Im a lil nervous for school? Im "new" to the school?

Question

Okay so, im going to 8th grade. :) middle school, and im new. i moved over the summer, and like didnt meet too many ppl, but i met a really nice girl.

but i dont know if i can fit into her clique, cuz its like the "japanese" clique, and i cant speak fluently, so idk if i can fit, but shez really nice to me, and shes on my soccer team. So im kinda nervous about the friends and cliques. and who to sit with at lunch!? Any tips?

Also, we dont get our schedules till monday(the first day) and i DO NOT even know the school! :( I only know front office and gym. uh oh! How can i learn the school fast and not get lost?!

And, i have to ride the bus for the first time, it is a school bus, but i dont know anyone riding on my bus. :( How can i make bus buddies?

Any other tips?!

This year im trying to be really involved with the school so ima do lots of after school activites. :)

Answer 1

Don't rely on just the one girl you met. Don't completely write her off either. If she's friendly and wants to be your friend try and incorporate her into your circle (or incorportae yourself into hers) from time to time. Become a social butterfly! Jump from clique to clique, or form your own! Since you don't know the school, this would be a perfect opprotunity to ask somebody in your first class. Then, go to you second class asking the same question, and so on throughout the day. You'll meet tons of people doing this. When you get on the bus head towards the very back, or the middle. For some reason, all the cool kids tend to gravitate towards the back of the bus. Talk to them and ask them about the school and such. Tell them you're new. I would relish in the fact that I was in after school activities. You'll meet new people and make tons of friends during these as well. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

when your get your sedludce ask for a map that might help

as for making friends have condfince and be outgoing

im in 8th grade too

hope this helps

elizabeth

Answer 3

Maybe you could use the fact that you don't know the school to help you meet people and get to know them. You can ask for help finding things, ask people about the school, etc.

Answer 4

Okay, well I had the same problem, but worse, haha, I was in the US until 7th grade, then I moved to the middle east at 8th grade (Pretty much like you, but across the world). So yeah I was really shy, I didn't know anyone.

Okay, so heres my advice to you, I know you've heard this before, but be yourself, your not gonna want to end up being the loner, shy kid, or the depressed emo if your not any of those. And if you met someone then thats great, but your not gonna want to attach to her, make other friends as well.

Sitting at lunch, well, hmm... You always go up to people that look nice and ask if you can sit here. Or you can sit somewhere else in a dark corner alone and watch as people stare at you, but you'd be going nowhere with the second one.

If you don't know the school, then well, ask people! You'll memorize the school within the first week, its not something that you should worry about, but if you haven't started school, you can always go to the school, (after school hours) and ask if you can look around to get to know the school, im sure they'd let you. But if you don't know where a certain class is, don't be afraid to ask someone, they'd help you, not everyone is mean. Most of them wouldn't mind helping. But make sure you ask before class starts so you don't just stand in the hall lost, alone and scared.

Well if your riding the bus for the first time, then well, just never sit in the back, sit in the middleish area. If theres an open seat next to someone and they seem nice, ask if anyone is sitting there, if they say yes, then either, 1, they do have a friend thats sitting there, or 2, their an a**hole. But if they say no, then sit there and kindly introduce yourself "Hi, im ____, im new to this school". Just something like that.

Now before you do anything that you think your gonna be embarrised by, like ask where a class is, think first, put yourself in their shoes, and think; if a new kid asked you where to go, would you mind? Probably not. So they probably wont either.

My last advice is to, basically be yourself like I said earlier, cause once again, you don't want to be stuck as someone your not.

Oh and another thing, people always want to know what their gonna look like in 5 years, well the answer is to look around you, you become what your friends are. Your friends are nerds, in 5 years, your going  to be a nerd. So hang out with people that you want to be like. Try not to go into the "cool crowd", because it always ends up that they never really go anywhere.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Continue to talk to her, and let things go from there. If you're a nice person, and easy to get along with, you'll probably be accepted in her group. Try not to be too shy, and also you don't need friends for everything you do. It's nice to have a bus buddy who you can rely on to save you a seat, or keep you company, but it isn't necessary. It's just a little morning trip to school. As for lunch, just ask the girl if you can sit with her, or if you can't see anyone you don't know, then just sit anywhere where you see a lot of people. Also, if you see people who looked a little confused, they probably won't mind if you try and talk to them. It won't hurt. Expect to get a little lost, but it'll ease up once you get use to the school.Just try to ask around for directions.