Im afraid that my 10yr old son prefers to spend more time with his dad my than he does with me?

Question

i feel as though im losing him i have 2 other boys they all treated the same so its not as if he gets left out he stayed over his dads last night after i have 2 ring and check up 2 see whats happening other wise id be left in the dark and his dad would just let me worry where hes at its like this all the time his dad has no consideration my son came home this morning and said im going out with daddy to the seaside and never asked if his other 6yr old son would like to go i dont want to say no because that would make me 2 be the bad one id like some advice please

Answer 1

hes a guy isn't he??? let him girls are comfortable with mom guys with dad? its just like the law of physics?

Answer 2

he is a boy

Answer 3

If he is the father of all your children then he should treat them all the same but if he is the father of the 10 year old only, then he has the right to take him out.  Explain to him that its not fair he gets these treats and the others don't as the other children are the ones suffering.  You could make a poing of taking the others out when the oldest is with his dad then they can say they went out also with you and not feel left out.  Try to explain to your ex the position yu are in and insist the boy rings you when he is staying over

Answer 4

I take it you don't have ground rules set?

I would not let him go, just like that, because the father needs to ask your permission.

My childrens father would not DREAM to ask the kids to do something without asking my ok first, they go every fornight weekend and thats it, if he wants to see them more often he just has to ring me and i have no problem.

you need to set the ground rules with your ex and be firm, don't worry about the bad guy thing, this is the age where they learn to play the parents off so be aware

Answer 5

Whats wrong with your kids wanting to spend time with their dad, its only natural if he's not around every day.  The only problem i see is the 6 year old not being offered to go to the seaside. Ask his dad to let you know if your sons go to his house in case you are not told by you son, and lighten up, please let your kids dad continue to be a good dad.

Answer 6

say that is great and let him go

are all the children formt he same dad?  if so phone their dad and say it is time he started having all of them.

if not htne you will have to take the other for a day out.

Answer 7

Boys normally are closer with dad than mom, because they are a lot a like. The older you get the more a like they will be. I know its hard but you really need to leave them alone and let them have there outings. Its good practice for when their teens.

Answer 8

Men can leave yous to worry about children, its just something that they dont consider. A reason that they may be closer and spending lots of time together is they your son is at the right age to take out and father/son things with. they may have alot in common. Its very normal for boys that age to be very close to there father, my brother was like about that age he wanted to do everything with dad and be with him alot. I think it is pretty normal at that age. If you had a girl it would most likly be the other way around. I suggest that you find things for you and all your sons to do together that you will all enjoy doing it may help bring you all closer together.

Answer 9

relax.  he's at his dad's.  leave him alone.