Im having a hard time to forget and forgive?

Question

i love him and he do too but he cant treat me right... it been over 6 years and he is finally realizing the mistake he done and trying his very best to start over as a family again... have a 3 year old together and i just recently lost a second one... she was five month... everything went wrong in the begining of this year... he thought i was seeing someone else so he went off seeing his co-worker behind my back... i found out in feb and he became so mess up toward me and my son and not just that he would lie to her saying we dont live together and im not pregnant with a second baby and its someone else... he put me and my son thru alot juss to be with someone else... i even told his co-worker shes a fool if she believe him... i knew for a fact he was being childish and used her and hurted me... it did work for that moment when i found out... then later on i became happy cause i let him go... he shouldnt be that childish to even act on that to use someone and fooled her because due to the fact i took a break off frm him last year.... to the point to lose everything and my trust... as for now he's still in the picture and im giving him this chance to change and he is improving but i cant let go of what he done to us... it was heart breaking enough to lose my daughter and i blame him for that... he told her everything frm the truth and now his co-worker hate him and realize i was being honest the whole way... i know this is long but i need to know what should i do and some advice to how to deal with it... there is too much sad memories i cant let go and now that he is back and trying his hardest i do give him credit for that... i juss cant let go of what he done and alone with that forgive him...

Answer 1

I think it is time for you to move on and find a man that will treat you and your son right. Cheating on someone is unforgivable. It is one of the things you should get a divorce for. Kick him to the curb. Good luck

Answer 2

its not easy to forget and forgive but whats the point of not doing it its just going to bother u for the rest of youre life

what i recommend is just forgive and try to forget i know its not easy

but its better to know that u did the right thing than letting it take over youre life making u think about it everyday. (you might forgive but you dont have to spend time with him and get ur friendship back )

trust me when u know that u truly forgive him ull forget cause of the good thing u did and all the good things that are going to come :D