Im in a great relationship now, however i had been married for 12 years to a man who was physically and ?

Question

mentally abusive to me. I have two kids with him. When i left i had no money and no place to go, so i thought i would leave the kids until i got established and at least had someplace to live and then get them. I was very naive, my ex threatened my oldest child into lying about me, so i looked like the abusive one and then filed for custody. I have a laywer an am fighting for them and its been 3 years. I miss my kids so much. I'm suppose to get visits every other weekend, but he terrorizes them trying to put rocks in my gas tank and tries to hit my car with his, fighting with me, hes suppose to stay away, but doesn't, and the cops don't do anything about it. I'm very frustrated, im missing my kids lives. I'm in a great relationship now, with a non abusive man who i know loves me. So my question is should i go back to my ex to be with my kids, or stay and keep fighting for them?

Answer 1

Stay in your great relationship and keep fighting for your kids.  You should hire a private investigator to follow your husband around and get pictures and videos of his activities, especially his temper tantrums, particularly when your husband interacts with you.  Get an evaluation of yourself by a psychiatrist.  If you can, get a court ordered evaluation done of your husband.  This would hopefully be enough evidence for you to get your children back.  I'm sure you already know that the mistake was in leaving them with an abusive father.  If the court battle continues, your only choice may be to wait until the children are old enough to walk away from their father.  

Under no circumstances should you return to an abusive relationship.   Your focus needs to be on getting the kids away from the abusive relationship with their father.

Answer 2

keep fighting for them.and get the state involved where they will pick up the kids and bring them to you.the only way the cops could do anything is if there was proof he did something.they wont go by your word against him.if its been 3 years fighting for them i don't think he is that bad a father.because if he was,they would have taken the kids away from him a long time ago.good luck.

Answer 3

Stay where you are.

You have support & love to help you fight to be with your kids. They will be better off knowing mom is there at a distance fighting for them.

Than fighting in front of them. God luck & God Bless

Answer 4

Go back to an abusive man?  You are really answering your own question.