Im 37 weeks and want to have this baby. can i do anything?

Question

can i do anything and should i do anything? i dont want to do anything to hurt him but i feel like he is under the same stress and effects and depression that i am. i feel like he'd be safer out here than inside of me at this point, especially since i just received some terrible news yesterday and am grieving in the worst way.

Answer 1

i think that you would be well advised to go and talk to  your doctor about your mental state and ask him/her for their thoughts on your situation and your baby........do not do anything to make the baby come earlier then your body and baby is ready for without the advice and expertise of your doctor.....i really feel you need to talk to someone as you sound as though you aer not in a good mental state. please take good care of you and your baby, my best wishes to you

Answer 2

I'm sorry you're feeling so bad, hun, but there is really nothing that you can do to have your baby. Even the things people recommend like having s*x, walking, spicy food, etc. very seldom, if at all, actually work.

Believe it or not, it will probably be easier on you to be pregnant right now than to have your baby. Newborns require a lot of care (which I'm sure you already know) and caring for him while you are so depressed is only going to make it much more difficult.

So I'm going to tell you what all of us pregnant women hate to hear...the baby will come when he is ready, just be patient and wait. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Ok so ur now full term, your baby is obviously happy where he/she is but there are things you can do to help encourage your baby out without harming, raspberry and echinacia tea is a good one, and castor oil if all else fails and this is probably least of your worries but s*x works thats what worked for me because the sperm sends off hormones which can trigger things to start happening, i hope all goes well.

Answer 4

Your baby will come when he's ready. Unless your body is ready to go into labor and is showing signs of actual labor then nothing is going to work. You're not even past your due date yet. I know it's hard in those last few weeks but be patient.

Answer 5

I agree with the first answer. However, I know how you feel. There is really nothing you can do to put yourself in labor if that baby is not ready to come. There are a few things that I have heard can help if the baby is close: Castor oil (1-2 tbsp), foot massages, spicy food, nipple stimulation, walking downhill. By the way, I have tried all of these things with my last 2 pregnancies with no luck...

Answer 6

It should only be your doctors choice to tell you whether your baby is unsafe in your uterus. You shouldn't try to induce labor there are many risks involved with that and why would you want to put your baby through all of that? Just be patient like everyone else, your time will come soon. Best wishes.  

Answer 7

I would def try the s*x advice...I had my daughter 1 month early and she came out perfectly fine with no problems. I bet you could find abunch of stuff online just google it.. Spicy food really helps too.

Answer 8

You could try a single dose of Castor oil, a cup of raspberry leaf tea, stimulate your nipples, and have s*x.

Answer 9

Hi, I am also 37 weeks pregnant...And wish she could come now, But the truth is you could hurt your baby by making him come early.

Your baby would be very healthy and have very few if any problems when he is born if you go full term. I am not sure you can rush things. If you are under alot of stress he is too, Maybe you should talk to your doctor and get his/hers option. If your baby is under stress his heart could beat to fast or too slow..GOOD luck and I hope you find what you are looking for!!!!

Answer 10

Don't do anything.  He'll come when he's ready.  Don't rush things because if something goes wrong due to him being early, you will never forgive yourself.

Just try to stay calm and relax, reduce your stress as much as possible.  It's best for the baby.  

Having him now won't reduce your stress or make you feel better.  It will just add to the pressure.  Take your time to grieve, when the baby comes you will have a lot on your plate as it is.

Answer 11

Term is 38-42 weeks so you're not even at term yet.  Baby is better off inside of you unless your Dr. says otherwise.  For your baby's sake, you need to just relax and try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Answer 12

Don't try to do anything..

Just let that baby come out by it self...unless otherwise by your doctor..

Answer 13

Just try to relax. Accept help and just sleep, eat, and take of yourself. You can grieve, it won't hurt the baby. He is not feeling your depression. He is oblivious. And if you delivered right now you probably wouldn't be in a good state to care for him so maybe it's best he's not born yet. Let yourself recuperate a little before you add on the added stress of parenthood.

