Im about to do it, Im about to kill myself.?

Question

Im depressed, I want to just go jump off a cliff, I hate whats going on, I hate that I love him and he’s so ignorant, immature, and selfish, why cant he just grow up?!?!

Why cant he come home and be a family with us? We have a one year old daughter, but yet he still doesn’t want to be a family, I never asked to be a single mother, and yes surprise people we did have s*x before marriage, but along with 90 percent of the world, that’s nothing new, yes I do wish I would have waited, but I cant take it back now, he was my first love, and I still love him, why cant he just get it together?

My heart hurts, I feel like c**p, my head hurts, everything. I just I don’t know what to do?

Everything I have, I got on my own, house, car, everything, I SUPPORT US’.

He doesn’t do much, he gives me pocket change when he feels like it.

But still, I never asked for this,

If all he wanted was to get in my pants, then why lie about all these other false stories he was telling me about being together, and a family, what about that?

What about the fact that he said he’d be there for us? What about that?

Why does he still talk about wanting yet another baby, when he cant even support the one he does have?

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Answer 1

don't do that! just think about the ppl who love and need you, like your child!!  

Answer 2

Why do you listen to his words when his actions do not back up what he says. If you kill yourself over this guy, the only ones that will suffer are your children. You obviously need to hite up your standards in the type of men you pick. Once you do that, most of your troubles will be over. Just know it takes a coward to bail out by suicide, it takes a person with guts to stick it out. He is not worth it. Your whole life down the tubes because of him. Why not begin by taking control of your own life and the choices you make. Stop listening to his false promises. If you had a grown daughter and she dated a guy like this, what advice would you tell her?  

Answer 3

Wow, that sounds freakishly familar to my situation. I know exactly how it feels to be in love with someone who doesn't treat you as good as he should. I don't know all the details. So I can't say that he doesn't really love you. And I can't suggest you let him go and move on. But I really hope that you will overcome this depression. Like real quick. It's normal to be hurt by what's happening. But you need to be strong for your child. He obviously isn't going to step up. So you need to. Don't let him pull you down. When he hinders your sanity, and therefor your child's wellbeing. That must be made a big issue. What have you tried? Have you confronted him? Have you layed down expectations? I know it's hard to make yourself be blunt like that. But if he loves you, he will prove it by meeting those requirements. Every relationship is a give/take commitment. I'm willing to bet that you have jepordized other plans you had. That you have set aside things you want to do, so that you can be an adult and raise a child. Not to mention take care of him. So why isn't he giving in return?! I realize all men lie. Maybe he really did mean those things he said to you. But he just didn't realize how much effort would be involved to have a succussful relationship. It isn't something that just happens. It has to be worked on. On a daily basis. As for you...before you decide to end your life. You should end your relationship. If he is making you feel that horrible, then what the h**l do you need him for? Please be safe. And don't give up.

Answer 4

I think you need to grow up a little bit.

Do you reallly want to kill yourself?

Do you really want to leave your child with him if he's really that immature.

I think your infatuated with his 'bad boy' side. Or infatuated with the Idea of him, when he's being a 'good dad, or a good boyfriend/fiance/husband (?)'

Either way

I think you have sine serious thinking to do

You might want to go to a psychiatrist for moral support. Or find a friend, or a hotline so you can always talk to someone.

Answer 5

Call 911 and ask for help.

Answer 6

no man no matter who is worth taking your life for you have to live for your kids. kick him out and start over with your kids  

Answer 7

You thinking of taking your life over this guy is just, ( Im not trying to be a biyotch). But listen, its ridiculous.

So what happens, when you do end your life? Hmm?

You take away, a mother, a daughter, a sister a cousin-niece-aunt-friend.

He? He walks away from you, and as much as you love/hate him.

He is showing no love for you right now, none.

On top of that, not to mention the lack of responsibility he has towards his family, and being a father to his daughter.And he’s the one who will end up having custody of your daughter, because he is the father, I don’t want to start to think the environment he will have her in!

I know it hurts, it will for a long time, but focus on what you do have. Your beautiful daughter.

You take your life you take away all that you have, all that you are to someone, to those that do care about you.

If you take your life,he ends up winning, he won. You quit,  you gave up, on life,on everything, on YOUR DAUGHTER, on being all that you are.

