Im having an emotional breakdown?

Question

im pregnant and a guy who i was inlove with for two years left me when he found out i was pregnant. now he has another girlfriend.... who is she gona be my babys step mom? i seriously am shaking and i cant get anymore upset, hes the babys dad. im 16 hes 18. he told me he was inlove with me too. i cant believe hes with someone else though, this is just tearing me apart. i dont know what to do =[.

Answer 1

well first of all girl....WAKE UP!!!  the guy is a dumbass and he doesnt deserve ur love nor ur tears...ok..so u love(d) the guy...and he seemed like the right one....BUT HE IS NOT!!!  he has a lready demonstrated you how he is.....BEING SCARED! because of the baby, is no excuse for him to runaway the first time he gets and then FIND HIMSELF ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND?!!! WTF!! what u need to do is realize u are not by yourself you more than likely have friends and family that will support you no matter what..if not there is always charitys and nonprofit organizations that help girls in a situation like you.  IT IS REASONABLE YOU ARE GOING TO BE SAD AND DEPRESSED..BECAUSE WHO WOULDNT? YOU JUST FOUND OUT THE PERSON YOU THOUGHT U KNEW FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS IS AN a*****e...BUT EVRYTHING WILL PASS AND U WILL GET UR PEACE BACK. AS FAR AS THE STEPMOTHER THING??? FORGET ABOUT IT.....YOUR BABY IS YOURS AND THERE IS NO STEPMOTHER c**p.....AND IF I WERE YOU I WOULD TELL THAT GIRL WHAT UR BF DID TO YOU..SO SHE TOO CAN EXPECT THAT TO HAPPEN TO HER!!!!....YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! SEEK HELP AND SUPPORT FROM UR FRIENDS AND FAMILY. BE GLAD U FOUND OUT WHAT KIND OF *** YOUR BOYFRIEND IS!!! AND NO! HE DOESNT LOVE YOU IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE U DONT DO THAT TO THEM!!

P.S. GOODLUCK WITH EVERYTHING AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ALLRIGHT! TRUST IN GOD. OH BY THE WAY....GET THAT JERK FOR CHILD SUPPORT! THATS THE LEAST HE CAN DO :)

Answer 2

Oh. your really young. I hope your parents know.

HE shouldnt have done that too you. That is wrong. And I know what is like to shake and have a breakdown. It is so sad though becasue you were inlove with him, and he just left you, like that. They arent married so she wont be the step mom. I dont know if I have good advice. HE also should have thought about you getting pregnant when you "did it". He should have been protected! I really think you should talk to your parents and his parents. I am really sorry. I hope you get better.

Answer 3

The more stress you have the more it can hurt your baby. You deserve better. Hes sounds like a $hithead

Answer 4

this is a horrible situation and i sympathize with you. this is proof that men think a pregnancy is not their problem and leave it all on the woman to deal with like they never had a thing to do with it !  you need to talk to a trusted adult about this situation as soon as possible. such as a parent, older sibling, aunt, teacher, guidance counselor, etc. good luck sweetie.

Answer 5

Stay calm...do not have an abortion... its just wrong...stick with it and ignore others hateful comments...always think happy thoughts like ur giving life to the world. Now once uve achieved this u r ready for it. now go out ther and tell ur "ex" to go s***w himself!! I hope This Helps

Answer 6

c**p. What a scumbag the guy is. You're in a pickle, but frankly having him "onboard" with your pregnancy wouldn't be a huge help. I assume you don't have a great relationship with your parents. I also assume you are in a single parent household, are poor, and will drop out of school. All these things are bad. Good luck. Please be a better parent to your child than your parents were to you.

Answer 7

If you want by two-bits for what its worth, he's a scum-bag for leaving you then go with someone else. He has a moral & legal obligation to help you!

he has a legal obligation to you and your child. If he refuses to help you take care of your child, take it to the courts.

but more importantly, just take some time for yourself, calm yourself down and think and reflect, and try to be optimistic.

Although i can't say i understand 100%, nobody can because only you know what your feeling inside. But what i can do is sympathize, i mean its tough being so young and pregnant.

If you need help as far as taking care of the baby, theres always that legal thing between the father and you. ?But there are also teen clinics that do free procedures to make sure you have a healthy baby.

I seriously hope you feel better and cheer up.

Sincerely,

~Dave

Answer 8

i feel so bad, and that must suck. Get a phyciatrist. try talking to your boyfriend, he might have to legally help you out?

Answer 9

Whatever you do DO NOT drop out of school I was also 16 when i got pregnant and i dropped out of school and still dont have an education and I regret it everyday of my life. you can do this dont worry about him he is nothing I was in your shoes almost 8 years ago the baby daddy left me and was living with another girl i thought i was so in love and i took him back several months later guess what he left again well this went on o n for 7 years leaving me alone with our three children for several days at a time i would think what am i doing to my children and myself and one day i had enough i didn't care if i lost everything i was gettin my kids out the stressed brokenup drunkened abusive home that they were in and now i am happier than i have ever been and am fixin to go back to school and get an education so dont give up you something worth living for and this baby will give you all the encouragement you need throughout the years and dont never let anyone tell you it caint be done cause it can i did it so i know you can and if you need someone to talk too email me at [e-mail] and i will help you out any way that i can GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

no she wont be your baby's step-mom if you two aren't married she wont be related to you don't worry its hard to be a single mom in today's world but you will always have friends to help you and if you need extra help apply for a Nannie that will help you while you're pregnant and when the baby's born

Answer 11

You need to be strong for the baby. He or is is now the most important person in your life.

If he doesn’t want to be involved that’s his bad luck. He’ll miss out on a lot of wonderful moments.

Answer 12

Its not about you anymore....You have to think of him/her first now

good luck and go to college

Answer 13

i know it hurts right now, but you will find someone to love you and treat you and your baby right

Answer 14

The first thing you need to do is realize that your feelings are second to your babies. once you realize that you will see that this boy isn't someone you want in your life anyway. You need to be and stay strong for you and this life that is growing inside of you. After you read this, you need to pray. I'm not a religious person but I do believe in a high being. Pray girl. Pray your heart out and cry to him, because no one will listen like he will. after you cry for an entire night make sure you pull yourself together look in the mirror and tell yourself " you do not have more then you can handle on your plate" trust me. remember Love is GoD, God is Love

Answer 15

Same story different author. You will be fine. I'm glad it happened the way that it did. But little mama, it's the hardest thing that I have and hopefully will ever have to do. But I'm with the best guy in the world now. He's a better father for my son and were getting married. He won't leave even if I ask him to. And because he chose my son it makes there bond more special. Oh and did I mention I have the most loyal 14 month old son in the world. He's mama's boy. Don't worry about step-moms and new girlfriends. Do you...... cause as soon as little sister or little mister come out....... you have nothing.... it's all about the baby! Good Luck!

Answer 16

Seriously consider abortion.  It doesn't sound like you want this baby.  I think the best thing to do is to terminate your pregnancy.  You're pretty young and most likely not ready to raise a baby.

Answer 17

that gal will never be your baby's step mom, ahhh sorry no chance, you are going to have to suck it up, don't let that SOB get the best of you, from here on out he's a sperm donor, thank him for the present and move on, you are going to need to be super strong for your baby, show this babe you won't be knocked down, you can and will handle this and you are not alone, you have support just have to look close and if you need help still to find it, I suggest calling 211 or going to a clinic to find support groups for teenage moms, it'll be hard to say bye bye to him cause your heart always feels and acts the strongest but now you must make room in your heart for this babe, so kick this idiot out and overcome this life lesson good luck big hugs