Im 27 years old, my biological father left my mother when she was pregnant with me, after 10 years of searchin

Question

for him , me and my mother found him, and im going to talk to him this weekend. ive never known this person, i ve always dreamt of wat i would say or ask him but now im BLANK!!! please, wat do you ask him, wat should i say ? should i ask "WAT HAPPEND?" im so blank and nervouse i dont know wat to do...

Answer 1

First of all,

I know how you feel, Pretty much the same thing happened to me only i found him when i was 18.

Second,

Dont get your hopes up, Clearly you have imagined someone who would "seem" like the perfect father figure. Sure, maybe he'll be okay, maybe he'll be some sort of shitface kinda guy.

Well That was my piece of advice to you thats it.

Dont get your hopes up...

Answer 2

Just be you and good luck.If you really want to know ask all those questions.I know I would.At least by asking you will know and by doing so you will have both sides and then you could determine the truth.  

Answer 3

I am in the same situation as you.  I have never met my biological mom until I was 17.  We met and it was really awkward, like, I didn't really believe that she was my real mother.  I mean, the person you've always been wondering about for your entire life, is now right in front of you.  Like the person above me said, don't get your hopes up.  I wish you the best.  

Answer 4

I can understand why you should be so nervous.  Perhap the best thing is to be quite honest.  Tell him that you find it hard to know what to say because he is a stranger.  Ask him to tell you something about himself so that you can get to know him.  After that it's going to be a case of seeing where the conversation leads.  I hope it goes well.  Remember - he has never been part of your life and there is no need for you to feel that you should like him or feel a need to meet him again in the future.  

Answer 5

Well, I would start by holding back that lump in ur throat, and introduce urself, then i would cry if i needed to or excuse urself to the rest room if u dont want to cry in front of him, then in a round about way just drop light hints on what u want to know, and plz ALWAYS remember there are more sides to a situation than a stop sign,,,,,,,You can just observe how he is looking at u, like if he has carring in his eyes or looks away arrogantly or looks down sad , that might help u figure him a little bit, watch his dimenor (sry cant spell this late lol) just watch his body lingo (easier said than done im sure bc of nerves)  Im sure ull do fine...... (hoped that helped!!)