Im 4 months pregnant and want to leave my fiance, is this wrong?

Question

Im 4 months pregnant and i want to leave him because ever since we've been together (about 2 years) we done nothing but argue. Hes always mad at me and complains about everything i do. When i told him i was pregnant he made it seem like it was all my fault. He proposed in Feb of this year but he didnt seem like he wanted to. I think the only reason he did it was because our parents thought it was wrong for us to live together and not be married. Now we live together and hes always gone constantly. he always tells me how he wish he wasnt stupid and stayed with his family and moving in with me was a mistake. I hate being with him because hes not very optimistic about life and is rude to me. I dont know if its a bad thing to leave him because of the baby and because i am christian and i know my parents will look down on it. I am not happy though and would never want to be in this relationship long term. PLEASE HELP!

-Pregnant and Confused

Answer 1

I would leave him now.  If your parents maybe understood the way he was to you, they would be more supportive.  I would go talk to them, see if they could help you out until you could get on your feet.  Do not stay with him just because you are pregnant.  This guy sounds so much like my ex husband.  After you have the baby it will only get worse.  I left my ex husband for these same reasons plus some when my daughter was 2.  Luckily she was young enough it didn't effect her much.  Do it now, and then it won't effect your babies life as much.  Also if you believe in God pray a lot, it will help.  

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your situation.  Get out while you can this cant be good for you or your baby.  If he has always been a jerk with you he aint going to change.  He may get worse after the baby is born. Good luck

Answer 3

OMG! Why would you want to stay with someone like that! Girl i would pack you things and go. Who cares if your pg your still gonna be loved and the one thing for sure is your baby will be better off. Your parents are not gonna hate you forever! Yes there is a chance that they may be "upset" for awhile but they will get over it. You are there child and love you more then you think!! Think of it this way. If you were to stay and you say that hes never home as it is, then to me i would always be thinking if he was cheating b/c he didnt really want to be with me!

Answer 4

Your answer is slapping you right in the face! Get going and get on with your life. Start concentrating on making a happy home for you and the baby. If your fiance treats you like this now, a baby will not make it any better. There are many support groups out there and unfortunately, some families can not be counted on. Your baby needs you! Grow up, move on, get independent and things sometimes have a way of working out. Remember, God helps those who help themselves.

Answer 5

If you don't want to be with a person...don't do it.  The relationship wasn't a healthy one in the first place.  It's not going to benefit any of you being in a relationship if your heart is not in it.  The baby doesn't need to be surrounded with the negativity of you two.  It doesn't benefit them.

Answer 6

i agree with everything everyone is saying so i aint going to write it  ALL out but yes.... LEAVE  him.... its only going to be bad for your child if you stay with him for the kid.... do you really want your child learning about relationships from  2 people who sound like they dont even like eachother? and even if ya ll stay together now  you will prolly end up seporated later any way.... and it will be harder on the kid if you do it later..... so do it NOW  please.........

Answer 7

Leave him!

Leave him leave him leave him.

You're worth so much more than that idiot.

If you stay with him your child will grow up in an angry household. And trust me, you don't want a messed up kid. My parents were always fighting growing up and now I have so many phobias and trust issues with everyone and I can't handle any confrontation.

Get out while you have the chance.

Answer 8

It's a long life. Do you really see yourself with this man in five years, or ten years? If the answer is no, then the best thing to do for both of you is to end the relationship. It's unfortunate that you didn't figure this out before you got pregnant, but what's done is done, and you need to make the most of your situation now.

Answer 9

i don't understand why you said yes to marrying him in the first place....but that is water under the bridge now.....no it is not wrong for you to leave him now, if thngs are not good now they are not going ot be any better once the baby comes.....do yourself and the baby a god deed and get out of the relationship now while you might still be able to be on good terms with the baby's dad so that they (dad and baby) will have a good relationship....youare still going to be the baby's parents no matter if you are married/living together so leave while there is a chance that you can still work together to be the best parents for your baby...the baby deserves that!!  all the best to you.

Answer 10

You have to look out for yourself in this life and from what I have read you SERIOUSLY need to leave him because he isn't any good for you. It will be more complicated as you are pregnant by him but not impossible. Don't worry about what other people think, just think about yourself and the new life in you. Believe me when I say you could do a LOT better and even if you don't want/can't find someone straight away you're better off on your own than with this guy. Good luck.

Answer 11

no

Answer 12

What a complete and selfish jerk.  

Leave him.  Or kick him out.  Either way, NOT an environment for you to be pregnant, OR a mother in.  Trust your instincts.  Don't want to be together?  You're better off on your own!