Im having trouble with my mom. We argue all the time because of her ive only had one stupid sleepover in my

Question

life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Answer 1

Compromise.. and show your mom that you are a mature young lady. And will act as such if "Kate" can spend the night.

Sometimes its annoying and a big inconveinance to have your children's friends spend the night. Try to understand, tell her that you do.

Trust me, when a parent see's the teeniest bit of maturity, they'll relax in that "ive done my job".

Answer 2

It's common for mothers and teen daughters to butt heads. But it's not hopeless - someday you'll probably be great friends. I know it doesn't seem like it now.

Try not to argue back. If she says something, talk to her in a matter-of-fact way. If she says you can't do X, you can say "Why is that?" But not accusingly, just like you're asking your teacher a question. If she says "Because I said so," tell her you're old enough now to understand why, if she gives you a reason. Offer some reasons: "Do you think I'm not reliable enough?" "Do you not like my friend?" "Are sleepovers too noisy?" That will prompt her to list the reasons.

You can then negotiate with her. If she doesn't like a friend of yours, offer to limit seeing the friend. If she thinks sleepovers are too much trouble, tell her you'll clean the house ahead of time (and do it, too).

The thing that escalates arguments between mothers and daughters is when the daughter whines, compares her mother unfavorably to other mothers, and doesn't step up and take responsibility for things going on in the house.

It's a learning process. Be honest with your mother and tell her you're frustrated and you don't like all the arguing. Ask her how you both can improve things.

Answer 3

oh my idk wht to do? Im sorry

Answer 4

ok my parents dont let me do anything period get used to at least you had a sleepover I cant have freinds over period I cant even watch F.R.E.I.N.D.S jk but t watching freinds but stil I was never allowed to even listen to music Iv just recentley got into "music" the most they let me do Is watch the migthy morphing power rangers go bulk and skull

Answer 5

Well, I wouldn't be too upset about it.  Stupid sleepovers aren't really all that fun.  

So, how many regular sleepovers have ya had in your life?

Answer 6

There is nothing you can do, parents make the rules and you follow them.

Answer 7

u prob did something on ur 1st sleepover that she didnt like. datz y she doesnt let u have another 1

Answer 8

Im really sorry.

Try not to fight back.

Stay calm and I know thats hard to do but give it a try.

I hope things work out!!

Answer 9

just  tell  here

Answer 10

all your doing is telling us you have trouble with your mom and you want more sleepovers...what's your question....

im sorry, she still loves you! talk it out with her....key word, talk, no yelling. :)

Answer 11

sooo. she ruined it or she made you do it idk what ur asking

Answer 12

You'll find that life with your parents is very short in the grand scheme of things. In the meantime, be nicer and start sucking up. If she trusts you more maybe you'll get more out of her.  

Answer 13

Have you been invited to many more? If yes, how about you try to go next time without asking her. Just pack up your PJ and toothbrush and call from there saying that you're spending the night. Have your mum talk to your friend's mum so she knows there are parents there so she doesnt worry. Or have your friend's mum call saying 'is it ok if your daughter spends the night ?" Your mum might have difficulties saying no to another adult....

Either way, I dont know how old you are but perhaps you should sit down with your mum and try to have a grown up conversation with her about all the fighting. Then perhaps both of you can put in the extra effort to stop fighting..

V.  

Answer 14

well its okay. she is still your mom you just have to fet past that

Answer 15

my mom doesnt like them eitther . i know its anoying. but you know. just start asking people to come over more so she knows them and trusts them and their family more and she might let you stay over sometimes. or start going over till like 8 or 9 then she wont mind as much. you just need to talk. talk about thingsss :)

Answer 16

I argue with my Mom too. When I get a job and can support myself, I'm getting emancipated so I'll be free to do what I want when I want. My Mom likes to be bossy but when I'm emancipated, she can't control me anymore. FREEDOM!

Answer 17

There are worse things parents could be doing. Are you loved, fed, clothed with a roof over your head....if yes,think yourself lucky

Answer 18

That sucks.

I think she's not letting you go out because she probably thinks you're irresponsible. Prove to her that you're responsible with good grades, or stop arguing with her. At least try not to, tell her in a soft mannered voice, "Mom listen, I understand what you're trying to say, but I think... blah blah blah"

She'll understand over time.

Answer 19

Thats more than enough.....

Answer 20

Listen she's your mom. Sit her down and have a daughter to mother conversation. Ask for a little more freedom. Maybe even ask for what she wants in return. I want freedom to go to concerts and when I sat my mother down I asked for that and saw what she wanted in return. She just said good grades. Here I am getting great grades and going to New Jersey for a concert. When you ask for something make sure you give something. My email address is [e-mail] Please feel free to email me and tell me how it went.  

Answer 21

Do you have your own room or would the sleepover run out into the livingroom.  A lot of parents just don't want to get involved and be trouble with the whole thing of sleepovers.  Too noisy, up too late, to much laughing and playing around.  To much going in and out of the kitchen and stuff like that.  It seems so not fun but maybe that is what it will take for her to agree to have a sleepover.  Start off with just one or two friends and let your mom know that you will stick to the bedtime that she sets.  Also let here know that you and your friend will not make too much noise and will not make a mess and get up to later from staying up to late.  let here know that she won't even know you have friends over.  Maybe this is what it will take to get her use to the idea of sleepover.  Try a small quiet one at first to gain her trust and then maybe you can make it bigger.  Let her know that your friends think she is cool.  

Answer 22

Earn trust. Maybe she doesnt feel comfortable with your friends. Ask her why you cant, and ask her what you can do to earn them. And also depends on your age.

Answer 23

that's nice