Im about to explode with ny husband family, help????

Question

I live with my brother in law and his wife they have 3 baby's the older one is about to hit 4, we when to Mexico for 2 week and we just got back 2 nights ago. Now i have this problem, i have a 1year 3 months baby and well you know baby's at that age they want everything they see. Well when we were in Mexico, we were eating in the patio and my baby when up to my bothering laws wife, cause she had one of those miniature-cokes and he was going like, um- um mm. It meant that he waned, but she ignored him and he keep going that he waned so what she did was that she past the soda to my brother in law and what the A****/ did was that he put it on top of his head so my baby couldn't reach it. I grabbed the baby and took him inside and asked my husband for money to buy my baby the soda and i told him in front his mom what hat happen. I also told them both that if i was to see her doing that to my son again i would kick her ***. I will not tolerate some one doing this to my baby. The problem is that we live in the same house and I'm not comfortable being next to her after what she did, what can i do? please help me....

Answer 1

Sounds like you and your family need a place of your own.

Answer 2

Your completely over reacting. Your child shouldn't be expecting everything he wants from anyone he's around. How they handled it wasn't necessarily correct, they should have simply told him no but, your reaction to them is ridiculous. You need to recognize that everyone isn't going to give into your childs demands (and rightly so) as you obviously do. Setting some boundaries at this age is something that needs to be done so that he learns appropriate behavior. I'm not going to rail on you about the fact that you letting a baby drink soda, it's simply not an appropriate drink for a child of that age. You need to be more aware of your reactions so your child has a model of how they and others should behave.  

Answer 3

Wow, it sounds like you are really overreacting.  I'm surprised they still let you live with them, even after you threatened violence.  You have a lot of growing up to do.

Answer 4

The no 1 problem that people face in a joint family is defending their own kids. You need to see things from other's point of view, you have to understand each other too. If you start rubbing others on the wrong side, you wouldn't live happily with them. In this case, you seem to be over reacting. you should tell your baby that the coke was a no no thing and just take him away where he couldn't see the coke. Don't bear a grudge on your family members because it would make your life more miserable and you would be the one who is most unhappy. So make peace and live happily.

Answer 5

Your mad because someone didn't give you baby something because they whined?  Why would you mad about this you over reacting.  I would have done the same thing they did, you don't cave for a kid to all their wants.  Soda is a bad thing to give your kiddo also, you should have had some juice or something else for your kid, they are not responsible for your kid.  Best thing for all parties involved is for you and your family to get your own place, you live in their house and should be grateful.

Answer 6

If you are so intolerant of other people's behavior, maybe it's time you started paying your own bills and got a place of your own.

Since when does a child need to get every single thing they want? A baby does not need Coke and probably shouldn't have it anyway.

Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do yourself.

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Answer 7

Your first problem is you live in their house. You need to handle that. Second you baby has to learn that he can't have everything he see. I understand why you were upset, but I don;t think its that serious. I believe that you are tired of living with them period. But with you living in there house there isn't much you can do.

In the meantime, keep a bag of goodies for you baby so when things like this happen you will have a backup snack to distract your child. What you really need to do is move out.

Answer 8

A baby should not have soda.  I would really be glad that someone kept soda away from the baby!

Why not just give the baby water or juice with half water instead of the soda?

You can always move if you don't  like how they act.

Answer 9

i agree with mostly everyone's advice. calm down your kid doesn't need coke anyway. try to focus on getting your own place. I know it sucks when you think someone is being mean to your kid but keep it in it's proper context

Answer 10

Umm why don't you tell her that you don't feel respectful if they do that.

And if you ahve such a problem why don't you get a place of your own or crash with a friend,,