get your own place to live

Get married

THEN think about making a baby.

btw - what exactly is your question?!

Answer 12

just hold off a little until you can get your own place and not living with his family and wait until you're both financially stable. You want to be able to buy anything your baby wants or needs right?