Im going to have a baby

Question

i'm 16 and a month pregnant. i don't know how 2 tell the father of my baby, wat if he says its not his? or how 2 tell my family. idk if i should have the baby or not i don't like the idea of killing a baby. someone please help idk wat 2 do and i'm really scared of wats going to happen. someone please help me.

Answer 1

First off don't listen to the BS of another teenage mom.  You have the same possibilities as older women to be a wonderful mom.  Second of all I had my first child at 18.  I thought my parents would kill me but they were very supportive.  Yes they were mad but they love there grand children.  Finally as for the boyfriend.  It takes two to tango honey.  I would be telling him.  He has a choice to make.  To be a part of that babies life or not but either way he will have to pay child support.  Be strong and know every baby is a gift from god!

Answer 2

wow hun seriously im in the exact same boat someone needs too help us the only diffrence is like im 17 but yeah what if they do say that they arnt the father and the father of mine is in jail.. im one month and just found out today i dont even know what too do either but i aint killin my kid no matter what anyone says

Answer 3

well if u r sure that hes the father then i think that u should tell him as soon as possible. and if u havent told your parents yet i would tell them because they would help u through what is happening. and dont be scared everything is going to be ok.

Answer 4

how come he hasn't noticed????  consider adoption cuz it's a very awesome gift to give a family & very selfless.  you can start anew by making better choices after the birth.

Answer 5

don't listen to anyone who says it's not your choice!! It is very much your choice as to what you choose to do.  

Answer 6

Ok what you need to do is talk to your parents, they will be there for you, might be a bit upset at first, but they will get over it. Its up to you if you want to keep the baby, I think you have up until 3 months to decide if you dont, if thats what you choose.

I was pregnant at 17- you need to know if you are in the best position to look after this child and if the father will stay with you. I lost my daughter to him and now am considered in a league underneath single fathers but only by people who dont understand my situation.

I know you are strong and will make the right decision for you, you really need to take time out to think, and talk with your parents first off, doctor and friends.

Answer 7

my gf just had a baby and its really not as bad as you think. he is very good and we love him with all of our hearts. just tell the dad if you want a clever way of doing it. then give him the prego test. as for your parents. you just got to straight up tell them. let them yell at you. i guarantee when they see there grand child they will feel blessed. my e mail is [e-mail] if you have any questions along the way, me and my gf will be happy to help you out

Answer 8

You have to tell the father and your parents, the decision is up to you what you want to do, you can watch that show Juno, and see what she did-adoption.  You will be okay and whatever you decide to do, don't go through it alone.  Be straight up and brave, you can do this.

Answer 9

you need to tell your parents.  you're 16 you dont have to have an abortion if you dont want to.  tell them soon though, you're going to start needing prenatal care!!!

Answer 10

I had a baby at 16 and it was really hard to tell my family. You should however tell them asap. Perhaps if you write them a letter or something. DON,T let anyone make you do anything that your not o.k with. That is your child and you have the right and responsibility to do everything in your power to protect that baby. Good luck to you and I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 11

If you have the baby, your life is not going to turn out the way you want

If you get an abortion, you may not be able to live with the consequences.

Either way, you are not going to get much sympathy.  You did this to yourself and not must decide for yourself.

Answer 12

you really need to talk to someone. please do not have an abortion. it is not your childs fault. he or she will bring such joy to your life. yes, it will be hard, but you can do this. if you tell the father there is nothing you can do about his decision. if he decides to stay good for him, if he leaves, there isnt much you can do but get the support from your family. there are many teenage pregnancy help lines you can call. your family will hopefully be supporting you. just come up with something you can say and sit them down. tell them you have already decided on having they baby. you really need to think about adoption. i am sure your parents will be open to allowing you to put the baby up for adoption. it is such a great alternative to killing YOUR baby.  

Answer 13

Honey there is a website www.birthright.com the number 888-220-9140 who can talk with you and help you get through all of this.  They can answer all the questions you have racing through your mind right now.

Best of wishes to you.

Answer 14

YEAA another teenage mother..

Answer 15

now you need a really good adult you can trust.  you have to tell your parents.  right now this is not about the baby's father.  you need to decide what is right for you and your baby.  i personally could never have an abortion but right now it is your decision and don't let anyone tell you differently.  you need to live with the consequences of your actions and decisions and neither one of these are reversible.  tell your mom first.  just be brave and tell her.  the sooner the better.  you need prenatal care and so does your baby.  good luck with whatever you do...

