Im depressed and confused, I know its my fault in a way, but couldnt stop my feelings.?

Question

I felt in love with this guy who also said he felt in love with me, but he had a girlfriend I knew he had a girlfriend but I loved him and couldn't helped it.

I have asked him for the last year if he will give me a chance of having a relationship with him, but he has said not yet and in the future possibly yes.

I have asked again yesterday, he couldn't answer, I asked him do you still love your girlfriend??

and he said yes.

so i said then how can you love 2 people at the same time, i couldn't do that. He said it happens to people. I wonder if he really loved his girlfriend why is he cheating on her??

please be nice, because I'm very sentimental right now and anything makes me cry.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Well am not here to pass judgement on you or anything but am a guy first i must say that your both at fault and why has this lasted this long? you deserve better than that....no one can love 2 people at the same time you just a booty call in a sentimental way,Now let's flip the script think of it like this if the situation was reverse in you was doing what's he doing to you,in you told him that you love your boyfriend in not him in he had sentimental feeling for you....trust me it would of been a bomb rush so make the decision that is best for you but from my point of view you need to pray in stop any contact with him cause he has a gurl get your own man by the way that will love you...God bless

Answer 2

does he know your a communist...?

Answer 3

i know this might sound horrible but it might be a feeling of curiosity to what it would be like being with you, i'm not meaning to be horrible and he might not be cheating on his girlfriend and itmight just be a phase for him or maybe he wants be with you and doesnt know what to do about it all you can do is talk to him and find out how he feels.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. But it's not your fault. If you love him it's not like you could help it. It's his fault. Yes, you can love two people, but never in the same way. If he's not willing to face his feelings and realize which of you are his true love than he isn't worth it. I'm sure he's a great guy but if he's going to cheat on his girlfriend why would you want to go out with him? He needs to be able to make up his mind before he can committ to a serious relationship. You seem like an amazing girl, so I'm sure theres a perfect guy out there for you, who's only for you.

Best regards! =)

~Mrs. Nick Jonas

Answer 5

You can love two people at the same time, thats easy - but showing that you genuinely love two people to other people is hard.