Im Pro-Choice and don't understand why my sister said this...?

Question

She is Pro-Choice like myself, and her friend of 15 years has a 1 year old daughter. She got pregnant again and had an abortion. My sister ended their relationship immediately. She told me that once you have a child its over you should never have an abortion again. I dont get how my sister could be so stupid and think something like that. I have a 2 year old son and would deffniately have an abortion if I got pregnant again. Not because i dont love my son because hes my world my life my love. But because i couldnt handle it financially or emotionally. So whats your opinion everyone pro choice and pro life let me know what you think!

Answer 1

I'd have the child and give it up for adoption;

because it would be fair to let the child live,

and a couple who can't have a baby would get one.

Answer 2

Having had children, I don't know how a mother could possibly abort under any circumstances other than for health or rape.  Maybe your sister is no longer pro-choice.

Answer 3

I guess I'm a little of both. I do believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion & also that everyone can do whatever they want with their bodies, but I also believe every woman should consider adoption before even thinking about an abortion. I mean, plenty of people out there can't have children and need to adopt... & especially if you've already went through all the stress and trauma of one childbirth, why not do it again to give some other family their little miracle. But as I said ultimately, I guess it is each and every woman's own decision. I guess I just beg each and every woman to think of that kind of a choice you might have to make before have irresponsible s*x.

Answer 4

The only time I support (and this is very hard for me to say) abortion is when a woman is raped and there is absolutely no way she can deal with the consequences of the baby. That's it. All other circumstances I believe the woman has a duty to keep the child. It especially hurts me to hear of young promiscuous women who get pregnant in high school and have 3 or 4 abortions by the time they are seniors. That, to me, is one of the most horrid things in modern life.

Answer 5

I'm Pro-choice, however I am, for the most part, i agree with your sister, however ending a fifteen year relationship is a bit extreme. To say that if you were to get pregnant again you would have an abortion because you can only handle your 2 year old for the time being is like saying abortion is a viable birth control option. It's not. While I believe under some circumstances the woman should have a right to terminate an unwanted pregnancy, it is very irresponsible to abort a pregnancy because of a careless mistake. I would feel that even if a pregnancy occured despite "safe s*x," unless it was a danger to the mother to carry out the pregnancy (or the pregnancy was a result of rape), she should have the baby and have it adopted.

Answer 6

Personally, I am pro life. I think that it is very wrong to dictate if someone else gets to live or not. What if your mother had said, "I don't want this baby," and had gotten a divorce? What if she ahd never given you the chance to live? The only time I think abortion should even be consiered is if the pregnancy will put the mothers life in danger. Even then, it should be used with descretion, as we all know sum1 will try to find loopholes and find BS stuff so that abortions could happen.

Answer 7

Your sisters is obviously a strong believer against abortions.

I can sort of see where she is coming from but tbh i think its totally out of line!

she needs to mature a little bit i think, i am pro choice as i think if a 13 year old girl gets pregnant then she obviously cant give the child a life it deserves no matter how much they try they are not going to be financially stable or emotionally.

I think your sister is out of line for ending the friendship..

Answer 8

Its not very nice to get an abortion even though its your choice, and you have to live and accept that choice for as long as you live.  if you can accept the idea that you've taken a life, then go for it.  

Answer 9

I am Pro Choice as well, but with conditions.  I think that there are only three reasons a woman should be allowed to have an abortion.  

1. Rape

2. Incest

3. Severe Medical complications with either mother or child

A person having a kid and then getting pregnant again only to have an abortion shows selfishness and immaturity.  If you and your friend have kids, then you should be taking all the necessary precautions to not get pregnant again until your ready.  If it happens, that is not a reason to get an abortion.  Abortion should not be used as birth control.  the available contraceptives are work very well when used and used properly.  Especially when you combine two (The pill and the use of condoms).  I am sorry but I agree with your sister.

Answer 10

i am pro-choice but i think their should be guidelines or restrictions for getting abortions.

I don't think anyone should be able to walk into a clinic.

People should not be able to have abortions because they made a mistake or don't want the baby.

