Im in the 9th grade and im ready ro start dating. How do i convince my mom?

Question

I was talking to my friend and she asked if i had a bf i said no she said y not i said im not allowed i said are u she said YEA MY MOM TRUSTS ME. ever since she said that ive been tryna think of things to do to make my momma trust me more. you all dont kno how bad that hurt me. are there any other ways? i mean im not a sl*t and im in all ADVANCED classes. ive never had a a bf just crushses and yes im a virgin and plan to be. how can i ask her to let me start dating? and what would be any guidelines or rules you'd have to let ur 14/15 y/o daughter date? HELP ME and please give a lot of details

Answer 1

It's not a question of trusting you, sweetie -- it's a question of being able to trust people that she DOESN'T know with her precious daughter.  Frankly, I don't think that your bf's mother is doing her any favors, allowing her to go out with boys at her age.  

My daughter was allowed to go out on group dates at 14 -- but only if I was there, too.  Usually, they went to the movies, and I'd go, too, but sit somewhere else in the theatre.  If they went bowling, I would drive, and stay at the bowling alley with a book while they played.

When she was 15-1/2, she was allowed to go out on one-on-one dates -- but only if they were back by 10 pm -- that meant the early movie. The summer she was 16, she was allowed to go out on one-on-ones and stay out until midnight -- AS LONG AS I KNEW THE BOY.  No running off in cars with kids I didn't know!

It's NOT a trust thing, hon, believe me -- it's desperately trying to keep you safe and keeping you from landing into situations you may not be emotionally prepared to handle.  

Answer 2

let your mom know that you wouldnt go out with the kind of guys that all they are in for is s*x. and not all guys are like that. im goin to be 15 this next wednesday, and i have no intentions of dating a girl just to go have s*x with her or anything else that is a teenaged girls dads worst nightmare (except some kissing lol) let your mom know that your judgement is better than that. if you act more like an adult, then a guy will like you more becuase of that (the right one, you know) let her know that you would pick a boyfriend that is responsible. they wont believe you at first, but if they truly trust you enough, they will understand. and trust me not all teenage boys are looking for s*x. i can most definately garuntee you that

Answer 3

have an adult talk with you mother. ask why she won't let you date and to explain everything in detail.

at like an adult and she will have to be an adult.

keep calm and never lose your cool and voice does not go up in volume.

but don't date because everyone else it. thats childish. date because you meet someone that you want to get to know.

i didn't go one my first date until i was 18 (of my own choice) , i asked the guy out myself and 7 months later were still together bf and gf.