Im having some guy trouble?

Question

i heard that one of my guy friends ivan liked me. i recently told ivan that i only liked him as a friend and he told me that he agreed that we are good just as friends. so his friend tommy started talking to me and said that he thought i was pretty and we should hang out. so i agreed because i think hes gorgeous and im interested in getting to know him better. i got a text from ivan a few minutes later and he said that im f*cked up for talking to tommy and that im a b*tch and he doesnt want to be friends with me anymore, pretty much telling me he lied about not likeing me and now he doesnt even want to talk to me as a friend. i dont know if im at fault here. i mean he said he didnt like me that way, he agreed that we are good as just friends so was i supposed to just know he didnt mean it? i think hes being really immature. why cant i talk to his friend? advice please!

Answer 1

You can talk to who ever you like. :)

that Ivan guy IS being immature!

just don't pay much attention to him hes stupid.

its not your fault at all.

Answer 2

Ivan obviously really likes you, so you need to confront him and not through text messages I mean in person and tell him how this is making you feel. He lied to you, so you're not at fault because maybe if you knew that he had those feelings for you you wouldn't have talked to his friend. He could have prevented it, but he told you you were just good friends and basically gave you the okay to talk to other guys. You did nothing wrong, but you did hear about his feelings for you but since they weren't coming directly from him you're not at fault. Just talk to him, because obviously he cares about you in a way more than a friend should.

Answer 3

Sounds like you enjoy teasing.  Stop it - Ivan obviously like you and then you decided to get with Tommy (probably to drive Ivan nuts).  Stop playing games with these dudes.    

Answer 4

guys are always lying when they say they just want to be friends when the like you.  Its yours and Tommy s' fault.  Tommy should have talked to Ivan about how he was gonna ask you out.  The only way you can right this in Ivans' mind is to break up with Tommy and talk to him only and hes gonna be hurt every time you go out with a guy that's not him and he not in a relationship.

Answer 5

hes jealous but should have told you in the first place that he did like you.

i would talk to him saying 'well, i didnt know you liked me in that way because you said you didnt. i like tommy but i dont want to loose you and i dont want to give up on tommy. you can choose what to do but i think that we are just being silly over this.'

Answer 6

i have been there and done this plenty of times. it really depends on how good of a friend ivan is, how much you like tommy, and how good tommy and Ivan's friendship is. I have ended up in this predicament twice now. and both times it ended many friendship. i learned that no friendship if worth ruining over a fling but if it more than a fling then its a different story. men are b*****s, they whine, cry, fuss and complain as much as girls do and are just as indesicive. so for future references if you even question that a guy likes you and he says he doesnt..most of the time he does but he doesnt want to admit until you say that youu like him. see my point men are b*****s just like women. lol

Answer 7

well that guy really sounds like an a*****e so if i were you i wouldnt even worry about that "ivan" guy hahaha lol

Answer 8

Well Ivan clearly kept his feelings for you hidden.  He did not want to appear hurt by your rejections, so he agreed.. "sure we can be friends.... no worries"... Talking to his friend is just to close for him.. I think you need to have a heart to heart with Ivan, and then let it go.  Jealously is an ugly emotion and can really ruin friendships, relationships, and lives.  If Ivan can not get his emotions in check then maybe you should exit this group of friends and find others.  There are plenty of guys out there to date.  give Ivan some space to get it together.  

Answer 9

Honestly the guy ivan sounds like hes 2 years old and need to grow up ALOT. its not like your married to him and so you can talk to who ever you want and I"d block his texts or texts him back and tell him you don't have time to waste on a immature lil boy and to get alife.. best of luck

Answer 10

Guy have supposed to know what women have been thinking for 100 years, without them telling us. LOL.

A little heads up. Guys are not friends with girls just because we want to be your friend..Well, unless we are like 60. You did nothing wrong though. Let him go. It would be for the best. He will always "like" you.

Answer 11

Just let go of Ivan. He's not a true friend if he flips out that way just because you don't like him. It happens all the time, and verbally abusing you is not ok. You're not at fault; no one can control their hearts and emotions, nor can HE control you for talking to tommy. Let him go before he stalks you.  

Answer 12

its not ur fault... if ivan said he only liked u as a friend, its totally out of order to suddenly go, actually i did like u! i cant believe u talkd 2 my m8! its really unfair on u; he cant punish u like this for doing something that seemed fine, until he said so afterwards. i would stick with this new guy and see how u get on. if u start going out, tell ivan and tell him its not ur fault, and that if he hated u seeing other guys he should have said so and you'd have bin mor sensitive. if u stay just friends with this other guy just say the same to ivan.

the most important thing is to give ivan a few days to cool off. i guarantee it will help.

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