Im a US citizen who wants to marry my bf who is on a toursit visa, can he stay in the US after marriage?

Question

My bf entered the US on March 2008 originally a Middle Eastern guy, came here as a tourist, as he told me he was granted 6 months stay then has to leave to his country but im really not sure if it is true as i have a feeling he is out of status already and was given less than 6 months, I recently found out that he has also been sued in his country for a crime after he left and I think he is very worried of going back home to face his sentence and trying his best to stay here. I really love him but I am not sure what to do, can he stay after we get married or can they find out that he already has a criminal background back home? I am really confused what to do. I also found out that he is also married in his country, im not sure if he divorced her or not. What is the situation for us when we get married? I have never been married to a foreigner before.

Any help please?

Thanks

Answer 1

I would urge caution.  Even if your bf was a US citizen, you just met him a few months ago, and now you want to marry him?  I know you think you love him, but be very careful, as the infatuation stage probably has not worn off, yet.

And secondly, he possibly has a criminal record, and may even be married, now.  Even if he was a US citizen, I would say hold off.

Now, considering he is a foreigner on a tourist visa, there will be intense scrutiny for years as to whether he is marrying you because he happened to fall in love on his trip, or because he wants to stay in the country.  Even when there isn't a hint of scandal, the scrutiny period lasts for years.

Fourth point to consider is that if he is married in his country, you won't be allowed to marry him, here.

His pending lawsuit (or any criminal record) further brands him as undesirable as an immigrant.

And finally, depending on his country of origin, there may be additional inquiry by homeland security.  I would not expect an easy road if he was from Iran, Syria, or Iraq, for instance.

If you wish to proceed, the next step for you is to contact Immigration and Naturalization (INS), and honestly lay out all the details.  Do not lie or try to hide any facts, such as his possible marriage in his country of origin - that will only make things worse, because they will check the accuracy of your information.

Answer 2

i would say he is usinng you for your US citizenship but considering he is from the middle east (and all countries in the middle east is wealthier and happier and better off than the US) so you don't have to worry that he is using you for citizenship. if he was from a 3rd world country i would say to be careful but you are okay.

he has to get divorced before he can marry you even if his wife is in a different country. the US court will check on that.

You can have a tourist visa for up to 6 months so yeah 6 months sounds just about right.

As for the crime that is very unlikely cause the US does check your criminal record prior to giving one a visa. If he had a pending criminal charge then they would have denied his visa. It is probably something small and since he probably never had trouble with the law before he is freaking out. I remember how panicked i was when i got my one and only speeding ticket cause i was always such a goody-two-shoes and never been pulled over by the cops for anything and i was freaking out thinking i would be in jail, etc..and i only ended up having to pay a $50 fine but it did keep me up many nights. lol. he sounds like a great guy who is stressing out cause he is not a career criminal and never been in trouble before.

my only concern is why would he want to go to the US if he has it so well over there. I would trade to be a middle eastern citizen in a heart beat. i was in Iraq for 18 months and saw first hand how happy the people are there (regardless we were illegally attacking them) My ideal country would be Qatar. Everyone there has 3 Rolls Royce in their garage and shop at Gucci and Louis Vuitton like its going out of business or something. They actually have to limit the amount people can buy in luxury stores cause factories in europe could not produce things as fast as people in the middle east is buying their products! I think the average Qatar citizen spents over $100,000 a day on shopping. lol they just so crazy rich over there that us americans wont ever understand and its not just a handful of people its the entire country. imagine an entire country as rich as Donald Trump! craziness

good luck and i'm happy for you! I hope you get the oppurtunity to travel to his homeland. I am sure you would fall in love with the Middle East as every American that travels there does.

Answer 3

Advice? yeah, don't do it! it sounds like you're being used so he can stay here.

Answer 4

BREAK IT OFF  - HE IS USING YOU - why can't you see this for yourself  - DON'T BE AN IDIOT -

Answer 5

I have to say that I agree with Roderick who made the first comment here, since he is pointing out a lot of really solid facts by what he is saying.

Marriage is far to important to all of a sudden want to get married after only knowing some one for 6 months.  It sounds as though hes NOT telling you every thing about him self.  You say that he's married in his country, but then you say that you don't even know if he's divorced.  That's a pretty important thing, some thing you have a right to know about.

Also if you were to get pregnant by him and then have his child, he could take that child back to his country you may never see your child again.  That has happened to american women before.   Also he could take you to his country and you'd be treated like their women.  You have to know that in a lot of those countries they treat their women like dirt as that is all they are to them.  I mean no disrespect to any one when I said this, but lets be honest here.  Would you be happy being made to wear clothes from head to toe such as some of these women have to wear.  He can tell you any thing that he wants to but you will never know until your there living the life.

Do not allow love to blind you to all of the important facts that you need to think about and be aware of.  He is putting all of his drama/problems upon you, like he's expecting you to fix it all for him, by marrying him.  Thats not a reason to marry some one, just becuase they are having problems.  

If you were my daughter I'd advise you to back away from this guy, I think you are only headed for trouble if you marry him.    He sounds like the kind of person who runs when things get a little sticky and maybe they are not going his way.  Remember he could do the same thing to you or maybe even worse.

Try doing this, and see what kind of reaction you get when you do, it may tell you a lot about him especially if he gets mad.  

Tell him that you prefer to wait to get married, tell him that you need more time to be certain that your doing the right thing for your self.  Tell him that you think that he should go back to his country and get all of his things cleared up, so that both of you won't have this hanging over your heads when you do get married.  Ask him point blank if he is divorced or not.  If he's not ask him why?   You have a right to know these things.  

If he gets mad about your asking him to wait to get married, then maybe that will show you if he's being straight with you and telling you the truth.  Since if he's being honest with you it shouldn't matter if you both wait or not, he will honor what your asking.  If he won't honor what your asking of him then perhaps all he's looking for is a way into this country.  He may be just attempting to scam you by marrying you.  

Really open your eyes and look before you leap!  I wish you all the best no matter what you choose to do for your self.  

Please be very honest with your self.  Listen to your self and what you have written here.  I think if you do you will already have your answer to the question that you asked.  You seem to know that you shouldn't marry this guy.  You seem to have so many doubts already.  I really think that you already know the answer to your own question, but your just not listening to your own self.

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Btw:

If he's willing to wait  and show you what that every thing is cleared up and is fine then maybe it will be alright.  I'm just saying that you should be compleatly certain before you get married to any one be they from this country or any  country.  Never allow any one to push you or rush you, as it is some thing that is way too important.  It should be some thing that is for life with one partner.   And only when you are totally certain that it is really what you want to do.  Right now you seem so uncertain of all of this.

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God Bess you.