Im 39 and my fiance is 19 he wants to get married what should i do we love each other?

Question

he looks older than 19 and i look younger than 39 we look so good togther no one knows the age difference i love him and want to spend the rest of our lives together hes a scorpio and im a cancer we are a love match the first time we made love was in the ocean im lost for words with the age difference and confused

Answer 1

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Answer 2

You have to wonder what's wrong with a person that he/she can't relate to people of their own age bracket and have to stoop to robbing the cradle so to speak ,,,,  For the love of God you are an old woman now ,,,, You aren't that far from menopause ,,,,  Do you have any children ?,,,, If you do are they older than him ?,,,, Do you think they'd stoop so low as to call some one younger than them father or dad or even dummy  ?,,,,  You are fooling yourself if you think this 19 year old kid knows what love truly is over infatuation or lust ,,,, He just hasn't lived long enough yet to have experienced what true love is let alone be able to distinguish between love and lust ,,,,At  39 you should already know that ,,,,

I think you are trying to relive your child hood and you are using this kid to do it ,,,, There's going to come a time when he runs into some tight little chick that catches his eye and he's going to be gone ,,,, At his age it could very well happen and I think you know its entirely possible and especially so after he tires of you ,,,, While he's still growing to reach his prime you are already over the hill and well on your way to menopause ,,,, The only reason I can think of for him staying is that you are loaded financially ,,,,  

Leave the kids alone and start mixing with people in your own age bracket ,,,,  I see no future for you or him in this what so ever ,,,, Whether you like this answer or agree with it or not makes no difference ,,,, Remember you did ask the question ,,,,  //

Answer 3

Do you have children or want any in future!

Answers will depend on those questions.

Answer 4

The age difference is almost disgusting, regardless of how young you look. If you were a responsible adult, you would wait until your "boyfriend" was a little bit older, and I'm sure once he (hopefully) matures he will realize that there is more out there for him and marriage at this age is rediculous.  

Answer 5

I think that while it may not be an issue now, the 20 year age difference will be a problem later. I mean, what if he wants to attend college and go to bars and clubs and such like other young men? How are you going to feel when 20-somethings start hitting on him? And asking if you are his mother? I really think that that is too much of an age difference. Sorry for the honestly but speaking from experience, I once dated a man 11 years older than me and it did not work out at all. And we were "so in love" too. I think you'd be happier with someone your own age.

Answer 6

At this stage in your lives, you guys are at two very very different places ! I wouldn't date or marry anyone 20 years younger than me ! Too much time in between ! By the time you reach 60 he'll just be reaching 40 and still young ! Even though he may look older, he's still a 19 year old kid basically. He can't even buy liquor legally ! At 19 most men are still in that tween stage of adolescence and adulthood !

I'd think very very long and hard about marrying someone 20 years younger than me.

My rule of thumb has always been 5 years or less ! Anything past 5 years, I can't deal with !  

Answer 7

Okay people talking about the age difference as an issue you are just immature. Age has nothing to do with love. I'd wait a few years to get married though so your sure.

Answer 8

oh,come on.

Answer 9

39 with a 19 year old?  That's just not right.  You could be his mother.   A guy would be called a chld molester.

Answer 10

What could the two of you possibly have in common? You and him are in completely different stages in your lives!

Appearances have nothing to do with it.

Astrological signs have nothing to do with it.

Common sense.. he's probably just using you to get out of mommy and daddy's house, and wanting someone to take care of him.

Save yourself, and don't do this.

Answer 11

I wouldn't. Your old enough to be his mother.

Answer 12

If You & Your Fiance Don't Have A Problem With The Age Difference, Then Do For It.

Age Is Only A Number & Your Only As Young As You Feel.

Don't Worry If People Say The Age Difference Is Too Much, It's Your Life & You & Your Fiance Can Marry Whoever You Wish.

You Are Both Consenting Adults & REALLY Want To Do This, There Shouldn't Be A Problem.

=)

Good Luck & Congrats.

Answer 13

Wait a few years and then consider it.

Answer 14

expect to be hated by his family.

you and his mom should be friends, not you and him

Answer 15

Dont do it.  My wife was 20 years younger than me and it was problems after problems.  She wanted to go out and be with her friends and party.  I of course had nothing in common with them.  The sexual aspect was another part of the problems.  She would be out all night partying, and then come home about 4:00-5:00 am and want to have s*x.  It didnt happen because I had to be up in an hour to go to work.

She wanted money all the time to go play, and I had to work.

Therefore I highly advise you not to marry someone that much younger than you.