Im babysitting my neice who has severe add?

Question

any ideas to keep her occupied im seriouse she ran every body up at 6 am andhas dumped three glasses of tea torn the shower curtain spitballed my screen porch an utterly irrated the pure p**s out of my tweens shes 9 and all this is after her meds l ove her but do yall have any ideas for sweet litttle satan spawn lol

Answer 1

wach a movie or play a game

Answer 2

It sounds like she needs her meds adjusted, TODAY!  Take her outside and let her burn off some energy.  Destroying your house is not an option and should not be tolerated. Explain to her if she doesn't behave, she will have to have a time out or take something away from her that she likes. If the parents don't want to change her meds, then tell them that you can't watch her. I have a nephew like that and he is like a spinning top!  Drives us crazy after awhile, I feel for you girl.

Answer 3

Gee, maybe you should keep a better eye on her.

Answer 4

please don't call her names like that. i have ADD (i dont take medication anymore, but i did as a child). im sure you dont say things like that to her directly..but still.

your attitude about the situation will show and she will know it.

i cannot even begin to tell you what pure h**l it is to have ADD.

everyone's first response is to up her meds! i hate that. ALL children are a bit bouncey at times, just because one child that happens to be ADD and is bouncey doesn't mean her meds aren't working.

she's in a new environment..the stimulation from that alone (plus the fact that she might be missing her parents etc.) could cause this behavior. ADD children work best on a ROUTINE! when that routine is gone...chaos reins.

When you have ADD, you cannot focus, you try but you can't. then ppl get mad at you and you think you're a horrible kid...so you just give up and be that horrible kid.

have several games at one time that she can play. not just one! that way if she loses interest there is something else to play with.

ask her what things SHE likes to do best. so if she says that she likes to color, have a coloring book, some art paper scissors, glue, maybe some glitter pens, paints etc.

then set up an art day extravaganza!!

i still have my days when ADD is just too much, and i just let GO (i call them my ADD moments.) i have 4 children, 2 have ADD/ADHD. 1 of the 2 has oppositional defiance disorder as well.

some days when the ADD hits the fan (joke in our house) we just have a CUT LOOSE day!

we make up insane adventures and built forts out of the couch cushions and blankets, we tell stories, we color, we paint, we RUN around the back yard in a pretend horse race.

all these things are sporadic. which is what ADD is like. but it gives my children (and me) an outlet to get out ALL that confusion in their heads.

try thinking about 13 different things at once.

can you?

that's what ADD is like. it's an INSANE amount of information, that's what causes this crazy rage like behavior.

patients, understanding, love, and a HUGE amount of tolerance is how you deal w/an ADD child.

Answer 5

Recent studies found that a lot of kids with add or in her case adhd, add the hyper, behave the way they do because of the foods that they eat. The number one culprit was not sugar but rather dyes and chemicals found in most foods. Tell her family to cut off the processed foods that they probably eat a lot of. Watch out for any dyes, it will say red#1 or whatever. Also, dont get processed foods, they all have such things in them. Also, cutting down sugar as well would also be a good idea. There is story after story about how families who cut out all processed foods and foods with dyes in it, suddenly had their child back. Of course the household also has to be a normal, calm, and organized place. The child needs rules even with add or adhd, really even more. The rules need to be real, simple depending on the age, and reasonable and for all family members. In other words if it is bad for the child to yell and cuss, the adults should be setting the example. Children learn what they see way more than what they are told.

You could keep her occupied by changing your view of her and slowly allowing her to know that you like and care about her but her behavior must change. It will make her happier too. I would also tell the parents that you will not babysit anymore unless they do something to change her behavior. They may not be aware that they can. They cannot give up on her or she will give up on herself. Show them this message fom someone who has much experience.

Personally, I would make the parents change their behavior before I would babysit again. They need to not accept this behavior, change her diet, make sure she gets proper exercise and get her into groups , there are many good ones, that work with children with adhd and autism. They help to change their behavior. I assume she has been checked for autism to make sure that it is not that instead of adhd. They sometimes have similar patterns.

As far as finding something for her to do that will keep her busy, I would suggest that you ask her what she would like to do. Have ideas ready as she will probably be surprised by this. Don't treat her like a devil child or she will act like it all the more.

One more note. The meds she is probably taking were not actually orginially created for children and teens. The tests were done on adults. This has been a problem as some of the meds have bad side effects and can cause worse behavior. I really can't stress the need to change her diet, wouldnt hurt everyone to eat better. Cut costs somewhere else. Buy organic whenever you can. Organic foods do not contain dyes and chemicals. Chemicals are in all processed foods and chemicals with chemicals(that is what meds are) could make it worse. Stoneyfield makes organic milk, yougurt, and other things. Eat more fresh fruits, veggies, and so on. Even bread now comes natural. Good luck!

Answer 6

well take her to afun and tell her this is were you can play and  be loud in the house you use your inside voices and play a quiet game not ripping curtains or anything.

Answer 7

Pray for God to give you strength. Encourage her to run in the backyard and do a lot of physical activity to wear her out. Have her chase a Frisbee or play ball if you have a trampoline encourage her to jump jump and jump some more. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

Take her out to an open park where she can run around and get exhausted