Answer 16

What a scary time you are going through.  As a mother , I would tell you just to tell your parents that you need to talk to them, and then tell them that you had s*x with x*x and that you think you are pregnant.  Of course they will be initially be mad, hurt and upset.  But they are your parents, and they still love you!  They will love you and help you and help you come to the best decision.  You also need to sit down with the boy and his parents and tell them, if he denies it, so be it.  Bet at least you were honest, but he is not going to with you sitting ther with your parents infront of him.  You are both responsible and need to face the responsibility.  There are plenty of options.  Adoption is an excellent one.

Answer 17

A guy friend of mine what a baby when he was 16. The girl ended up dropping out of school to take care of it, but he's been pretty good about everything, money, taking care of the baby etc. He tried to get her to marry him but she said no :/

Talk to your parents about it asap. I wouldn't let too much time go by. Good luck I hope you make the right choice.

Answer 18

Well, you know you don't want abortion. That's good. You might talk to your parents to decide if they want to keep it and raise it as their own, or if they want to raise it with you, or if you want to adopt.

I am a 36 year old mom of a 2 year old, and if he were 16 and to bring home a baby, I would want to raise it. After you're settled with your parents, then talk to your boyfriend about what y'all have decided.

Pregnancy can be challenging, but it can be a lot of fun. The best part about it is the baby prize at the end. It's a long 10 months waiting for your little one to be introduced.

If you do keep the baby, I hope that you look into the benefits of breastfeeding to both you and your child. Feel free to talk to me about anything - you sound like you could use someone to listen.

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Answer 19

Tell your parents. Tell him. Have your parents tell his parents.

This is not going to be a secret, whether you like it or not.

At your age, this is not your choice, it's your parents.

IMO you should not have it. You're obviously not mature enough.

Answer 20

Well telling your parents is going to be hard because you're only 16 and they are going to take it as a huge shock.

I'd tell your boyfriend first, let him be shocked and after it settles in tell ur mum etc.

If your boyfriend isnt serious about being with you and the baby then you need to tell your mum you need her help because you will be all alone...... But you also need to decide if you are ready to have a child at your age....... What did you have planned for your life? College? school?  Talk to your boyfriend asap then your mum..... TRUST ME

the sooner the better

Answer 21

Abortion...or deal with it, is there more than one possible father and thats why he wont believe you?...if not, he just has to deal with it

Answer 22

definatley talk to your parents. theyre not going to be happy tho... but they'll be happier that you told them instead of hiding it from them! just sit them down and try to have a conversation instead of an argument.

make a doctors appointment either way. you'll need to talk to your doc whether you decide to keep the baby or not.

as for the baby's dad... if he says its not his then tell him when the baby is born you'll have a paternity test done. if you decide to keep the baby then he needs to step up too because you werent the only one that made the baby!

remeber that adoption is always an option. you dont have to resort to abortion if you decide you cant raise a child.

good luck

Answer 23

hun pretty pretty please dont have an abortion give it up for closed adoption that is the same thing my mother did she was also 15 and her mother asked her to have an abortion but she didnt please do the right thing no matter what anyone says and as for telling them tell them before people start noticing and spreading rumors make sure they here it from you no one else

my prayers are with you

Answer 24

U really screwed up but CONGRATULATIONS ur gonna be a new mom!

TEll your mom and dad  the truth straight out no prolonging the magic she'll understand and she can help you also consult your doctor!  

Answer 25

Uh oh, that's not good.

I would say tell your parents. That is what's best. Honestly.

Answer 26

1.  You need to tell your parents ASAP.  They should take you to the doctor to confirm you are pregnant.  You're about to go through a LOT and you'll need their support and guidance.  Don't put it off!

2.  If the father says it's not his then get a paternity test after baby is born and prove him wrong and make sure he pays child support.

3.  I don't think you can have an abortion if you're under 18 unless a parent/guardian signs for it.  Whether or not you have one is YOUR CHOICE and no one else's.  This is your life and your baby and no one can decide this for you, not even your parents.  Just don't let anyone make you do anything you don't want to.

Good luck. You'll need it.  It's a LOT of work being a mother, especially at your age.

Answer 27

Well its hard to say,do you want to have a baby?If you don't want to kill it you can put it up for adoption when it is born. About telling your spouse or the guy you had it with tell him and if he says no you can have the d.n.a checked for you to prove. With your parents idk girl sorry about that one.

good luck hope this helps