Im fighting this 15 yearold and im 12 help?

Question

i dont know why but he was bullying me i got tired so i socked him in his jaw and he saw me and him are gonna fights tommorow so what can i do to win

Answer 1

Firstly Micheal, wow longest answer this year (outside of R&S).  However some good advice all the same!

Micheal is right you must stand up to him, when I was at school my life was a misery resulting in me walking around with my head down.  It takes years to build up your confidence again.

You are doing the right thing, even if you lose he will always be a coward and you will gain some respect.  What I would do is get a load of spare change, when he attacks you throw it at his face then just keep on punching until the fight gets broken up.  Keep the punches staight (don't windmill or use hooks or uppercuts) and keep walking forwards.

Finally and most importantly, don't turn into what you hate!  By which I mean don't turn into the bully yourself.  Remember the strong should protect the weak and not make their lives a misery.  Stick up for yourself and your loved ones and don't become a victim like I did.  It has taken 10 years of martial arts training to have the confidence I have today!

Hope this helps mate and good luck :-)

Answer 2

There is no way you can really learn how to fight the kid in this short of a time span.  

Also, a 15 year old has no business being around you.  That is why you need to tell your parents and the cops.  Don't listen to the other 12 year old here who did MMA and thinks you should jump the 15 year old.  That kind of advice is going to send you to jail.  If two of you assault one of him, you're looking at juvie.  As bad as you think your pride is hurting now, your pride will mean nothing if your 12 year old self drops the soap in juvie:  

http://youtube.com/watch?v=ZO7-QJGVdM4

You think you have bullies now?  Please!

Take the anti-bully advice given here.  Good advice.

However, if you have exhausted----and in really, truly tried for over a month----to be peaceful and he's still bothering you, then it's time for you to hit dude in the throat, kick him in the nuts and go for a double-leg takedown.  

But I suspect that you will not even try a peaceful option, that you will take the ego-driven route and still fight a 15 year old cuz you ain't no punk.  Well if you do that, keep a good handle on the soap when you end up in juvie.  See, if you hit a guy in the throat before you have tried every reasonable approach to using peaceful means, you are a hoodlum.  If you do that afterwards, you are defending yourself.  You must be JUSTIFIED in the use of force.  Right now, even though the guy picked on you, I really don't see where you are justified in fighting.  You ALREADY stood up to him.  What more do you need?  I know, you need to not feel like no punk an keep it real fo yo hood.

Convince your parents to sign you up with a good martial arts teacher who can convince you to fight for protection and not for ego.

Answer 3

How about tell a parent or a teacher or whatever adult is around to resolve the issue.  Fighting should be your last option.  Also, don't punch someone in the jaw and not expect to get hit back.  If it boils down to where there is no way out, then make sure you keep your hands up, keep your punches in and straight not wide.  Don't take him to the ground like the others suggested if he is bigger than you cause if he gets on top of you then its gonna be over.  Just keep moving and punching and hope for the best.  Don't worry about his size, and if you put up a good enough fight then maybe he won't bully you no more and if you win I'm sure it may stop.  Just remember before punching someone go find an adult or a parent and try to work it out first

Answer 4

If you want to beat him, you have to understand one thing:

This fight is not about life and death.  

This fight is about social status.

That’s fear that you feel.  It’s a biological instinct.

Your body’s telling you that you’re in danger.

You have to fully understand that you’re in no “real” danger.

This is not about someone who wants to take your land and pillage your women.

This is about two monkeys in a tree trying to settle who’s the more important ape.

This is about chickens in a barn yard settling who is the bigger c**k.

It means nothing to you unless you make it mean something to you.

You’re not afraid of getting hurt, so much as you’re afraid of humiliation.

There’s no loss of social status if you “lose” a fight to someone who is older and larger than you.  

Even if you “lose” the pummeling aspect of this fight, you gain social status by facing up to him and being unafraid.

He’s 15, and he’s calling out a 12 year old?  He’s already punked out by you!  By a 12 year old!  What a loser!

For a 15 year old to kick a 12 year old’s butt, that doesn’t change the fact that he’s a loser.

For a 12 year old to get his butt kicked by a 15 year old, that only makes you a loser if you choose to feel like a loser.

Who cares who pummels who more?  

He’s not trying to kick your a**.

He’s trying to “punk you” out.

If you punk out, he wins.  If you refuse to punk out, you win, regardless of who actually gets in more “pummeling”.

You already had the courage to deck him.  I don’t know why that didn’t turn into a fight, probably because he didn’t have the courage?

It doesn’t matter if you get a black eye.  

It’s a badge of honor.

Maybe you get your nose broken?  

So what?  

If you feel “humiliated” it, and act “humiliated by it, he wins.  

But broken noses heal.  

Getting shots in the arm and scraping your knee and falling of your bicycle all hurt, but pain is a part of growing up and becoming a man.

Show everybody that you’re not afraid to take your lumps, and you will feel more like a man than this chump.

His goal is not to pummel you.  

His goal is to make you afraid.