It seems that he, is the world to you, you love him, you want him, and you cant let him go.

But you are nothing to him.im so so sorry, I KNOW, it hurts, and your probably crying reading all these remarks, but dear, it’s the TRUTH! U KNOW IT IS, I KNOW IT IS. We all do, instead of making him your whole life, and taking your life because of him,

You are someone elses whole life as well!! did you ever think of it that way?

YOUR DAUGHTERS!!

Have you ever thought of that? He’s your world, but your someone elses’.

Why not take what you have and stop chasing after something you don’t?

Keep your head up, it gets better!

Answer 8

you have a child to live for. why would he even let the thought of having another baby cross his lips? sweetheart, you deserve better than how he's treating you. cut your losses, cut him out of the picture and do what you gotta do as a woman to take care of home. there's plenty of men out there who wouldn't mind filling in his shoes. take care and good luck.

Answer 9

you are asking questions wheres theres no answer. STOP it. get control of yourself.  Ya you got f-ed over.  Im sorry. But its time to get a grip. You now are being NO better to your kids than he is. To even speak of such a thing when you have children is more selfish than his acts.

Weve all been told lies, left, abandoned.  Some people are just selfish a$$holes.  Life goes on.  

  

Answer 10

If you got all this on your own, you can obviously LIVE with out this dude.

Why would you take your own life over this guy? It makes absolutely NO sense what so ever.

Take what you made foryourself, and GO. You don't need him obviously and he's just making you miserable.

Answer 11

sweetie somtimes you just ahve to go with your heart and you'll find the right one obviously he just used you i hate to say it but you gota move on if he really cared he would show it and u deserve better  

Answer 12

Okay, you're about to kill yourself over this piece of c**p?  Why the h**l would you even say that?  You seem to be strong enough to get your own house, car, everything else...support your child without him, so what if you were intimate before marriage. Who cares if some jerk out there judges you.  You know what you are inside. Why give up your life for that piece of c**p?  He's a loser and an idiot...move forward out of this mess and focus on your daughter for God's sake.

Answer 13

so here you are willing to kill yourself over some loser, and you are willing to leave your one year old daughter behind for him to raise?  you are the supporter of you and your daugher why do you need him and i'm sorry to say this, but don't be so friggin stupid.  why should you die and then what?  that's it end of story, your daughter will NEVER EVER know her mother, is he worth it?  

Answer 14

well this is simple. You pull the trigger and your daughter grows up in foster care. Focus on her and give him a choice to step up or get the Hel* out!

Answer 15

I agree with the other answers.  I know you feel like you barely have the strength to survive but your daughter is counting on you, HE is an adult that can take care of himself.

What happens if you are gone, your daughter is left with this person as her sole provider, if you can't deal with the man how on earth is she suppsed to?

You probably don't want to hear this right now but go find yourself a Christian church, trust me it well help!!  I am not a "Bible thumper" by any means but it does put things in perspective.  A few months ago I was going through a tough time in my relationship (not quite like you though) and I got enough courage to walk into a church, I am not a regular church goer by any means.  Anyways, you will walk away feeling much better, people in there will treat you like family and they will help you.  Just try it, it may work!

Answer 16

I'm going to be honest with you. By you ending your life will make things even worse, think about your daughter. How do you think she will feel? You have your own car and house then why do you need him? What you need to do is forget about him and men in general, show your daughter and family how strong you really are. Things WILL get better, right now you are at the bottom of the roller coaster but eventually you will be at the top, have some faith.

Answer 17

please don't kill yourself, your special.

Answer 18

I know you can't see this right now, but there's an entire world out there for you ~ beyond the one you're experiencing.

You've made some mistakes, but don't make your daughter pay for them. She deserves a good mom, and she's going to need you well into her adult years.

There was a reason you were attracted to this "ignorant, immature, and selfish" guy to begin with ~ There is something unhealthy within you.

Unless you stick around and find out what that is and then make some changes in your life, you will doom your daughter to repeat your history ~ and you won't be there to help her through it . Do you want that for her?

Believe it or not, this is how things work in life.

I would advise you to seek some counseling. It's hard to change your life when you don't know where to begin. A trained professional will be able to help you.

