Im in love with my best friend...I don't know what to do!?

Question

I've known my best friend for 7 years. This is strange, but when we first met, it was sort of like just a physical thing, and then I moved away but we kept in contact ever since and he became my best friend. The only person that I really confided in. Then I made the mistake of getting married to the wrong person. I didn't talk to him while I was married because I thought it may have been inappropriate and he completely understood and after the divorce he was always there for me. Recently, I visited him in his hometown and met some of his closest friends and it was great-like we've never been apart. Well, how he is in NYC for a year and will be moving to DC after and I was trying to decide if I wanted a job in VA area or overseas and he tried to convince me to get a job in VA to be closer to him and I said that I would move overseas for a year because I don't really have family and then he replied: "You have me". Ive hinted to him recently how I feel and a year ago he told me that he loved me. I replied back and told him I had feelings for him too but haven't spoken about it since. We aren't really big into talking about feelings...its weird. But now I feel like if I move to VA things could work out with us, but I am scared that he may not feel the same way anymore about me! What would you guys do in my shoes?

Answer 1

If I were in your shoes I'd want to grow up and start thinking and acting like a woman instead of a 12 year old girl with a crush on a boy.

Answer 2

He does feel the same way! Read your own post! That`s how my wife and I got together, 17 years married, 23 together and counting..you`ll never know unless you try. You are divorced now, right? A little difficult to decipher that part...

Answer 3

iam also facing this problum arround 2 years.here opposite to u .my friend express(shell we marrage) me last year.i would be shocked..because she is my best friend arround 6 years.so i was not accepted.. then she avoid me in few months.In that time i feeled "no life without her"...then immedetly told her ,i want u in my entire life...then she happy..and agree to marry.....  

Answer 4

he wants you to move closer to him and he did say you will have me isn't that enough go for it it is only 1 year of your life if it doesn't work out that's better then wondering for the next 50 yrs  ask him questions and you should open up to him tell him you will only move to va only for him and ask him do you think that is a good choice then you Will  know the only reason people don't talk emotional stuff is because they don't want to get hurt but your hurting now

Answer 5

I would move overseas...unless he gave me a big diamond.

Answer 6

If you don't go overseas i think that will be a very big mistake don't ever give up your dreams just to be with someone your not quite sure of his feelings for you. Just suppose you do move to VA and things don't work out for the two of you then what will you do? On the other hand lets say you do choose him and things are going good but then after around the two year mark when his feelings start to fade and your stuck in VA or DC with a man you thought would always love you. A year is nothing to give up when you have the rest of your life to get together he will be there a year from now.