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GRRRRRRRRRRRR I hate my life sometimes. I have given up so much for my boyfriend. I gave up my family, I gave up my friends, I gave up everything just to be with him. I am so stupid. Now here we are living together, we've been dating for 1 year and 7 months. I have given him my virginity, and he just doesnt understand me at all.

He never talks to me nice, he never makes me feel loved like he used to. I dont know why everything has changed so much.. I just dont know what to do anymore, I gave this guy my virginity, and now he doesnt give a d**n about me anymore. We live together and we both dont have cars, and he will just tell me to leave. He has kicked me out so many times. My parents dont really want me to live wth them because they say to me "you chose jake now you have to stay with him" It just really sucks I wish I never dated him.......I gave up so much for him, and he doesnt even really care about me Like for example...he goes to this certain gas station because this girl works there, and every time I ask him about it hes just like "no thats where ive always gone" but i know he goes there just because this one flirty b*tch works there. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr i am so much prettier then him, hes ugly, big nose skinny... ugly. i am just so frustertated because i am so pretty and nice and i love him so much and he doesnt even give me the time of day. I feel like im stuck with him because i have nowhere else to go, I dont have a car so i cant get a job, i live in a tiny town and all the jobs are an hour away so i cant walk to work. I just feel so alone, nobody to vent to, nobody that understands me. I HATE MY LIFE ...............i hate myself for giving him a chance. now here i am feeling sad and hes just sitting there playing video games with not a care in the world.

he doesnt even care about me, i ask him a question and he doesnt even respond with an caring answer. i am just so mad and sad , i wish i wish with a guy that actually cared about me truely.

Answer 1

If you hate your life so much do something about it. Seriously, I'm not trying to be rude. Do you pay half the rent at this place that you are living at with him? Put your foot down with guys, I've had to learn this the hard way. My husband now even still sometimes tries to walk all over me but you don't have to take it. You teach people how to treat you and obviously you have taught him that it's ok to treat you like c**p and you will still be around. So start going with another guy, he obviously thinks it's ok to go "flirt" with that girl, and let me tell you something honey, if he is going there as much as you say he is, he's not flirting with her, he's doing her. So I would tell him he needs to leave you alone, if you are still giving it up to him cause you think it will keep him around you are sadly mistaken, he just does it with you because you have a v****a to stick it in. So tell him to shove it up his a** and stay there but just as room-mates until you can afford to go somewhere else.  

Answer 2

get a new guy he doesnt give two s***s about you now which is not kool at all and im sure your parents still love you parents always worry about thier kids no matter what happens. im sure if you talk to your mom she will talk to you and make you feel better just like any mom would. most guys arent like this and he is just an *** soon he is start beating you or something he is already ignoring you which is not good for your relationship i would just try to phone your parents and see what they could do its worth a shot better than being there

Answer 3

I think you should leave him and not worry about what happens to him at all. Find an agency that will help you get a job and a house, because obviously your parents won't. They're basically leaving you up sh*t creek with no paddle. If you move away from him you can find a job and new friends who do care about you. You can also email me if you want someone to talk to.

Answer 4

Dammmm.. That sucks. What a jerk. At least your venting though. Your parents should love you enough to know you need out. Tell your bf what a jerk he is. I would. Vent to him. Scream at him.. I would even if he kicked me out. Its his loss honey

Answer 5

wow thats pretty crappy. how old are you? you should call your mom, every woman has made a bad choice when it comes to men. im sure she would understand you. call her and tell her everything that is going on, and tell her you want to come home. tell her you will get a job and pay rent until you can get on your own two feet. tell her that if you dont leave him now you are afraid the rest of your life will be wasted. then just cry alot. she will pitty u and tell you to come home. i would if i was your momma. like i said i think every woman has made at least one mistake when it comes to a guy. good luck sweety

Answer 6

he sounds horrible!!

I would leave him.

i hope you have a better day tomorrow!

Answer 7

Talk to him about it. If that doesn't work, break up with that JERK! Worst comes to worst, you live with a friend or your parents. At least you'll be happy.

Answer 8

I think you should move to the city, get a job there, meet new people and start your life over again. Meet someone who can love you the way you are, who definitely won't kick you out of anywhere and I don't suggest living with your boyfriend, I think it's a bad idea plus I find it much more fun to live somewhere else and have the big surprise and excitement of seeing your boyfriend then seeing him in your own house everyday. In conclusion.......find someone new, get a new ambiance, job, hobby, distraction. good luck, hope this brightens your day!

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Answer 9

Well the best thing I think you can/should do is to tell your parents that if they truly loved you and cared about you that they would let you come back home. Say that you don't deserve to be on the street and you don't deserve to be with him. You made a mistake. You are human. Ask them to let you please move back in and you will help pay rent or something. After you negotiate with them and they do let you back in, just go get your stuff from that guys house and tell him in the face or by note that you are leaving, and go back home. If it comes down to it, try to move in with grandma, an aunt, a cousin, or someone you know you can trust and offer to help pay rent something so they don't feel like you are living off of them. :) This is your life so you need to do everything possible to gain back control of it. Best of luck.

Answer 10

tomorrows a brand new day. maybe you should start a journal and write down all your feeling and what happened during the day, it really helps trust me. email me if you want to talk.

Answer 11

sweetheart... i was in the same situation when i was younger...  can i tell you something?

you need help.  you cannot throw your life away for affection, lust and what you think right now is love.   if you do not act, and act quickly, your life will only spiral even more out of control, and i am very very worried for you.

you need to go back home to your parents.  i know you dont want to, i know you say they do not want you too, but let me tell you, no parent would turn a child away for making a mistake.  you need to go to them, tell them that you did not completely know what you were getting yourself into, and that you are sorry and would like to come home.  it will take a lot of strength and courage to do so, but it needs to be done.  

as far as jake is concerned, he is a child would wants a piece whenever he can get it.  he needs to grow up, and you need to cut all ties off completely.  he is not good for you, or anyone at this point of his life, and may very well never be.   you said it yourself.. .  go back and read what you wrote, as if you were a stranger reading  it... what advice would you give that person?  ok, then do it.  

i am not speaking as a parent, or a friend, or a stranger, or a teacher, or a preacher or someone who knows it all... i am none of those things to you... i am speaking as someone who has lived that life.  as someone who had enough brains and courage and strength and faith to overcome the situation and get through it, and beat it, before it could beat me.  i know in my heart that if i had stayed with him in that thing i could barely call a life, then i would not be alive today.  i would be dead  to the world.  but i made it.  i sucked it up, did what i had to do, and made it.  i left him, i went home, i made things right with my family and friends, i grew the heck up, i went to college, had many jobs in the meantime, got a great degree i paid for on my own with hard work, bought my own home, and met the man of my dreams.... he loves me, cares for me, trusts me, i trust him, honors me, treats me with only respect, is the best thing to ever happen to me... i married him.  the next step is to have children.. and each night i pray that my kids will not fall into the same trap you and i both fell into... because it is almost impossible to get out of... but not completely impossible.. just very difficult and worth the battle... i got out... your turn.   :)    good luck my darling.  i have faith in you.  

p.s.  my parents came from a VERY  old fashioned country.. i was still taken back.

Answer 12

I'm so sorry! Life can be mean!

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Good luck!

Answer 13

Did he ever treat you nicely,or are you just trying to convince yourself that he once did?

If you aren't happy together, dump him and move on.  No sense in wasting any more time on a relationship that has no future.