You don't want to go into labor if your body is not ready. It will take much much longer to deliver and you would be at a higher risk for c-section.

Plus 37 weeks is good but they are still at increased risks for respiratory and blood sugar issues right after birth. And unless you are absolutely sure about your dates the baby could actually be a week younger than you think. It would be in your baby's best interest to cook a little longer.

This is just the beginning of the sacrifices you will have to make for this child. I think you know in your heart you should let him be and let nature take it's course. I think you would regret it down the line otherwise.

Of course if you are feeling suicidal or extremely depressed you need to let your doctor know right away. They will ocassionally deliver early for that reason.

I'm sorry hun. I know this isnt how you imagined it.

PS- CASTOR OIL HAS A LOT OF RISKS. MOST DOCTORS CAUTION AGAINST IT FOR A REASON. MAYBE PEOPLE SHOULDN'T BE FREELY ENCOURAGING INTERVENTIONS IF THEY DON'T KNOW THE FACTS BEHIND THEM.

Answer 14

Safer?  You would cut off his constant food supply, super awesome immune system and protective barrier and call that safe.  That doesn't make any sense.  Baby will get here when he's ready.  Anytime before that, especially before 38 weeks - will put the baby at risk for under-developed lungs and increased stress and blood pressure.

Answer 15

I also am 37 weeks and can't wait for my little guy to be here. I'm sick of this pregnancy and all the cramps and body aches, but alas he's not 100% ready yet.

For those of you who don't know, full term is 37 weeks.

That being said, you are full term and your baby would be ok being born this early. However, he's better off inside you until 40 weeks. Even if your grieving and stressed. Some natural ways to start labor are:

s*x: doesn't always work (trust me)

Caster oil: ew!

Nipple Stimulation: for this to work you must do it for HOURS every day and it doesn't always work

Raspberry leaf tea (or tablets): only work if your actually in labor and having contractions

Long story short: Your just gonna have to wait until he's ready. Sorry hun.

Answer 16

you are not full term yet and need to be patient.  As for your loss - i am sorry; i lost my grandfather when i was PG with my daughter and it was difficult - but you have to think of your child right now - as difficult as that may seem.

Answer 17

try to relax and soak in a very light warm bath. Play some Enya too and try to relax. If you do want to get him out have s*x and ride on top. You can also do squats but I hear s*x is the best. Sorry for your loss...

Answer 18

I know how you feel!!! Those last weeks are very hard and seem never ending. I have a 2 year old and I am 12 weeks pregnant with my second..  I told myself "never again" remember how you felt those last few weeks... My husband and I tried everything .... I was going to have a c-section on the 30th of may ,and on the 25th after taking an hour long bath my water broke and my son was born.  All you can do is sit and wait. That doesn't mean to be miserable doing it though. Hun if you are so depressed that you are thinking of hurting yourself or the baby you need to talk to someone ASAP!!!!!!! Also think about it right now you are "free" cause in a short few weeks or sooner you will have that beautiful baby and will wish you were still pregnant... :)  enjoy being pregnant and enjoy your new baby when he comes!!!!!

I am very sorry about your loss!!!!

GOOD LUCK

Answer 19

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. You really can not induce labor at this point in your pregnancy on your own. You need to go to your OB and explain how you feel. If your depression is really severe and you are having suicidal thoughts they may decide it is best to either induce you or do a C-section. I doubt they will do it until 39 weeks unless you are really in some trouble. Please hold it together for the sake of your child and if you feel you are unable to handle being a mother get some help. There are very effective medications you can take for postpartum depression. It is unfortunate but woman with this condition that go untreated may end up doing something they regret either to themselves or to their children. Life is not going to get any easier with a new born. You may be better getting through the next few weeks and hopefully you will feel a little better before the baby comes. Good luck to you.