Im living with my cousin for 6month but she is sensitive, has an attitude & can be very rude how do i cope?

Question

sometimes i just ignore it but other times i was to yell at her but i know its not going to fix anything so i wait it out and if i cant i have to do something to relieve the anger. she gets extremely offended at small things. she is very sensitive. she is extremely picky. she makes doesnt like people who she is jealous of. she is bossy. sometimes my dad will joke around with her trying to annoy her purposly but instead of laughing she gets angered and yells at him. her mom is the same way. im scared living with her is going to make me this way or going to cause arguments. anyway i can change her a bit? or deal with her??????

(if you cant tell im mad at her right now >:| )

Answer 1

Try not to respond to anger in anger.  It sounds as though you have different personalities and by responding to her anger with yours, you are simply inflamming hers.  While you do know some things irritate her, it would not be advantageous to intentionally aggitate her. Instead, commenting in a more favorable manner.

Try to find some common grounds where you may be able to meet and discuss. I am not saying that you Should walk on thin ice and not say what you think, but state that it is your opinion and you should accept responsibility for what you are saying.   Don't apologize for expressing your opinion, - you have as much right to yours  as she does hers.

If her comments offend you personally, you should let her know that you are offended, and ask what she meant by what she said.  But, never ask "WHY?" That is a very accusatory word, and causes the other person to become defensive.

All of your comments are about how she had behaved, but not about how you did. Can you accept some of the responsibility for the animosity between the two of you?

Once you do, I feel they two of you can start to resolve your differences.