Im depressed can you help me?

Question

my boyfriend made me cry yesterday. im vegeterian and he said.. if we ever have kids they are never going to be vegeterian! and i said ive always wanted to raise my kids to be vegeterian. and he said NO! NEVER. and then he told me i could just cook meat and feed it to them , i dont have to eat it. but i said no , i dont cook it, i dont eat it.! he hung up on me and i texted him saying goodnight. i said i dont like the way you are talking to me right now. then he told me maybe hes not the right guy for me and maybe i need a vegeterian boyfriend. i cried.. because this shows me he doesnt care enough to respect me. i cried till like 12 am in the morning. woke up at 3 and cried again. Ive been depressed all day because he acts like he doesnt care about how i feel . i dont know what id do without him and im just so sad. weve been together for 7 months and we have a future planned and everything . i was going to marry him and now my heart is crushed from what he said

Answer 1

get a life

Answer 2

are you serious??? being unhappy for a day is not depression. depression is when you feel like you do for a much longer period of time. you are just upset.

sounds to me like you had a lucky escape - i woudnt want to be with someone who didnt respect me.

Answer 3

Well, I'm wondering if maybe you boyfriend just wanted a way to end the relationship and saw this as an easy out.  I think you might have been rushing things by having your whole future planned after dating for just 7 months.  That really isn't that long.  It seems that you and him have different values and you two would need to find some way to live with that.  He either needs to be ok with vegatarianism or you need to allow your kids to grow up to be meateaters.

Answer 4

I'm a vegetarian too, so I can relate. First of all, discuss things with him. Play it cool, and explain why vegetarianism is so important to you, and why it's one of your beliefs. If he repeats what he did to you before - which was a very cruel thing to say and do - make a decision. Is a guy who can't respect your beliefs really worth it? Do you deserve someone better than that? A husband should respect is wife's beliefs, and vice versa.

If he is worth it, then try to come up with a solution. Maybe he's just feeling like he wants to be in control, explain to him that you will not sacrifice animals, and if he wants his children to eat meat, and he should cook it. Also explain to him that it's also the children's decision, when they become older, both parents should explain their sides and let their children decide for themselves.

But ask yourself this question: can you find a nice guy who actually respects your ways?

Good luck, and I hope I helped.

Answer 5

The pain will pass and maybe he is right......maybe you should seek out someone who is better suited for you.