Im a marine girlfriend...can anyone help??

Question

my boyfriend just left me about a month ago for MCRD (Marine Corps Recruiting Depot) in san diego

i cant begin to explain how hard it is. hes not here with me and i dont have that one person that made me happy everyday, i dont have the one person that would make my days just by simply seeing or hearing from him. :[

since he left i find myself honestlly with nothing to do other than the skewl and work i was doin before he left me. i get frequesnt letter from him but its not the same. i am greatfull for the letters but for some reason they dont make me as happy as i thought they were goin to make me.

i dont knoe what to do....i cant even explain myself correctlly right now because im trying to get all my emotions out right now and there are just too many...

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can anyone relate to this or does anyone have any advise for a hurting marine girfriend??

Answer 1

Welcome to military life! Being a girlfriend or fiance is very hard as we get 0 recognition from the "powers that be" (aka the military) since we are not dependents.

You have got to learn to be independent and keep yourself busy. Once he's done boot camp he'll have 10 days leave (maybe have recruiter's assistance) and then he'll be off to SOI or his MOS school. Then there are the deployments... None of its fun but you learn to keep yourself busy.

Take some extra classes at school (cooking, dance, english, anything!), get a 2nd job, have "girls night out" once a month with a group of your girlfriends...

Keep your letters to him upbeat! While its ok to include an "I miss you" follow it up with something positive ("I can't wait to see you graduate", "You only have __ days til graduation!", "I want to do ___ when you get back", etc). Your letters to him will effect how he does and while his letters may  not make you as happy as you think they should - its communication so keep it going.

There are tons of us who have been where you are, are currently where you are, or are going to be where you are and this is the same advice I would give to any of them.

Feel free to e-mail me if you want someone to talk to.

Answer 2

I'm sure it's just as hard for him, too, but you'll get to see him soon.

Be very, very proud of him!

Answer 3

I'm joining the marines and my gf feels exactly how you do but i haven't even left yet. just don't worry everything will be alright. just look for better days til he returns ok :)

Answer 4

Of course it is hard for you but think about what he is going through.  He is away from you and does not even have control of his own life anymore.  At least you can listen to music watch TV or do whatever you feel like.  Life sucks in boot camp and I bet the thought of you is one of the only things keeping him going everyday.

Answer 5

Keep your head up and be proud.  Be proud your man is serving our country for yours and my freedom.   Support him and pray for his safety.  I know he's still in country, but there will be more hardships to come (I hate to bring that up while you are down).  Just stay busy, and keep your friends and family around.  Take this time to better yourself. (through your school or work).  He'll be back soon.

I've never had a marine in the family, but I do have several national guard members.  Around here they have a support group for the family.  Maybe at a later time you can find out if there is a support group in your area.  Socializing w/ women going through the same thing can help.  Just find someone to talk to.  

Answer 6

GET A JOB

WTF.

Answer 7

just believe in wat u two have

Answer 8

AWWW how sweet you sound like you really love him.....

I think that you should stick with it.

I think that it will only get better.

I hope the best for you.

Good Luck figuring it all out!!!

    

Answer 9

Your so called "boyfriend" is currently going thru the worst 3 months of his life.  He is being broken down mentally and physically to become an US Marine.  And during his time of need all you can do is think about yourself?  I've seen girlfriends stick by their men during deployments to Iraq which take up to 9 months not even knowing if their significant other would come back alive.  If you can't stand by him, just leave him when returns from boot.  Don't do what many girls have done before and write what we call a "Dear John" letter and dump him.  Atleast have the decency to talk to him in person and settle things.  

Answer 10

I can understand what you are going thru as I was a military wife. But if you are going to be a part of his life you need to go on and put your chin up. At least you have your friends and family nearby. He doesn't have that. You need to keep going to school and learn to spell and speak correct english. If you marry him and want a life with him there are many functions and events and an educated, mature wife always helps the career. Keep busy, work and save money for when he returns.

Answer 11

Well the way i see it you got 2 choices

1. You can show your support by sticking by him through this hard time...or

2. you can be like the other countless whores who decided to do other guys while thier hubby's were gone.

I'd go with choice number 1