Im keeping two baby books one of our journey with baby and one for ....?

Question

One is for baby and us and one if for baby with its other mommy, pictures of her preggy and all that good stuff. Do you think this is a good idea...? Personally i do, and so does the other mommy. Since she wont be around i dont see why not but some people have given me static for it.

Answer 1

IGNORE what other people think... People actually told me I was wrong to breast feed my son....because I was a single mom...

You are giving her and the baby the most WONDERFUL gift by doing what you are doing... DO IT OUT OF LOVE and SHARE WITH HER as much as you can because she is giving you the ultimate gift.

I say giving the child and its birth mother a small sense of connection is a beautiful gesture and will make it easier down the road if ever they want to find one another...

BLESS YOU

and GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I think that is one of the loveliest choices you can do.

Answer 3

It's a wonderful idea.  For some reason, adoption used to be considered somehow shameful.  Weird, huh?  Some people still don't get that adoption is often a loving option.  Go for it, and don't let the bozos keep you from enjoying both the pregnancy and the raising of your child.

Answer 4

it depends on  what age you intend to give it to the baby i see nothing wrong as long as it is presented at the right age to young and they will be mixed up

Answer 5

this is a FANTASTIC idea!! you have to understand that people that are not involved in an adoption sometimes just dont get it. they think all adoptees should be hostile and feel abandoned. of course this is not true.

you make your book and just dont tell anyone. its none of their business. i promise, one day that baby will thank you for your efforts, and isn't that more important than worrying about anyone elses opinion now?

Answer 6

People will give you static no matter what, so just do what feels right. My son's first mom made a beautiful book...more than a scrapbook...pics of her and bdad as children, poems, song lyrics, ticket stubs of concerts he "attended" in utero, letters from relatives and friends, pics of the area he was conceived and born in, pics of her pregnant with him. She is working on his birth story now. It makes me cry just writing about it. I hope he cherishes it as I do when he's old enough.

She is around though, she visits as do other family members, but those events and places and people are a part of his life too, a part we did not share with him so can't remember for him, and I am glad she gave them to him since I can't. We have a separate book as well, for our life with him.

Answer 7

I think it's a marvelous idea especially if his birth mother won't be there to share his life later.  Any thoughts she has while pregnant, pictures of her and her family, information she can share all written in her own hand will be incredibly important to the child someday.

Answer 8

Sadly, there are a lot of people out there who are stuck in the old school system of adoption (birthmom should not exsist).  I recently placed my baby for adoption at birth and I have an older daughter still in my care.  I was not financially or emotionally ready for a 2nd child.  The couple that adopted my baby have photos of me and my older child for the baby when she is older (they admitted to a lot of static from their family and friends for wanting to tell her about me).  What you are doing is wonderful.  It shows your child that he/she has two mommies that love him/her very much.  Baby's birthmommy loved baby enough to give baby a life she could not give.  Best of luck to you in the journey of parenthood!!!!!

Answer 9

I think if you like the idea then do it. I did not do that for my son's birth mother but I do send her pictures and letters with info on what he is doing every few months

Answer 10

ABSOLUTLY!!!!!  Its great you even have pictures of her pregnancy.  Hopefully she can write baby a letter or something too.  My family has been touched by a lot of adoption and the one thing that ALWAYS comes up is "what about my birth mom?".  Don't let anyone give you static...the baby will be better rounded for knowing ALL sides of the story when she grows up.  btw, i'm also in the process of adopting a baby and only wish i had that sort of info from the birth mom.

Answer 11

I think it is a great idea. At some point in the child's life they may want to know about her. From here on out  you have to learn to do what you think is right, go with your gut and let it roll off what everyone says. Once you have kids people think they have the right to give their opinion, asked for or not. I wish I had stood up sooner!! And congratulations on the baby!!

Answer 12

Of course it is appropriate and a good thing!  

Out of repsect to the privacy of your child's birth family, and also out of respect to your child, who may choose to pick and choose who he/she shares really personal adoption information with -- the two books idea is a great one.

You know what?  You are a parent!  You need to get your backbone in gear, and start standing up for YOUR family.  Start now standing up for your family, your child.  

And what could possibly be wrong with something that you and your child's birthmother have agreed upon?  Go for it!!