Im jealous of my sister and friends having babys?

Question

Im a mom of 4 happy and healthy boys I wouldnt trade them for anything but I cant help to want another one since my sister and sis in law and friend all just had babies. I hate it I wish it was me but I know 4 is alot. Is it bad that I wish I could get the hubby to want another and is it horrible I keep thinking that its just not fair that I didnt have a girl? Please any advice would help.

Answer 1

I think you just feel left out.

You shouldn't have another child for the h**l of it though. =/

EDIT: If you like big families, maybe try fostering?

Or maybe even adoption if you're able to go through with the process. You'll help those children out there get a wonderful home.

Answer 2

Well, it's understandable to want to have a baby girl, when others close to you just did. But there's not much that you can do in this situation-- you're blessed with 4 healthy boys, and that's that. So, if you and your husband want another kid, fine. But I recommend thinking about it for a while before doing anything. The feeling of jealousy will most likely pass after sometime. Use that emotion & energy into raising your boys.

Answer 3

I know how you feel I had both my kids by the time I was 18 and didn't end up marrying him (TG LOL) I also now have 2 step kids making it a total of 4 BUT my husband had a vasectomy in his previous marriage and now we can't have any together and it makes me feel so very sad and left out.  I am now 28 and wish that he and I could have one together even though we have "4".

Answer 4

you could foster a kid or adopt

do some good in the world and help out other kids that need it instead of creating more babies....just a thought

Answer 5

Well, 4 kids these days is a lot...or any day for that matter, but that is just my opinion.  Only you and your husband know if you can handle another child.  I think you are just reliving the days of the excitement of being pregnant, being a new mom, the wonders of the new family member, etc.  It's not wrong to want that again, especially if you really have your heart set on having a girl.  Just make sure that you stay fully honest with your husband about your feelings and have some serious talks about it.  If it is going to cause a strain in your marriage and home (which will cause a strain for everyone) it's not worth it.  All that said, there's nothing abnormal to be a little jealous of things like this, as long as you're not green with envy in a negative way.  It's okay to want and discuss.  Good luck with your decision :)

Answer 6

My Mom went through that ... and here I am!  I was 6 years behind her fourth child.  My Aunt had a new baby, and my Mom got jealous, and wanted a baby too!  I understand your desires.  I wanted more children after my Twins were born (16 Years Ago, 2 Girls) and my husband said "No Way!"  I was unhappy (with him) FOR YEARS.  I'm over it now.  They are driving us crazy, and we can't wait to be ALONE again.  LOL!  It's hard to deal with, I know.  Best Wishes to you!  <3

Answer 7

aww! just remember they've gotta have there turn to. why not have another if you've got the time and money.

Answer 8

The bigger the family, the better. Do it, if not you will always ask yourself why you didnt!