Im goth, so why does my mom say she cant exsept me?

Question

She always puts me down. What I do is never enough for her.

What should I do? I really like being goth. How do I tell her I have made up my mind and I will stay like this?

Answer 1

I have a 13 year old daughter who wants to go "emo".  I would never not accept her because of decisions she makes, but I have put my foot down because the choices you make now affect the rest of your life.

IF you are:

Getting good grades

Being respectful to your parents and others

Not lieing, stealing, staying out all night, doing drugs or smoking

Then she won't care what you look like.  The problem with "going goth" is the attitude that seems to come with it.  I am absolutely sure she is worried sick that you are going to be pregnant or hooked on drugs and never finish high school.

Work on acting like a responsible human being and she will focus less on how you look.   :)

Good Luck I know she still loves you, even if she does not like the choices you are making.

Answer 2

Tell her to go **** herself, I'm a metal head and my parents didn't like it, I told them to accept it or not but that I really didn't give a s**t what they thought, guess what, they accepted.

Answer 3

Ultimately, she has to love you as her daughter for who you are.  You're her daughter first and foremost; whether you're goth, punk, or whatever...doesn't matter.  

If she can't...then that's her problem.

Be respectful and polite as long as you live under their roof.  When you hit 18, move out and don't look back.  This was what I did, and it worked out great.  A few tough years, but I don't regret any of it.

Answer 4

If you want to maintain a good relationship with her, you  could sit down and talk.  Tell her that it hurts you when she puts you down and doesn't accept you for who you are.  Tell her that you're doing your best (in school, at home, with chores) and that it hurts you that even though you're doing your best and that you're a good person (assuming you are), that she still puts you down for how you dress.  I know in this day and age it's never "cool" to actually sit down and talk to your parents, it's more popular now to give them ultimatums such as "accept me or else," partly because I suppose it seems "independent" to do so.  But that is the wrong attitude to take.   You care about your relationship with your Mom. That's obvious in your question.  So try talking with her.  You may be surprised at how it turns out.  She may not ever like the way you dress -- but maybe after you talk with her, she will at least accept it.  And if she knows how her insults hurt you, she'll be more likely to change her tactics when talking with you in the future.  It won't hurt to sit down with her and try to talk.  Just make sure you keep it respectful and honest and heartfelt.  

Answer 5

mom, i really made up my mind to stay like this.