Pummeling you is how he wants to make you afraid.

He wants to control the way you feel.

He wants to control your mind.

That puts the ball in your court.

As long as you choose not to feel afraid of this dumb-a** joker, you’ve beat him.

If you’re afraid of getting your a** kicked, he wins.

You made him lose face.  You made him like himself less.

He wants to get his face back by making you lose face.  He thinks that if he makes you like yourself less, if he can make you feel like less of a man, he will feel like more of a man.

Your goal is not to out-pummel him.

Your goal is to face-up to him without being afraid.

Your goal is not to out-shine him with your boxing skills.

Your goal is to outshine him by “manning-up” and face someone who may very well “kick your a**” and be completely un-afraid.  If you can do that, you can beat him.

Remember that anger and aggression are manifestations of fear.

Why did you deck him in the first place?  Because he made you feel afraid.  

You reacted by decking him.

Now he feels weak and afraid.

He wants to make you more afraid than he feels.

Don’t get angry if you does stupid little baby sh** like push you in the shoulder or challenge you to “Put up your dukes”.

He challenges you to put up your dukes?

Don’t let him make you react.

Make him try harder than that.

He calls you chicken?

“No, not chicken, just bored.”

“You called me out here dude.   Either do something or leave me the f*** alone.”

So what if he pushes you in the shoulder?  

He wants to make you react with a fear response.  

Pushing you in the shoulder is a fear response.  

Lack of response is confusing to a bully.

Twice I have had bullies walk away from me after putting me in a bear hug because tense up.

I just looked at them like calmly and curiously.

The "Hey stop it!" reaction is what they're looking for.  Making you tense up and feel afraid is what makes them feel powerful.

Both guys didn't know how to deal with a calm, relaxed lack of reaction, so they walked away.

As much as you can physically handle, don’t react.  Make him try harder.

As long as you don’t react, it’s all a mind game.

Maybe he takes a swing?

Do you have the courage to keep your hands at your side, look him back in the eye and say, “that all you got?”

That’s much manlier than throwing a swing back.

If he hits you once in the face, and you’re not at all intimidated, in fact you’re laughing at his lame attempt to intimidate you, he may chicken out.

If he doesn’t chicken out, he’ll start hitting you repeatedly.  

If you can beat him at the mind game by being completely unafraid of him,  that’s way cooler.

But you have to be willing to go blow for blow if he doesn’t cop out.

Make it is difficult as possible for him to provoke you.

If you have to fight, raw aggression is the best substitute far actual fighting skill.

Hold off reacting aggressively as long as you can handle, but when you have to fight, come hard and fast.

If he swings, don’t throw wild swings at his head,

Throw rapid fire straight punches at his face.

Look up some clips of wing chun kung fu “chain-punching” on youtube.  Anybody can do that sh**, and it catches people off-guard if they don’t know how to fight.

Make him defend.

If you’re continuously punching in a straight line with both hands, he won’t get you with jabs. (You’re jabbing aggressively with both hands).

A straight punch is longer than a hook, so it’s difficult (but not impossible) for him to land a lucky swing.

Stick to him tight and make him defend his face, so that he can’t attack.

Take ground, make him back up.

Keep your punching in between you and him at all times, and don’t stop punching until it’s over.

You probably won’t knock him out, but you’ll look good on points if you force him to back up.  People will say you “won” if you can make him look like he’s running away from you.

If one of you tackles and you both end up on the ground, you won't get hurt.  Just keep struggling until someone declares the fight over.

The "winner" of violence is whoever ends up on top of the other guy. The real winner, the winner of the mind-game, is you, if you refuse to stop fighting or punk out.  When you face up to an older, larger kid, you win just by showing up and not letting him punk you out.

Important: If possible, get as many of your friends as you can to stand behind you.

Don’t hide behind your friends, just tell them this:  Ã¢Â€ÂœI don’t care if he kicks my a**.  If it’s pretty clear he’s kicking my a**, let him kick my a** for like 30 seconds and then pull us apart.  Okay, dude, you made your point.  You’re bigger than I am.  I think we knew that before the fight started, so you proved the obvious.  I just want to show everybody that I won’t back down.”  

“Maybe next week you’ll work up to 13 year-olds, and by the end of the year you’ll be picking on kids your own age.  You’re still a dumb-a** loser.”

If you’re beating him with your unexpected rampage of non-stop straight-punching to the face, same thing, they let you go Tasmanian devil on him for about 30 seconds, it looks like there’s a clear “winner”, they pull you guys apart and break up the fight.



The fight"s not over until somebody says it’s over.  

It’s safer if there are people standing around to declare there’s a winner, than letting the winner decide when it’s over.

You don’t care about who actually wins the “violence” aspect of the fight.  

If you show people that they will have to pay every time they try fight you, whether they can kick your a** or not, you won't have to fight.  They'll go find an easier target.

The real winner of this confrontation is not the one who is stronger, it's the one who is cooler.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

kick him in the groin, then pummle his face.

