Im 28, a chef and i feel so distant from alot of people

Question

im a incredibly ambitious person and have always found it hard to relate to alot of people. I have always held a management role even from a very young age ( i had shares in a restaurant at the age of 21) ( it went bust) but have always progressed from that, got more money, travelled the world etc. I have always got on better with the owners rather than the employees or my co-workers.

I find it really hard to relate to the people i work with and quite frankly find it boring to be around and socialise with them.

i dont have many friends out of work, i get on with my chefs very well.

i have developed a website to consult in hospitality, but although very qualified for the job, i feel that i will be knocked back alot for my age and young face. however my gut feeling says that this will be more fulfilling for me both socialy and professionly, if it gets off the ground. As i will be dealing with alot more people on my wave length and i will be recognised more for my talent and have provided a better avenue to meet more people that i can relate to.

do alot of people go through life finding it hard to relate to alot of people? i guess im confused, but when i follow my gut feeling things seem to work out, or i get some clarity on which way im ment to be going

thanks in advance, mike

Answer 1

It's not necessary to relate to a lot of people. You can professionally deal with people without relating to them. You don't need a vast number of friends. If you relate to upper-echelon people, that's fine. Just mix with them. IOW, accept who you are and don't worry about it.

Answer 2

Most creative people are that way.

My husband is into computers in a big way and creates configurations and programs all the time.

He has no time for idle chit-chat either.

Most better artists have been called anti-social as well and you fit more into that class.

Answer 3

Hang out with the PhD's

Answer 4

ok i am a man and know these feelings. But i looked at my self and thought ye its me man. I think i am big better then everybody and like to let everybody see that. When you think like that you will reacted like that. Start looking at yourself best way

Answer 5

My situation is pretty different but I think we have the same personal predicament. Throughout my life I've just never felt like I fitted in anywhere. I've been able to make friends now and again, but none that were long lasting. All of the people I know now I have known for the last year or so - I have no contact with people from my past whatsoever.

It's hard for me to suggest things, as I'm trying to work out my predicament as well! I know that I relate to women more than men, especially women that I've been in relationships with. I suppose the only thing I can say is that you're not alone in your predicament.