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Im going to be in so much trouble but please help me <3?

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On monday im getting my toungue pierced (summer holidays) but my parents dont want me to get it done. They always said that if one of us (me and my brother) started smoking then that person will be kicked out!! but my brother started smoking and they are fine with it. And they said if i get my tounge pierced i will have to find somewhere else to live which i have done for the night. But when im at my friends house (who is copying me lol and getting it done at the same time) im going to txt my parents telling them and say that i did tell them and they never believed me and if they did i wouldnt have gone behind there back.

how can i get them to forgive me after wards?

p.s. the reason my parents arent letting me get my tounge done is because i had problems with my ear piercing ... i was allergic to the silver earing that they gave me (although i was 10 at the time and im now 15)

Please help x

also what exactly should i say to my parents?

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just say this is my body and i can do whatever the h**l i want with it....and ur parents can't do anything but forget about it =D
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omfg its like im lukin in a mirror...i got mine done wen i woz 15 2 bout 4months ago(16 na lol) n i txtd dem n woz like im getin mi tounge done afta school if you like it or not...they texted back and told me not to do it...i done it newayz n yano wa it woz a gud idea...mi parents wer da same dont get it done blah blah blah day didnt go 2 dee extreams of sayin the wuld kick me out but they did say they would pull it out...but i got it done newayz and der fine with it now...make sure 2 tel them b4 u get it do then they cant say you done it bhind ther bac..not ur fault they didnt believe yhu...b kewl bout it as if like yhu kinda r jokin so the joke bac they wont like it but sur they will get over it...n if day dont at least yhur tongue wil luk wel...lmao btw getin it dones nat dat sore but ya shuld defo use da afta care mouthwash r da swellin is sooooo annoyin n ya cnt eat 4 like 5days but u wil get ova it lmao. gud luk...write 2 me if ya wana no mor:D

btw da girl up der dat says u need parental premmsion is bulshiten ya dnt ders no legal age 4 piercin:L

gud luk.x
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I don't know what you should say since different people react differently to things.

Just make sure you read up on tongue piercings. If you're allergic to certain metals or anything than make sure you don't get one made of one of them.

Even if you were allergic to silver five years ago it doesn't mean you aren't now.

Truthfully, I don't really think you should go through with it. I don't see the point in getting your tongue pierced.

It sounds like a really bad idea for someone who is possibly allergic to certain types of metal to get her tongue pierced.

Tongues are very important and if it gets really swollen or something because of an allergic reaction......well, that could be really bad...I mean emergency trip to the ER bad...maybe worse.....

Who is going to be piercing your tongue? I hope you won't be allergic to any of the tools or the piercing...

Anyway, I just want to you to be aware that you could be harming your health, possibly quite seriously.

Also, if you're only fifteen who is going to pierce it?

If it isn't a professional there is a chance that the person could hit a blood vessel which would probably lead to a trip to the hospital....

Anyway, the risks are low, but just try to find something that you know you aren't allergic to. Oh, and make sure it is done properly by someone that knows how.

Read this, please: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tongue_pier...
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Just be like im sorry really wanted to get it done and i hope you forgive me
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Be very careful. Metallic allergies very rarely disappear and the consequences could be dangerous.
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There's no guaranteeing that they'll forgive you..but they're your parents. I would agree with the first answerer and say, just be very apologetic. Tell them what you've told us.

Good luck- I hope you don't have any problems with the piercing. :)

Xox
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So you are going to blatantly disobey your parents over a silly piercing and you want ME to tell you what to say to them so that they'll forgive you?!  As a mother, I'm going to tell you what your own mother would tell you.  Don't do it!  When you are 18, you can do whatever you want.  As long as you are living under her roof though, its her rules.  Its not that difficult to follow the rules and stay out of trouble.  The fact that she has given you a perfectly legit reason NOT to do it should be good enough.  She's not being mean or irrational, she just doesn't want you to DIE because your tongue swells up, your throat closes and you can't breathe all because of a silly piercing that you knew you'd probably be allergic to.  Don't be an idiot.

I just don't understand how you can sit there and be SO worried about how much trouble you're going to be in when it would be so simple to just not get in trouble in the first place.  You are making the choice to get in a lot of trouble.  This isn't an accident or a lapse in judgment or anything like that.  You have planned an exact date, time and place to get in some serious trouble.  Its stupid.
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i dont know how you can get them to forgive you, if you really want your tongue pierced wait till you 18, and go to a good place that is sanitary, also do some research on if you might still be allergic to the metal in the piercing.