Answer 7

If your going to arrange a fight- get some big boxing gloves and wear a cup, arrange for a referee.  Then go at each other to let egos be satisfied for a minute round at a time. 5 rounds with 2 minute breaks will give 15 minutes of practice , posturing and chance to make points thumping each other with no eye or main joint attack rules.  both parties may end up bleeding a bit but not in hospital, arranged sparring match with gloves is not a assault and battery charge- is athletic practice. Beware of groin strikes and grabs- the one time someone grabbed me he ended in hospital for a week (I sat in jail same time then got a self defense plea accepted- witnesses said he attacked first).

Answer 8

hit just bellow the ribs center with 2 fingers.(the heart)

he will go down.

nose, throat, stomach and groin.

get in the first hit and have a guaranteed win.

Answer 9

sucker punch/kick (nuts) to distract, & while he is hovled over in pain, go in for the kill (kick him in the face or something).

make sure u gethim fast though otherwise he can do the same to u.

Answer 10

if he's larger then you are then go for the legs

take out the legs then you get control

same size: body jabs

smaller then you: then you have size advantage easily, then you got major control

Answer 11

Calm, stay in confidence, and trust yourself here i gonna give you a poem if you understand it you may defeat that boy.

"Control yourself, let others do what they will.

This does not mean you are weak.

Control your heart, obey the principles of life.

This does not mean others are stronger."

The seeds were first planted from Haufeng; the essence was gained later at Haushou

Restrain one's self and yield to others not because one is weak, but to uphold the ethical Tao and let the others have their claim.

Focus to train and condition the body. One must not have any act of laziness.

Be righteous and uphold your honor. One must not have any act of hypocrisy.

Respect your parents, honor your teacher. One must not have any act of defiance.

Treat others with honesty, treat your friends with loyalty. One must not have any act of arrogance.

Thanks for the question.

Answer 12

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Answer 13

kick his balls or throw knives at him

Answer 14

No...dont take the hit like a man... Man cannot take too many hits... use your height to your advantage dodge his punches and at the same time sock him back... make sure you use combo... two or three at a time... and use kicks too!

btw... its best not to fight if you dont have to... but I dont thinkyou are strong enought or smart enought to avoid this bout...

good luck kid... and may the best boy win!

Answer 15

Age isn't anything. It's all about strength and body type...for all we know, he could be a tiny 15 year old and you could be a massive 12 year old. How big is this guy?

If anything, go with what worked the first time, hit in the jaw if you can reach.

Answer 16

you already did, now his image is threatened and he's trying to psyche you out....

If your confronted with the inevitable, don't hesitate to clean his clock... You already made the right move the first time, only this time, don't stop whipping his azz until he begs for mercy, or you knock him out, or someone pulls you apart...but once you hit him, picture him as having harmed your mother and beat him like he needs to be beaten... this will one, set a precedent that your not going to take any c**p...and he will likely learn his lesson... Good Luck,

Answer 17

rack him in the nuts then run like h**l! lol

Answer 18

ask him for forgiveness!!! and if that doesnt work kick him in the go nads!  try to get some fish hooks, eye gouging, strike him in the knees. forget about all that honor when fighting!

Answer 19

lol ok then fight and then get your *** kicked  you'll learn from experience not to hit people again and ask for help

Answer 20

let him bully you to the ground then grap punch bite twist his nuts until his tears become blood

good luck

seriosly there are no rules in fighting do what you have to do

Answer 21

Get some other kids that don't like him to back you up. [Or if you have some friends that will stand up for you.] That way he will be to afraid to fight. Nobody gets their *** kicked this way. Do not gang up on him though, you would be considered a bully and then would have to watch your back every second possible.

Or grow huge muscles overnight.

He is also bullying you probably because of a large ego.

I am 16 and I remember everyone thinking they were all that and a bag of chips until reality hit in.

Answer 22

how big is he? how big are you?

Answer 23

Dont go for the legs, you know where your ribs first meet right above your stomach? Smash that part like a demon. It'll wind him, and weaken/slow down he's strikes. Ever been hit hard in the gut, or fallen down really hard and been winded? yeah it sucks *** dont it? Oh and if you get the chance, throw the corner of your head into he's chest, or the previously mentioned spot. Like has been statd, a good chance you'll lose, but hey! whatever! If you fight respectfully, hard and dont back down! you'll gain respect! (Note, dont throw headbutts if you think its disrespectful... unless your desperate or the perfect opportunity takes place in which case pound it out like a madman!).

Answer 24

dont listen to the p***y who said call the cops. thats g*y, if he is alot bigger than you (weight) then nail him in the nuts and then just swing for the nose, eye and EAR, that ****** hurts and will make him stop and dont be scared. im 12 also and i have been in mma for a while but if your not trained , just dont be scared. bring a friend, i hate 2 on 1 but if its a bully, he desevres to have his *** beaten to a bloody pulp, only bring him if to help if your loosing. dont tell alot of people about the fight or someone will tell

Answer 25

Don't fight him until you learn how to fight. If he attacks you again, call the cops.