Im in a loveless marriage,do I leave?

Question

the man Ive fallen for is in the same position only he has kids,and is just as confused as me about what to do,please help,feels like I'm going mad

Answer 1

Have you thought of talking to your husband?

Don't bring another man in to rescue you. Be grown up and talk to him.

If nothing cannot be resolved maybe it is time for you two to part separate ways.

Answer 2

do not leave. work it out with your husband. if not do not leave expecting this guy to leave his wife.  any excuse is better than non. he will stay for the kids? he is just having a affair with you.  when it all boils down he will say he is staying for the kids but  it is because he loves his wife. just want s*x from you. if you separate from your husband you should take a few months to get yourself together before jumping into another relationship.

Answer 3

If you don't have kids and know that after the divorce that you will be financally stable you should leave. Whats a marriage without love.

The divorce will of course be overwhelming and be very tough but be strong and you will have a happier life.

The man should review his life, the things he may lose, and figure his children in the equation.  

Answer 4

statistically speaking, the couples who stayed together after claiming it was over usually are much happier 3-5 years down the road. it comes in cycles.

Answer 5

I understand exactly how you feel.  I was in a loveless marriage for many years.  I have children and stayed in the marriage for them.  When they were in their teens I made the decision to end the marriage.  It was the hardest decision of my life, yet the best thing I ever did.

My advise to you is that you really think about living your life alone, not with the man you are in love with, but on your own.  are you happier envisioning that?  Are you happier with your husband?

I know you are in love right now and that may be blurring your vision of what exactly is happening in your marriage.  Please don't leave your husband for another man, leave him for yourself.  Do it only knowing that being on your own is better than staying with him.  You don't know what will happen with the other relationship.  He is in a marriage too, has children, there are many things to consider.  In most cases those relationships don't work out for very long.  

You may want to see a therapist to help you sort out exactly what you are feeling.   You don't give information on your husband and what is going on in the marriage.  Do you feel like you want to work things out with him?

Answer 6

if not for the interest in the new man u would be focusing on the marriage,it doesn't mean your not in love with your hubby, its just when someone else comes into the relationship it will confuse u.u really don't know this other man and the fact that he is married with kids, speaks volumes about his character.

Answer 7

Usually relationships like these fail. I am referring to the man you have fallen for. If you really truly are not in love with your husband and you know in your heart that you are fine without him then do what your heart says. If you get with this new man his children will most likely hate you and you have to remember that if he divorces his wife she will still be in his life permanently because of the children.Also there might be some huge trust issues and insecurities from you both because of the way you guys got together. If you're both confused don't do anything to hasty right now, your lives aren't the only ones that you will be ruining. You're already being selfish and cruel don't make it worse.

Answer 8

Do what's right.  You and your lover both.  Be honest, get divorces, and get together.  If you're both not willing to do that you're lying to eachother.

Answer 9

Leave, be together, this happened to me & now we are so happy & are getting married now the divorce is through.

Kids will get over this & maybe their life will be better if things are not right at home.

If you truly love each other then you should be together, at the moment everyone is unhappy, at least you two will find happiness & maybe the other 2 spouses will also find someone new in time.

Answer 10

You should be honest to yourselves and get a divorce. Youj do not love eachother, why be in a marriage with someone you do not love?

Answer 11

easier said than done but you need to be honest with your life.

you only come to this world once.

~MeL~

Answer 12

You should read some books and get counseling, because you do not understand what love really is. You should not up and cheat, then leave a committed marriage relationship whenever you feel like it. Why would you cast your affections into another loveless marriage, but not your own?

... you should know, that there are an endless number of married men that you could fall "in love" with ... you need to deal with the implications of that. Get counseling before you gutter yourself, your life, and harm those around you.

I've known not a few women marry and divorce several times and your thought process is checkin out that cycle, you're looking down that road. Don't go there.

Focus on your current husband, love the man you married, do whatever it takes to fix the relationship that you're in now.

Answer 13

i left my wife after 23 yrs loveless marriage stayed in there struggling at least 10yrs of it . met woman  fell in love with her and now waiting for her to leave her husband and 2 teenage children . life now is sometimes good sometimes bad. very hard . but my advice  to both of you  is leave together and start new life together at same time its too hard if only one does and waits .