Im Always worried and panic stricken about our unborn child, How can I stop?

Question

Im going to be a dad for the 1st time. I should be ecstatic and I am. However I cant stop worrying. I keep worrying, will it be Down Syndrome, Will it be disabled, will it be scarred, will it die... Im losing my mind. I just want it to be healthy and normal. Im not being selfish! I try to be a good person and worry god will punish me for things I have done in the past, Im terrified.

Answer 1

All your thoughts are normal. go with ur baby's mom to some of her doc visits to see for urself and ask all ur questions to the doc.

Good luck and tons of baby dust ur way!!

Answer 2

"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you and expected end. ( to give you hope) Then ye shall call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you." Jeremiah 29:11,12

    Pray to God because He has promised to hear you...and God cannot lie.

(Titus 1:2) I will pray that God will give you peace of mind and that

your baby will be healthy.

                       †   On-call Prayer Warrior   †

Answer 3

You are NORMAL!! my husband and I are first time parents too and he always worries about everything!!

I cant even put my hand over my tummy with a little pressure with out him saying "hunny, you will give him a concussion not so hard!"

He looks through all the labels on the food or candy I buy to make sure it doesnt contain RED#40...

He even read all of "what to expect when your expecting" and hilited and tagged all the things he thinks are important (I didnt even read this book all the way through)

Its great that you are so caring about your child but women have been having children for centuries and they didnt even know about the dangers till now

Dont worry ~ besides Your baby is inside your wife so even if something goes wrong (and it wont) you wont be able to do anything about it ... so just enjoy your up coming role as a father and relax! :)

Congratulations!!!!!  

Answer 4

I think most first time Dads have all the worries. We're due our first baby and we worry that things will be ok. What ever happens is meant to happen. I'm sure everything will be fine.

No matter what you will love your baby...the minute you lay eyes on it all your worries will rush out the window.

Just keep thinking of all the things you are looking forward to doing with your child.

Best of luck!!

Answer 5

The Lord does not punish us like that. He is our father, and he loves us conditionally.

Pray. Pray for blessings and health and strength for this child.

It's a relatively common fear. Don't let it eat you up.

All you can do is pray.

Answer 6

It is quite normal to worry about your child.  There is nothing anybody can say here that will reassure you.

However this is just the beginning - you will worry about you baby and any more babies you have for the rest of your life.  That is what being a parent is about...  You have to make sure your worries and anxietys do not affect your life too much and keep in check that the list of things you have mentioned you worry about are quite rare and unlikely.

Once baby is here you will feel much better but then every sneeze and sniffle will probably have you worrying about something more serious - it is all part of being a parent - through time you will learn to relax a little and get things in perspective....promise.

I also promise that the reality is much different than the fear.  If something did happen or go wrong I promise you the reality would be you will deal with it and looking back you will understand that you worried about something that in reality was no way near as bad as you thought.

Answer 7

You think your worried now? Wait till the little bugger starts walking around. Just love what you get and do your best for your family.

Answer 8

Alls you can do is pray and good luck! I am sure everything will be fine!

Answer 9

It is perfectly normal to worry about your baby.  I'd be more concerned if you weren't worried!!

My daughter is 18, I still worry about her! It's called "being a parent".  Yes, they make you worry, but they also give so much joy too.  A stressed parent makes a stressed baby.  Try to be calm for your other half!  And good luck :-)

Answer 10

To each of their own I guess. You need to calm down, worrying isnt going to do anything but make you stressed. There are tests out there to see if the baby will have down syndrome.  

Answer 11

Any is possible, but that's with everything in life.

What happens, happens and you can't stop it, you just have to go with the flow and be positive.

There are going to be a lot of things that could happen, if you let them all make you paranoid, you'll go mental!

Answer 12

You can get a test for Downs at 10 weeks and you can get the baby tested for a large number of genetic defects and disabilities.Maybe your religion is against testing the unborn child but if you and your partner want to find out, you can.

Answer 13

Do you really think that God would punish YOU by harming your innocent BABY? Because that's not the God I know.

Answer 14

well as a mum to a disabled child  i for 1 don't think god punished us he blessed us with a beautiful son  that just happens to have down syndrome  and is a very big part of are family and cud not imagin life with out him .... as 4 your worris there  is no real way to tell if your child is ok till he or she is born ..just relax and enjoy the fact you are going to be a dad

Answer 15

I know it'd easier said than done, but please just relax and try to enjoy your partner's pregnancy. the chance of something going wrong is very slim

Answer 16

This is a sign that your gonna be a great dad and its very important that you learn how to cope with the worries and stresses that come with having a child. We all go through these fears and worries while pregnant but they only change to other worries and fears when their born. :P

You are thinking about all the bad stuff, maybe try thinking about all the great stuff, all the wonderful memories that will come and what a blessing this baby will be.

Good Luck

Answer 17

stop worrying you will only worrie your other half. and thats not good if she is pregnant you need to keep her happy and positive. the more stressed she becomes the higher the risks. make sure she is taking folic acid it helps prevent things like that. good luck. and stop worrying im sure all will be fine

Answer 18

Don't worry. God doesn't exist. And even if he did and he did harm your baby as punishment... would you still believe in him? God goes around preaching love and justice... and yet you would still believe in him and his ideals if he harmed an innocent baby just to teach you a lesson?

It's natural to worry, and if something does happen (and sometimes it does) it is because of genetics or poor prenatal care and nothing else. Genetics you can't control but the prenatal care you can. Make sure your wife/gf takes good care of herself so that your conscious will be clear if anything does end up happening.

Answer 19

Okay, breathe!  You need to relax yourself!  First of all, try to remember that you can only control so much.  As the father, you have less control over things than the mother, but even she has very little control over some things regarding the health of your baby.  All you can worry about are those things over which you have control - helping the mother eat well and take care of herself mentally, emotionally, and physically; going to the doctor when you are supposed to; keeping the mother away from second-hand smoke; being supportive of the mother in any way necessary.  The rest you have to let go of or you WILL drive yourself crazy!  Secondly, of course you have concerns...you are obviously interested in your child's quality of life and your ability to parent.  Everything is going to be fine, even if it isn't perfect.  If you believe in God, I hope you believe in a loving and forgiving one, not a vengeful one.  I think that parenting will really try your ability to recognize what you can and can't control, so start practicing!  And, truly, relax.  Take a deep breath.  Share your concerns with the mother.  She may be having similar worries and your relationship with her will be strengthened by communicating about it.