Im 45 and I took by force my 17 y.old daughter out of a house party tonight, She sneaked out of the house to

Question

go, when I got there 2 guys about 22 year olds came on heavy to me, I punched one onf them in the face and the other ran away. I got my daughter home kicking and screamiong.. Was I wrong or was I been over the top....?

Answer 1

Looking at it objectively, you have to weigh your actions in accordance with the law.  And in most states, you'd be charged with assault & battery if you threw the first punch.

As far as removing your daughter by force, you don't state what exactly that means, so if it was proper & reasonable, I do believe you were within your rights.  

I think if it was me, I'd bring either the police with me, or find some friends to assist, knowing I was going into hostile territory.

Answer 2

It might ruin yalls relationship but you did the right thing. Theres no telling how long shes been doing this.

Answer 3

h**l no!! good job!! my hat is off to you!!

Answer 4

Better than her getting drugged and raped, right?  

Answer 5

You done the right thing.

Answer 6

you did the right thing sir good job, your a very good good good parent:) i wish every parents were like you:) poor girl tho:P  

Answer 7

I think so! When I was 17, I thought I knew it all. My mom didn't let me do that stuff either. At 17, you think you are invincible. I didn't realize until I was much older and a mother how frightening it is to be a parent! I am dreading my daughter becoming a teen. I think more parents should be involved in their teens' lives as opposed to letting them live it up and end up getting pregnant with no prospects. That's how people end up depending on the government and the tax payers' dollar. Way to go dad!  

Answer 8

I think that you are a conscientious parent and I applaud you!  She might be angry, but she certainly will respect you.  She also has learned that you will enforce house rules.  I hope that she was embarrassed enough that she won't try it again.  I survived three teenagers and my son once snuck out too.  When I picked him up at three in the morning, he was so humiliated that he never tried it again.  All my kids turned out OK.  I'm sure that yours will too with a great dad like you.

Answer 9

My Mom would and has done the exact same thing to me...i am 15...and it didnt ruin our relationship..i mean, sure, i was mad at her, but in the end she is still my mom and i still respect her. I lost her trust after what i did, and am still gaining it back. It is hard.

I think that some parents are afriad to disciplene their kids because they are afraid that they are gonna run off....or hate them forever. I could never stay away from my mom like that, and honestly, I think that you did the right thing.....tho, if my mom does it to me again, i am not naive enough to say or think that if it happens to me again and my mom comes and drags me out, that i wont be mad, but when it is all said and done with, i know that no matter what my mom still loves me, so if u give your daughter time to cool off, it will all be all right,

Answer 10

I agree with the person that said there goes your relationship with her...

d**n, you just trashed her rep and your realtionship with her and assualted someone, was it worth it?

Answer 11

It was you chores to do with you do but if  it was me i want done that to my 17 year girl i would have give her a big talk to when see get home. Im make pay for with she done  

Answer 12

that was over the top yea she snuck out but shes growing up shes gonna do stuff like that and you got to trust her that she can take care of herself afterall shell be heading to college soon with 22yr old guys  

Answer 13

Wow, over the top for sure. You realize that a 22 year old is only 5 years older than her. It may seem like a lot but it really isn't. Unless harm was going to come to her, you were out of control and even more so that you punched one of them. I think you probably ruined the relationship with her for a long time.

Answer 14

Nope, you did the right thing.  Good daddy!  Although, the punch in the face might come back to haunt you.  She's probably over the age of consent, (it's 16 in most places), and he may not have actually been doing anything wrong.  

Answer 15

You did the right thing..

i'm only young myself, and i'd expect my mum to do that!

your only showing that you love her :)

x

Answer 16

Well there goes your relationship with her.

I hope it was worth it. She is almost an adult.

Answer 17

You did the right thing.

Answer 18

You weren't wrong but you could have handled it better. U shouldn't have punched anyone or made a scene. But taking her out of the party was the right idea.