Im 39 weeks preg and my mother in-law keeps on call me and nagging me about getting my tubes tied what do i do

Question

when i first found out i was pregnate my fiance freaked out and his mother wanted me to get an abortion , but i end up having a miscarriage in aug . now im preg and due this month now she is nagging and pestering me about getting my tubes tied . i dont belive in messing with something that is not wrong with me . and i think its a true blessing to have children . she had 6 why do i have to get my self fixed . how can i confront her . when i choose to use birth control .

Answer 1

Congratulations!!

It is YOUR body! Kids are a blessing, plus, who is going to take care of the kids and raise them and do everything for them...? YOU!!! Who is the one having the baby? YOU!!! My opinion... s***w her... You do what you want to do.. plus this is something that YOU and your FIANCE/HUSBAND need to discuss, not her... I would joke with her and be like you don't want us to have any more kids, fine, then your son is going to get a vasectomy. lol!!!-- But in all honesty, don't let others tell you what to do or not do, you can decide for yourself.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

You need to just tell her plain and simple, that it is YOUR body and YOUR decision on what you do to it. Tell her that women was put on this earth for the purpose of bearing children and you're not going to ruin that because someone else wants you to. You don't have to get yourself 'fixed' unless it is something you want to do. Kudos to you for not letting someone else talk you into it. But the easiest way is to sit down with her and tell her that no matter how much or how long she nags, you are not going to do it.

Answer 3

I would politely tell her that it is up to you, your decision and your body. How does your fiance feel about her nagging you? It isnt any of her business and I can't believe he doesn't help you defend your decision . Just be polite but firm, she has no room to tell you what to do with your body.

Answer 4

Tell her your doctor wont do it.  Doctors will not tie tubes unless you have more then 2 children, your a certain age, or you have medical issues.  Then tell her to back off.

Answer 5

Tell her to F off, no one should tell you whether you can have kids or not, that is your own choice.

Answer 6

I would tell her that when im ready to stop having children then il make my choices and decissions then but as for now u dont want to and wont take advice from her regarding it... I hate in laws lol

Answer 7

Have your husband talk to her and say she's not to contact you unless she'll talk about positive, happy things. You don't need this stress.