Im going to my bfs for a week tomorrow he lives with his mum and 19 yr old bro. ........

Question

Only thing I'm nervous about is eating in the evening with all of them. At home none of my family sit and eat at the table together and nervous because they do and I mean like what do u talk about ??? Don't want them to ask me too many questions lol!!! Any advice on how to get rid of the nerves ????

Answer 1

I think most of us have had to endure this! The first time is always the worst! I'm a mum of five and my eldest have brought their partners to dinner and I think I was probably as nervous as they were!  Just relax, be yourself and enjoy your time getting to know each other - i'm sure they don't bite lol  

Answer 2

Hmmm.. Well, if it's a first dinner, yeah they'll probably ask you a lot of questions. Just be yourself. And be a good conversationalist -- you could also ask them about themselves. Good way to get to know his family too, don't you think? :-)

Have a happy dinner!

Answer 3

Have a glass of wine, but no more than just the one.

Make sure your boyfriend knows that you are a little nervous about it, this way he can help you, initiate conversation and be generally there to support you.

Another thing is, that you don't want to seem too confident as sometimes this can be portrayed as kind of pushy or whatever, it can be a little intimidating. Being a little shy will make them realise that it means a lot to you to get their approval.

Relax and just ask them general stuff like what his brother does at school or work and ask him if he enjoys it, tell him something about you or whatever. Ask him mum something about her work or about something on TV or whatever... Just make general, non-controversial chit-chat.

I'm sure you'll be fine

Answer 4

You really need to relax and just take the day as it comes...I always think if you can laugh at yourself then you will do just fine. I remember the first time I went for dinner with my now husbands family..he had 5 brothers and I had to sit there between them, his father was a right pain in the *** and had a thing about good table manners, so as you can imagine I was very nervous , I was cutting through a tomatoes when it slipped off the plate and landed on the floor...it was then I decided to just laugh it off and his brothers joined in... so from then on I just thought , they can like me or leave me...it seems they liked me I'm married into the family almost 40 yrs now...so don't get all up tight , just relax and enjoy the time you spend with them.

Answer 5

just be yourself and try and relax..it will be hard but it will be ok you will just be nervous for a while...once you get to know them it will be better. i would be nervous about the sleeping arrangements too....and them hearing me during the night.

Answer 6

Just be yourself and things will be fine. It's a good way of getting to know each other and talk about your day. Talk to your boyfriend see what he says. Be honest and tell them your not used to eating at the dinner table. Compliment them on how nice it was to share your day with someone. Relax and enjoy!