Im losing my best friend :(?

Question

Ive been best friends with this girl for 14 years..the best 14 years of my life lol. But these days she drink drives, smokes and does some drugs. Shes put my life at risk by making me get in a car with her drunk friend, and her drunk friend wouldnt let me drive. I worry about her constantly because not only is she putting her life at risk, but everyone elses around her. I have a career to concentrate on and she gets mad at me because i dont go clubbing with her during the week. I dont know I love her so much but is it time to let go?

thanks guys :)

Answer 1

I think if she's put YOUR life at risk, then obviously she's not a good friend at all.

You sound like a really caring person.

You gotta think to yourself, in ten years time where do you want to be?

Do your plans include her?

etc.

Maybe it's time to let go, not all friendships last forever.

:)

Answer 2

No. As you said, shes been your bestie for 14 YEARS. That's long. I'm only 14. But, you said you love her so much, so it's going to be really hard. She's putting her own life at risk. Don't be involved (which is what you did right) as you'd encourage her and she'll drag you into it, but be a role model for her. You can't just leave her in a dark corner.

Talk to her. Confront her. It's a very hard time, but hopefully you'll open her eyes. You've been her best friends for ages now, so you must know her perso and what she likes.

Answer 3

dump her! she sounds like a loser!

Answer 4

Let Go And Let God.  Stop putting your life at risk.

Think abou how many times a drunk driver kills an innocent person, yet survives the crash themselves.  Its uncanny, but I'd say it happens more often than not.

Explain to your friend the gravity of the situation you believe she is in.  Plant the seed of joining AA in her mind.

Tell her she needs to do something before she kills herself or someone else.

Its not easy, most addicted people need to hit bottom before they will listen.  Get some AA pamphlets,  put them in her mailbox if you don't want to hand them to her.  Ask GOD to direct her into AA.  Then. leave it up to HIM.

(You can get AA pamphlets from any AA meeting, or look up AA General Services on the internet)

Answer 5

ITS CALLED GROWING UP,,,N LOOKS LIKE URE FRIEND NEEDS TO GROW UP,,N UNTIL SHE CHANGES HER LIFE STYLE,,,THERES NOTHING YOU CAN DO,,,SO I WOULD STOPPUTTING MY LIFE IN DANGER,,CAUSE SHE THINGS SHES BEING COOL...PEACE

Answer 6

Your best friend right? It is time to do your responsibility as a best friend. Take her alone somewhere and tell her face to face that you do not like what she does.  If she agrees to redeem herself, then fine. If not try to get her fine for a while. If she does not correct herself, then you must cut your relationship with her. As a best friend of hers this is the best that you can do.