I waited till i was 18 and i thought about it for a while. Also if your going to do it yourself or just someone else who dosent know what they are doing you can seriously injure your tongue... good luck
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Seriously if you have issues with metal you should think twice before getting your tongue pierced. It will swell no matter what but if you have an allergic reaction your throat could swell shut, its call anaphylactic shock and you can die. You would need to call 911 immediately and get an epinephrine shot. To answer your question, most likely your parents will either get over it or just make you take it out but I'd be way more worried about the allergy thing.
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Well let them know you are going to do this.. and that this dont mean you are a bad person. Tell them that its best for them to give you permission that not because it will hurt them if you do them behind their back...
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Forget all the people telling you not to get it done or wait until you're 18. You're young, live a little. Teenagers were created to disobey their parents :P

Anyway, just tell them that you are simply expressing yourself and that the piercing is harmless. My dad does piercings and when I was younger I would watch him pierce tounges all the time and nothing ever went wrong and I've seen TONS of them get done. Just let you're parents know that you are coming out of your shell and growing up and this is a part of the self-expression process. They can't be mad at you forever and in 20 years when you and your parents look back on it you and your parents will laugh over it. Good luck :)
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you say that although you understand their concerns but this is something you really want to do, you hope they'll be ok with it and that it wouldnt be fair to kick you out cos your brother smokes and smoking is worse than piercing, you're only 15 they won't chuck you out though im sure, good luck
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If you had an allergy to silver at ten then you will have an allergy now these type of allergies tend to be with you for life.
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You'll be allergic to the one in your tongue, too.

Get plastic.
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So you have allergies to piercings and you are getting it done at home by an unlicensed professional?

Well, the good news is when your parents get the call from ER, their first thought will be that they are glad you are alive. Why not just wait until you are 18 so you can get your piercings done without parental consent?
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How are you going to get your tongue pierced if you are only 15? You need a parent to sign the forms for you to be able to get it done if you are under 18.
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you shouldn't have done it, ur parents will find out anyway so migth as well say sorry and tell em staright, trust me parents know best and one day you will be like that to ur kids, scary huh. the thing its its not like wanking lol, they will find out
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Well you payed for it yourself and if you're old enough to get it done without them there...

If you aren't allergic to this one,

then their fears are gone.

Just tell them the truth.
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Three things:

One - you'll need parental permission for your tongue piercing.

Two - I've had LOTS of experience with allergies, and they don't just go away over a few years! My siblings and parents and I all have a couple things we've been allergic to since we were very small children - allergies can last a lifetime. And, an allergic reaction of that sort in your mouth would be dangerous, possibly even deadly. Would you seriously want to risk your life for a tongue piercing?

Three - Tongue piercings also have a certain... connotation to them that is not good. It's mainly among older people (teenagers tend to think it just looks cool), but there are many, many, people who will see it as screaming 'hey, I'm a s**t, I love oral s*x, yada yada yada'. It may have a really negative affect on your reputation, and it WILL get you attention you probably don't want.
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It sounds like your parents just don't want you to have an allergic reaction to it.

Why don't you just wait till you're 18 if you really want it that bad?

It's the smart idea.

And you'll most likely still be allergic to the metal in the tongue ring.

Do you really want to have your tongue infected?

That could get pretty gross.
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Haha, you could still be allergic to the silver.
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I am answering this as a father. Your parents love you and want what's best, in their eyes, for you. The last thing they want is for anything bad to happen to you. You said you had an allergic reaction with a piercing before, it does not matter if you were 10 then, it could still happen again. If you want your parents to treat you like an adult and let you do the things you want, you have to earn their respect. Going behind their backs will just show them that you are not ready to have their respect as you do not respect them. You should ask them why they will not allow it. If it is because of your age, find out what they think is a suitable age for the piercing and try to come to a compromise. Going behind your parents backs will only make it hard for them to trust you in the future. Don't ruin your relationship for a bit of metal that will make you talk funny and could quite possibly cause you pain and discomfort.
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be apologetic, say "Im sorry for doing it behind your back, no one is perfect, but I did this because I wanted to.And now that it's done I dont feel like it should get in the way."
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I was in this situation before, it was a little different for me though, I was allowed, but my parents expected me "to make the right decision." Yeah, anyway THAT didnt happen, i still went and got it done. Explaining this might be hard though, your tounge will be really swollen for about a week after it (I recommend sucking ice cubes) and that isn't even taking into account your allergys. Ask if they can put a plastic bar in and use plastic balls.

As for what to say, I went with "I really wanted it, and I dont regret it." But since your not allowed to do it, say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry I did it without your permission but I really really wanted it, you wont even notice its there in a few days, give it a chance and if you dont like it when its done healing I'll take it out!" But "forget" to mention it anymore after that, try not to talk too much or eat (you'll know what I mean when you get it done.) too much in front of them for like a week.

Good Luck
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Ok, its simple. Dont get your tongue pierced. That's disgusting. Also, it doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that if you are allergic to one ring, you may be allergic to another...You are a minor. Your parents are right.
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