Im engaged at the age of 16 to my 15 year old gf, what kind of ring should i get her?how much should i spend?

Question

well me and my gf have been dating for about 4 years now , and she was crying because she is moving and she thought she was going to loose me , so i proposed to her without a ring ( because i didnt know i was going to do it ) and she said yes

now i have to buy her a ring

Answer 1

I have to agree with the bulk of the people here - you are too young to be considering getting married.  I mean, you're just learning how to drive a car!  I'm not sure it's legal for people under 18 to get married unless they have the consent of their parents.  

Instead of thinking marriage, why don't you focus instead on maintaining your relationship?  Set time aside every day to talk to her on the phone, send her emails and text messages, send her letters (old fashioned but sweet and romantic), and make an effort to show her that just because she is moving doesn't mean that your relationship with her is going to change.  Depending on how far she is moving, you could maybe set aside a time each month or maybe each week where you could get together and hang out.  I don't physically see one of my best friends all the time, but I text him usually once a day and I call him often and our relationship is great.  We haven't gone to school together since middle school and we graduated from different high schools recently, but we are closer now than we were when we saw each other every day.  I know the situation is a little different for you, but you can still have a good relationship with someone without seeing them every day.  

If you want to buy her a promise ring, as some have suggested, that might be the way to go.  If you have your heart set on a real ring as opposed to a yummy ring pop, I wouldn't go expensive - you're simply too young.  Go to Claire's and buy a ring there - they aren't more than $15 in general.  If by chance you hold off on the actual wedding and you want to become engaged when you are significantly older (like in your twenties), then you should put more money into the ring.  

So I would hold off on being "engaged" for now - it is more important now that you show her that just because she is moving does not mean that your feelings for her are going to change.  Try maintaining your relationship for now, and don't worry about getting married just yet.  As my aunt told my cousin after she broke up with her longtime boyfriend, if it is meant to be, it will work itself out.  

Good luck!

Answer 2

just spend what you can afford on something SHE LIKES. If you have no idea, go for a good old solitaire diamond ring.

Answer 3

umm obviously u was not ready to propose and u might b making a bad mistake because u only propose because she was moving and she was crying..think about it!! what can a 15 and a 16 years old can f\do for each other??

Answer 4

Get her a promise ring =]

hold off on getting married, unless your positive that's what you want. And remember dating is temporary...Marriage is forever.

Answer 5

stupid thing to do just carry on as normal no need to purpose to her because she thinks shes going to lose you.Whats purposing going to do really? Nothing just make things more awkward if they go wrong in the long run.Take things slow  

Answer 6

"Dana D" your answer cracked me up.

Answer 7

Here's the perfect ring:

http://www.sweetjanes.com/images/Ring%20...

Just make sure to get her favorite flavor, not yours.

Answer 8

Way too young to be getting engaged.  If you really want, you could get a "promise ring."  Just leave the whole marriage thing out of it!

Answer 9

save ur money because with your long distant relationship you both will find someone else to love.

Answer 10

If you genuinely think you are going to be with her forever (ignore the haters on here, some high school sweethearts stay together forever) then you need to let her know you are serious by buying a proper ring. Spend whatever you can afford on what you think will look beautiful on her and what she will love.

I would have to say however, make it a looooooooong engagement! It has to be at least 3 years because youve gotta be 18 to get married to begin with. But becuase she is moving away, you two might drift apart. A long distance relationship is hard - I went through one, came out the other end and we are still together and engaged!!! But if it all works out, and you do get married, make sure you are both still sure and happy together. Good luck with it!!!

EDIT - I dont care if people give me thumbs down, he asked what kind of ring to get and how much to spend. He did not ask for your advice on whether he was old enough to get married or not. Bring em on!!!

Answer 11

go to longs and they have rings out of the quarter machine

Answer 12

wtf dude don't buy an fcking ring, don't get married! r u kidding me? your SIXTEEN shes FIFTEEN.  do you even have money fro a friggin ring? dude you guys are WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY to young. i mena,  is that even legal?

Answer 13

DO NOT GIVE HER AN ENGAGEMENT RING!!

You are too young to have that kind of commitment - get her a promise ring, which lets you know you want to be a permanent part of her life, but isn't quite the heavy load of an engagement ring.  You'll certainly regret giving her an engement ring right now. REEALLLY.

A nice promise ring would either be a small diamond or her birth stone.  You can even go on overstock.com and get a silver and cz ring for an afforable price.

Answer 14

First, you are too young!  So why waste the money?  Why not be mature about things and see if you two can handle the difficulties of a long distance relationship.  Each of you need to finish high school and then see where you two are in the relationship!

Answer 15

In plain English what are you doing?  Marriage at your age.  What about college?  Buy her a friendshipp ring.  She will have to accept that you are both too young.  Next year could bring a lot of changes especially since she is moving.  

Answer 16

Hmmmm...You've been "dating" for 4 years huh..Interesting. I think you should spend $0 because your too young to be thinking about getting married. What about your diploma and your college degree? Wouldn't you like to graduate college and be able to take care of her? You can't even get married b/c neither of you are legal...

Answer 17

She's moving away. You two have been far too close. She won't "lose you", she will simply grow up and find new friends. Go get a candy ring for her because she's a baby.

Answer 18

Look I know everyone is being super harsh but you need to look at the big picture do you really think the love will last? if so then just wait till you are both old enough to move and be together then you can do the whole engagement thing right why don't you just get her a nice little promise ring something saying that you 2 are together and you guys are promising to be together till you are old enough to move back to eachother then if it don't work out you would not of spent alot of money and can say you were never engaged you even said yourself you did not know you were even going to ask and you didnt even know what her answer would be I can promise you both that when you are apart you will be living 2 seperate lives and very possibly will find this was only a 1st true love as a teenager you may even look back one day and think Im glad I did not spend a ton of money you can get a nice cheap promise ring...but ultimately the decision is yours..Good Luck

Answer 19

You aren't gonna like my answer but as a mom of a daughter any 16 year old boy who thinks he is going to put an engagement ring on my 15 year old girl had better worry less about the ring and more about how far away he can run!  Ain't no reason for no boy of any age to try and tie up a girl of 15.  And to think you have been "dating" since she was 11 and you were 12 - do you realize how stupid that sounds?  I'm sure you have picked her up and took her to dinner and a movie hundreds of times in your 4 year romance....ha!  Get real and get over yourself!  And you'd better watch out for her Dad - I'm sure he is gonna be mad!

Answer 20

How about one of those cute ring pops?

Answer 21

How can you afford to buy her a ring, do you work? Remember getting married is a huge responsibility and it is very expensive. You get married and know you have the bread winning responsibility right? You are the man and need to be able to take care of your wife and your kids someday. Are you ready to go that mentally, physically and financially because at 16 arent you still in high school?

I think you guys need to just be together and date until you are at least 20 and then see if you still feel the same way about one another.

Answer 22

I think you should date long distance for a while just to see if a marriage will even work out at your age. If you want to give her a token of your affection, I'd suggest a Promise Ring, as opposed to an engagement ring. They are more affordable and don't carry the connotations that an engagement ring implies. Good Luck and I hope this helps.  

Answer 23

well you can get her a promise ring but you cant get engaged at that age!