The sooner you get started, the better. One day you will look back from your happy life to where you are now, and you will be so glad that you didn't throw your life away over a jerk.

  

Answer 19

I read the first line, and all I have to say is. God put you here for a reason and it is up to him when its time for you to go. It is not and will never be your decision. If God didnt give you a situation i promise you, its not worth fighting for, let it go and do what feels right. You will be better off without stress and drama. Someone has been exaclty where you have been before and made it throgh so if God will do it for them he will do it for you, and thats real talk.

Answer 20

Take a deep breath and really think about your options.  If you were to kill yourself what would happen with your child, your parents, your siblings?  There have been a million times in my life when I thought all hope was lost.  Let me tell you that you will always have good days and bad days but the point is to experience them.  My daughter passed away last year and I really thought I couldn't keep going.  But I'm still here and I still have good days that make my life worthwhile.  This man may be your whole world right now but I PROMISE you that it will not always be that way.  Talk with a friend or family member and take your daughter and leave.  It will be hard but the reward is SO worth it.  You are not alone and "no" you didn't ask for this but your daughter didn't ask to be born to a mother who would leave her because of relationship problems with a man.  Focus on yourself and your daughter for now.  I will pray for you.

Answer 21

when love isn't returned it hurts.

try to focus on your daughter. if you would take your life you are ruinning hers. she is innocent. if he chooses not to be involved it is his loss. you make a good, loving home for your daughter. You get your life together...him in or out.  It will all work out in time.

Look at your daughter...can you leave her?...who would love her? ...who would help her understand why her mother is gone? ...can you destroy the most precious thing you have--your daughter who loves you unconditionally and truly?

Talk to someone you trust or see your dr for help. Good luck,

Answer 22

The other person is right.  The guy isn't worth taking your life over or taking  away your daughter's mother.  Maybe try a break from your husband, go stay with family, let him know he seriously has to step up to the plate if he wants to keep you.  Maybe he just needs a wake-up call.  I would get out of the house now.  Nothing depresses me more than sitting in the house fuming at my husband, with kids screaming and fighting in the background.  Go for a long drive, go to the movies, go to the park with your baby, go talk to a friend, anything.  I wish you the best and I hope he steps up soon.

Answer 23

Denise I promise there is someone out there that would never do any of those things to you. But you need to talk with a counselor (They will take that baby away from you so fast so I suggest getting over the victim mode and STOP SAYING YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF!) You need to find out why you would take such behavior from this one man. Once you figure this out you will see that you really didn't love him at all but were having a co dependent behavior problem with him. Then after you seek help you will see things clearly and you will be able to attract real men and not  ''POOR RAISED ''  boys!

Answer 24

Suck it up.  Leave the guy, take your kid and have a happy life without him.

Answer 25

I Don't Care pretty much said everything I would have said. Your worth a lot to your daughter and your family. Their are plenty of men out there that would treat you like a queen. Who cares if he loves you. Do you love yourself and your daughter? He is a piece of c**p. Leave him and find a man who will love you.  

Answer 26

Honey it will hurt for quite a while but think of your beautiful child..she needs you and your love and most of all she is going to need to know that no matter what you will always be around for her.

And as for your ex....you are not going to like what i have to say but its the more or less the truth..he is no man, You say you support you guys... again he is no man. A SCRUB is the words that come to mind.

Dont let him charm you into having anotehr abbay when he isnt supporting the one he has with you right now and  honey..hold your head up high and say to your self im better than he is im strogner than he is and i have enough love for my child to be mum and dad.

Dont do anything rash hun the baby will suffer for it.

Answer 27

A man who makes you cry is not worth it.  Those who are worth it, will not make you cry.

You have a child to live for.  That should be your main focus and boot him to the curb and get on with your life without him.  There are many men out there who are better and I know you will find one that will turn your life upside down and for the better.

Answer 28

I think u can do better by yourself. U need to be strong and leave him, not like he'd be missed, he's never there anyway. If u r supporting your family, then he is not a man! There are sooo many good guys out there, dont think because u had a baby with him that u have to be with him.

God gave u the gift of life, why would u throw away such a beautiful gift?

U have to look through the storm to see the rainbow... =] Good luck!