Answer 11

Personally, I'm against abortion but I believe I wasn't put on this earth to judge others. I think adoption is much better for someone who isn't ready for another child, or even their first.

Answer 12

She probably feels that way because just looking at the 1 year old daughter reminds her that the aborted baby was just that.  A real baby.

Answer 13

Have you ever thought of using birth control??  A 15yr old with a baby?  And just who is paying for this baby.  I'm sure it's coming out of my taxes.  If you can't control your breeding habits you should be sterilized.  

Answer 14

I'm not against abortionn nor am I for it. I'm catholic and it's very against my religion so if I got pregnant I would probably have the baby and give it up for adoption.

I think that if the woman is financially andemotionally stable she should have the baby because it's a life and it deserves the right to have a chance.

In her case, I think she made the right decision if she couldn't support two kids.. but she could have thought of adoption.

And like other answerer'ss are saying, why don't you people use birth control? If you don't want a baby there are ways of avoiding that!

Answer 15

Im definately pro-choice. People do not seem to understand that concept. I'm still in high-school and most of my friends are all like if you have an abortion you are killing a precious life. The truth about that situation is the "child" is not actually even a human being in early development. I believe that if the conditions are bad for the new child then having the child is worse. You would be bringing the child into a messy situation. I've seen it happen so many times at high school. Girls get pregnant. (which im not advocating, but it  does happen). and then they can't take care of there babies. and you see the children in such bad situations. Children are wonderful, im not bad mouthing kids. But bringing them into this world when it's not a time for you or them is a bad thing.

Answer 16

my opinion is that if you're just going to kill a baby either don't have s*x or use a condom! how could you be so cruel?

Answer 17

I am pro choice but only if the person has been trying to avoid getting pregnant and using contraception.

having an abortion as a fall back form of contraception is wrong i reckon.

but your sis sounds well over the top.its the womans body's choice but i had an abortion when i was younger and it messed me up...

Answer 18

you are right to each is own ,you have the right to make any choice you need to make in your own life.never let nobody take that away from you.to many people die just to have this .so good job ,keep up the good work.

Answer 19

I'm pro-choice but I don't think abortion should be used a form of birth control. So many girls have abortions now a days, instead of taking the pill or slapping the patch on their a$$. I think if a woman was raped or the child will be born with serious serious birth defects then abortion is appropriate, etc. People will do what they choose and believe what they choose no matter how moronic it may be.  

Answer 20

I'm sure I'll get thumbs down for this, but if you don't want kids, you shouldn't be sexually active and get yourself into the predicament.  If you've already got children, then choosing to have an abortion is just selfish.  Just because your son is your world doesn't mean you can't have room for another one.  If you can't handle the financial "burden" of a child, then you should find a way to handle the financial burden of birth control.

Answer 21

just use protection and you wont have to worry about an abortion.

Answer 22

I think it is up to the women!  But what is not right is if the father wants the child.  He has no legal grounds to make the mother carry the child to term.

Answer 23

Your sister doesn't get it. Obviously after you have a child, you know how much work it is. Her friend knew exactly what she was doing, and decided to have the abortion because she had too much on her plate. She doesn't have to explain herself and your sister has no business judging her decision. End of story.

Answer 24

There is no such rule that says that you can never have an abortion after having the first child.

If I were you, I would totally ignore your sister until she apologises to her friend and  restarts the friendship.

I did that when my sister made a mistake and refused to listen to the family. I ignored her for two years until she learned that we were right (about that b*****d she married) and eventually she crawled home apologising. Now we have a very good relationship.

Those of you who say you are pro-choice but then say its is with conditions - you are NOT pro choice. You do not agree with abortion at all except under certain conditions.

Thus you are in effect judging women for their actions. That is NOT pro choice. You are therefore liars and you should accept that you are actually pro life.

Pro choice means that women are allowed to make their own decisions about the pregnancy. Pro choicers do NOT put conditions on what to do with a pregnancy.

Under the law a fetus is NOT considered a human being. It does not have the same rights to life as a baby who is just 2 minutes old. The baby aged 2 minutes is covered by the law. The fetus is NOT.