Im getting married in 13 days, I am so stressed out that i am constantly fighting with everyone around me?

Question

but its been before the wedding planning i am just so upset and angry all the time, i am gaining weight and having money problems, are there any ways to calm myself down and how do you deal with stress i am going crazy! i am scared im going to puch my fiance away and we get married soon, i feel like everyone is out to get me or argue with me. Im losing my control. Please help! Thanks

Answer 1

aww ur bound to be stressed, u want everything so be perfect and run smoothly, i suggest u go upstairs run ur self a bath and light some candles its the best way to relax ever-well i think so lol! remember ur supposed to enjoy this not stress and know easier said than done...lavender works well to to help u sleep

x*x

goodluck

Answer 2

ok, take a deep breath and remember this: It is one day, the marriage is for the rest of your life.

  Call a girlfriend who is not involved with the wedding,mix up some drinks, get some funny movies and just chill. Take a few hours to just relax and not think about the day.

Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 3

Try not to worry, easier said than done.  It's natural to be stressed out I know I was.  I put on weight, threatened to call the wedding off dozens of times, argued with everyone and guess what it was all fine on the day.

Take some time to do what you find relaxing, if you are arguing then see if you can make time to be on your own, do you have family who can help out?

Can you do a last minute run through of everything and is OK.  Remember most of your guests wont know all the last little details that you have planned so if it goes sqewiff on the day chances are nobody else would notice.

Perhaps your fiancee is stressed to, it is a big step for you both.  

Theres not much you can do now, bar to go with the flow and enjoy it, in 14 days you'll be married and the little things that are bugging you now will probably be forgotten.

good luck, I hope all goes well

Aly

Answer 4

It's natural to be stressed before the wedding. Try to rind ways to blow off some steam. Exercising is something that helps me blow off steam and weight. When you're feeling angry go for a walk or anything that will remove you from the environment.

Take one day a week to do something that IS NOT wedding related. Make a date with your fiance and plan NOT to talk about the wedding at all.

Answer 5

First, of all calm down. You will ruin your own wedding. If, you are having money problems then you are having too big, a wedding. But, it is too late for that. Just know that it is up to you to enjoy this special day.

Answer 6

This Miss Manners column may not fit your situation, but I hope it gives you a chuckle.

You, out there in Brideland, you sweet thing ... Are you planning your wedding so that it will be perfect in every detail? Do you expect it to be the happiest day of your life? Miss Manners sincerely hopes not.

Few of those who prattle about that "happiest day" seem to consider the dour expectations this suggests about the marriage from its second day on. They don't realize that a wedding reception is basically a large party, and is therefore not perfectible because there are too many variables, not to mention too many people who one thought would not accept the invitation. At any rate, someone whose idea of ultimate happiness is a day spent at a big party, even spent being the center of attention at a very marvelous big party, is too immature to get married.

This notion of a wedding persists, often working directly against the purpose of a wedding, which is to create a new family, and not to put cracks and strains in old ones. Miss Manners' advice to young brides is to plan weddings that will be pretty and festive, but not to attempt to make them grand on a scale unrelated to the rest of their lives, and not to expect them to be perfect. Many an otherwise lovely bride has turned ugly attempting to create a "dream" occasion and to make everyone else conform with her conception of their roles in it.

A warning that one has strayed too far afield is an excessive preoccupation with everything's being done "right". Weddings are rare events in most people's lives, and Miss Manners has no objections to the participants' seeking advice on correct form. She dispenses such advice herself, right and left. But if one needs professional direction -- not just help or advice -- in every aspect of the wedding, it may mean that one hs wondered into completely foreign social territory and should think about heading home. One's wedding should be a heightened version of one's best social life, not an occasion for people to attempt to play grand and unfamiliar roles in a fantasy play.

Another warning about expecting a perfect day is that this carries a built-in potential for disappointment. (There are adults who go through life expecting other people to make their birthdays perfect for them and if you ever meet one of these, watch out. Nothing will ever be enough for them.)

What Miss Manners wishes all brides is NOT the happiest days of their lives, but a jolly gathering of family and friends, in which they are the object of general admiration but EVERYONE has a good time. They will then have some happiness left over with which to live happily every after.

Answer 7

If you are that stressed then YOU are doing something wrong . . or should I say you have done several things wrong.

At this point of the wedding planning you should be calm, cool, and collected because everything should be in place and ready to go.  And if you are NOT calm, cool, and collected than you have put too much emphasis on having "a Cinderella wedding" or "the perfect wedding."

What would you do if the minister cancelled out two days before the wedding?  What would you do if the wedding cake was delivered to the wrong hotel?  And what would you do if one of your guests dropped dead on the dance floor right before you, the Bride and Groom, were introduced?

Just last week I had a Bridesmaid and Groomsman "walk out" of a wedding just two hours before the ceremony began because the Bride had "used and abused"  them one too many times, and they were fed up with her behavior.  Here is it, two hours before the ceremony begins, the Groomsman was in his tuxedo and the Bridesmaid was in her gown . . they walked to the gift table, took back their gift and then they got in their car and drove away!

So take a wedding professional's advice . . take a deep breath before you lose all of your friends.

Answered by:  A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 8

Small stuff... when things go wrong... will it matter in 6 months? Small stuff. Didja read my blog? OMG.... if I can smile after all of that remembering small stuff is REALLY important!

Go back and read the blog.

Answer 9

Go get a massage. Watch a funny movie. Look at pictures of yourself when you were a kid and laugh at your outdated clothes. Calm the heck down! You want to fit into your dress, don't you? You want to still have friends and not ruin relationships over a wedding, don't you? Good luck and stay cool.

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