Im confused and deeply upset...do i have a right to be??

Question

ive just found out my husband has been flirting with people on facebook though zoosk and are you interested. he is giving them his msn to talk to, even if they are 15. i dont think he would cheat on me, i know he hasnt yet. we are married and have 2 kids, one of which isnt mine and lives with us full time. im 23 and he is 34. alot of the other women are around his age. its harmless flirting. im also pregnant. i think this is wrong, in one app it says his relationship status is unknown. i get flirted with alot but i never write back and im not even on any dating apps. i feel guilty, as in maybe he is just curious about who he could get if he didnt have me. but im soo upset about this. what should i do? ive confronted him but he just goes off like, ill delete facebook then and so on.

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear how hurt you are and you have every right to feel hurt.He needs to get off the computer and pay attention to his family.He's doing things that are not appropriate for a married man to do. And you need to tell him so. You don't deserve to feel upset especially now.

Answer 2

You have every right to be upset. He should be concentrating on you and your pregnancy. Just tell him how hurt you are and to put himself in your shoes.

Answer 3

Whoa -- your 34 year old husband is chatting and flirting with women and young girls, and you call it "harmless"?  Most states would call his behavior "predatory".  Yes Ma'am -- that is correct.

Nothing about what you describe is innocent or harmless -- and what you are describing is only what YOU know.  It's probably more intense than you even realize.  You have every right to be upset.  You have every right to be very concerned.  Yes, it is wrong.

And the reason he gets so angry when you confront him is because he is guilty, and KNOWS it.

If it were ME that this was happening to, I would get out of there so fast it would make that cheating man's head swim.  But, it's your life, your husband, you situation.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

Yes, be angry, very angry. I don't agree that you can controll your partners every move and emotion, and I think you should be allowed to flirt with other people, but really, a time and a place. Kick his butt. Good luck.

Answer 5

u can tell where a man's heart is by his actions.u have every right to be hurt, he is spending time with others when he should be focused on u and his marriage.his priorities are all mixed up, and this will make u feel unloved and unwanted.flirting is never harmless, it leads to more serious things.unfortunately there are many women out there willing to be part of this,and could care less about your life or your marriage, they are looking to hook up with someone so they won't be alone.

Answer 6

First of all I would be concerned about chatting with 15 yr olds.Second why does he fill the need to flirt at all.Oh I know he's a man!!If he's looking for attention on line where else might he be seeking it?

Answer 7

I'm sorry but your husband does not seem to appreciate you and the fact that you are currently pregnant he should have taken extra care of you and not hurt you considering your condition.  What kind of husband would go on dating sites while his wife is still around and preggy? I dont think he deserves you, he's too insensitve.

Answer 8

You may make friends on the internet like he does, and you will see that it is interesting for you or not. This is like certain sports, some ppl find it interesting, and others find the same sport boring. Somehow your husband likes this sport: making friends on the net. In your place I would ask him for the interesting cases, persons, characters, or fates.

Answer 9

Think to yourself what would it be like if it were the other way around. Flirting online isnt a big deal as long as there are no temptations there.

Answer 10

booooooooo to the first answer.

you've every right to get upset. ask him to stop what he's doing else you'll go and live w/ your parents and he can flirt all he wants then! you're pregnant hon, you deserve better treatment more than usual.